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Old 05-13-2019, 06:27 PM
Machinaforce is offline
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Originally Posted by kanicbird View Post
And I assume from this post is that's what is bothering you?

Given this my suggestion would be to find out what is a 'friend' and see if your current friends fit that definition. Now how about to find out what is a friend, that is your journey and if you wish to explore it. In that I can give my own experience.

I thought I knew what a friend was, and thought I had friends. I undertook a long journey/pilgrimage and found out in short that friends don't leave one lonely, it is a continuous knowing that they are there and you are in their hearts, and that ends loneliness. There is a synergy also that the times you get together is mutually positive with positive after effects, not a longing for more, nor not a demand to be seen. We tend to focus on the wrong people when we count our friends.
I have a solid grasp on what real friends are, rather my issue is that pursuing them is viewed as unhealthy. The same way that Buddhism (in a sense) view imagination as wrong and not living in reality. Like different things mean something to me and when I listen to music I get transported or start painting things in my head. But Buddhism would have me think that such things are wrong and you are living in delusion.

Personally it sounds like “delusion” might be a happier place to be.


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