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Old 07-24-2011, 02:23 PM
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A woman who likes younger men is a cougar- what's a younger man who likes older women?

Is there a specific term? I'm not talking about gigolos or hustlers or "dudes with mommy issues" but men who are legitimately attracted to women older than they are.
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Old 07-24-2011, 02:33 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 02:33 PM
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A younger man who is with an older woman is called a cub. I don't know that there is a term for a young man who is attracted to older women.
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Old 07-24-2011, 02:47 PM
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A bastard or the opposite of a bastard? It's so rare that it doesn't need a name yet, young men are not that picky as far as which age the woman is.
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Old 07-24-2011, 02:57 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 03:01 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 03:14 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 05:03 PM
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Let's go to the quarry and throw stuff down there! I thought the exact same thing, but then found that you had ninja'd me by three and a half years.
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Old 07-24-2011, 07:26 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 05:12 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 04:03 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 05:15 PM
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Don't know if it applies to the real world, but TV Tropes calls them Cake Eaters.
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Old 07-24-2011, 05:29 PM
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Don't know if it applies to the real world, but TV Tropes calls them Cake Eaters.
But that's because it calls older single women Christmas Cake. And older means over 25, as its an anime trope.

As funny as they may seem. Melon's and Mala's suggestions are actually pretty accurate.

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Old 07-24-2011, 05:53 PM
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Don't know if it applies to the real world, but TV Tropes calls them Cake Eaters.
TV Tropes, in my experience, is largely comprised of stuff someone made up and is hoping will become a common expression because he put it on TV Tropes.
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Old 07-25-2011, 06:01 PM
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TV Tropes, in my experience, is largely comprised of stuff someone made up and is hoping will become a common expression because he put it on TV Tropes.
So you don't read through the examples, or you misunderstand the point of the site.
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Old 07-25-2011, 06:53 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 05:19 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 05:24 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 06:12 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 06:15 PM
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Old 07-25-2011, 10:49 AM
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A MILF Hunter.
This. It doesn't matter whether the older woman actually has kids.

Cub is usually a term that is used from the cougar's perspective as I understand it. I don't think a guy who is into older women would refer to himself as a cub.

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Old 07-25-2011, 10:56 AM
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Old 07-25-2011, 11:08 AM
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Old 07-25-2011, 02:00 PM
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A younger man who is with an older woman is called a cub. I don't know that there is a term for a young man who is attracted to older women.
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since cougars have cubs then the obvious name for a young man looking for an older woman would be cub scout.
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Cub is usually a term that is used from the cougar's perspective as I understand it. I don't think a guy who is into older women would refer to himself as a cub.
Mmm no, not so much. Cub is a gay sex term.
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Old 07-24-2011, 06:33 PM
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Old 07-24-2011, 09:31 PM
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since cougars have cubs then the obvious name for a young man looking for an older woman would be cub scout.
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Old 07-24-2011, 10:23 PM
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since cougars have cubs then the obvious name for a young man looking for an older woman would be cub scout.
Wouldn't he be a gay dude looking to bang a guy whose mom is a whore? Kind of specific.
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Old 07-24-2011, 09:39 PM
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Geezer pleaser?

Or is that just for aficionados of older men
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Old 07-24-2011, 09:45 PM
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I suggest cougee.
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Old 07-25-2011, 02:09 PM
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Where I live they're called cubs, but it doesn't seem to be as well-established a term as MILF or cougar.
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Old 07-25-2011, 02:10 PM
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Where I live they're called cubs, but it doesn't seem to be as well-established a term as MILF or cougar.
It's a very well-established term. It just doesn't mean what you think it means (see post above).
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Old 07-25-2011, 02:21 PM
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It's a very well-established term. It just doesn't mean what you think it means (see post above).
Good thing words never have two meanings, right?
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Old 07-25-2011, 02:32 PM
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Good thing words never have two meanings, right?
Thing is, when they have a very specific sexual connotation (especially when the far more commonly accepted meaning is a homosexual one) most people don't want to leave any room for confusion. If you look at the ratings on UD, the gay definition has 432 thumbs up and 129 down, while the "young man who likes older women" definition has 8 thumbs up and 17 down. Not popular.
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Old 07-26-2011, 12:14 PM
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Good thing words never have two meanings, right?
Oh, don't be such a bear.
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Old 07-25-2011, 10:40 PM
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In Japan, they are called swallows. I'm not sure of the nuances or whether it is in common use now.
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Old 07-25-2011, 10:49 PM
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:10 AM
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:32 AM
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Old 07-26-2011, 11:07 AM
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I've heard and second "boy toys," although more precisely it suggests the male equivalent of "arm candy."
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Old 07-26-2011, 11:18 AM
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Old 07-26-2011, 02:14 PM
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Cougar hunter?
This is what I've always heard. And there are T-shirts that support it. I can't figure out why no one knew it until post #41!
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Old 03-01-2014, 10:00 PM
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I'm 22, my lady will be 29 in a few days, I was 21 when we started dating. I typically prefer women who are in this range (27-30). I've only been in a serious relationship with a woman close to my age once, she was 22 is now 23 and we still stay in age. I find I can go on a date or two with women who are close in age to me, maybe even mess around with them but it never gets serious.

Me and my lady often joke about the age difference, and at first it was a "thing" in our relationship but now not so much. Are we at different stages in our life: yes, do we work through it: yes. But really I love dating older women and me and her both are still big kids at heart anyways.
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Old 03-01-2014, 10:19 PM
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I'm 22, my lady will be 29 in a few days, I was 21 when we started dating. I typically prefer women who are in this range (27-30). I've only been in a serious relationship with a woman close to my age once, she was 22 is now 23 and we still stay in age. I find I can go on a date or two with women who are close in age to me, maybe even mess around with them but it never gets serious.

Me and my lady often joke about the age difference, and at first it was a "thing" in our relationship but now not so much. Are we at different stages in our life: yes, do we work through it: yes. But really I love dating older women and me and her both are still big kids at heart anyways.
You're not at different stages in your life; you're both in your 20s. Different stages in life would be someone who is 29 dating someone who is 48, or someone who is 40 dating someone who is 24, both of which I did. 22 and 29? Puh-leeze.
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Old 03-02-2014, 10:52 AM
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Old 03-02-2014, 11:05 AM
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In the novel Waiting to Exhale, Bernadine takes up with a boy-toy and describes him as a tenderino.

Looking at urban dictionary, it doesn't appear to have taken off.

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Old 03-02-2014, 11:21 AM
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Is there a specific term? I'm not talking about gigolos or hustlers or "dudes with mommy issues" but men who are legitimately attracted to women older than they are.
Just wondering....why do we assume "mommy issues" (or I suppose "daddy issues" for women) are incompatible with "legitimately [being] attracted" to someone?

Each of us likes what we like, for a complex mix of evolutionary, hormonal, psychological, and cultural factors (and some measure of free choice, I guess). You might be shaped by the experience of an absent parent, and that might shape the kind of person you're attracted to, but none of that means the attractions aren't 'real' or 'legitimate'.
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Old 03-02-2014, 08:41 PM
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I've used the term cub, and have seen some dating site screennames that include the word cub (Cutecub, TallCub ) of young men who make it abundantly clear they only wish to meet women over age 40.
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Old 03-02-2014, 09:47 PM
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Being such a kind of man myself, please allow me to name us 'connoiseurs'....
I definitely believe that suits the characterization of younger men adoring older women...:P
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Being such a kind of man myself, please allow me to name us 'connoiseurs'....
I definitely believe that suits the characterization of younger men adoring older women...:P
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