Typically, they’re the same as a prenuptual agreement, although in this case, since he’s been married three times already and has no desire to go that route again, there will be nothing akin to a wedding - which is fine with me.
Tonight, we had to start discussing a cohabitation agreement, which he says he should’ve really done when I moved in, but now that he’s considering buying a new house down int he LA/BevHills area, it’s a little more urgent.
Basically, he’s a CEO. The agreement says things like I will never have claim on any part of his company (I don’t want it - he built it into a success before I even knew him - and I am not litigious anyway), that the house is/will not be mine (he’s buying it - why would I want it if I am not paying for it?) and other things to that effect.
I guess my problem with this is that it’s painful - like, after all this time, you feel the need to do this? When you know I am not after these things anyway? It’s all legalese, which is cold and distancing, I felt insulted and hurt, and it made me cry. When I addressed my issues (not moving out in 3 days if we break up, I get 30, per CA law, and I want it in writing), that my job is not contingent upon our relationship (he’s not really that involved with the 'zine anyway), and some other small things, he got really angry with me, like I was stupid or something and yelled at me for getting upset, and claimed it insulted him and yelled that I know nothing about the law, etc…
I’ve never had to sign one of these things. Basically, he’ll have it drawn up, then pay for me to go see my OWN lawyer to look it over and explain it to me and I can go back to BF with any issues, etc.
Has anyone ever signed one of these things? Am I wrong for feeling initially the way I did? This is a make-or-break point, cause if I don’t sign, basically, I don’t move with him when he buys a house and likely would have to be out before then. Which, LEGALLY makes sense, but emotionally stings like a mother fu**er.
He claims that this is just something that people like him in positions like him (CEOs and the like) have to do this to protect their stuff. I already SAID I don’t want his stuff. And the times we fought about breaking up, I never threatened that I wanted his stuff…
I dunno. I have to decide a) whether to sign, b) if I was over-emotional in my reaction and owe an apology, and c) if it’s really even worth it at this point.
My heart says yes about C. I am not sure about A & B.
Any thoughts?
Inky
feeling a tad isolated