No boxed spoilers because the movie is a 20 year old remake.
I’m watching this movie, which I’ve seen dozens of times over the years, but this time is different. On tonight’s viewing, I’m having a very different reaction than I have had in the past.
God help me, but I sympathize with George. In the movie, the Banks are depicted as upper middle class, far less wealthy than their future son-in-law’s family who lives in Bel Aire. George’s daughter wants a big wedding, which I suppose I understand, but at $250/head and over 500 guests, that was over $125,000. In today’s money, that’s over $200,000. Later in the movie, George’s wife (Diane Keaton) tells George that they could afford it because she doesn’t drive an expensive car or wear expensive jewelry. But still–one gets the idea that this wedding is really going to set the Banks back by a lot.
The writers’ intention, I think, is to create a romantic comedy with George as the uptight, worrying father who just needs to get the stick out of his ass and “go with the flow” (a quote from the movie), even though his concerns about budget are valid by any reasonable standard. To really drive the point home, the writers put in a scene with George picking up a magazine off of his sleeping daughter’s chest. She’s been reading an article in a bridal mag about how to have a wedding on a budget. The purpose of this scene is to show that George is a real jerk for being concerned about money. Heaven forbid they try to save money on a wedding by hiring a friend take the pictures. And how dare George balk at paying for 8 round-trip tickets from Denmark so his future son-in-law’s family can come over, because it’s tradition donchaknow that the bride’s family pays for everything.
Furthermore, George’s very real concerns about the wedding planner’s costly decisions are pitched as George just being a stick in the mud. Of course! Just let the planners do whatever the fuck they want, because it’s a wedding, and Daddy’s Little Girl deserves it Moving all the furniture out to bring in chairs, renting swans, and drilling holes in the ceiling, buying new tuxes, etc–all just run-of-the-mill wedding stuff.
I would feel so guilty about making my parents spend this much on a wedding, and I’m really wondering if I’m the only one. Obviously, the movie was a hit, so it rang true to a lot of people.
Am I alone here?