This popped up in my news feed yesterday. Its an article detailing how Halle Berry was ordered to pay her ex-husband, a Canadian model, the sum of $16000 per month for their 6 year old daughter Nahla*.
The cost of raising a child from birth to 18, according to the USDA in 2013, is only $241080. Ms. Berry will have paid that amount by summer of next year. While inflation makes the true value at just north of $300000, its still only a 2.6% increase from the previous year. Here’s a breakdown of how much the $241080 will be per year, according to CNN Money.
By any definition, Halle Berry is overpaying, but we see such overpayment all the time. Dennis Rodman was busted for not paying $500000 to his ex-wife for their 2 pre-teen kids. This article talks about the fight NBA star Chris Bosh had been having with his ex-wife for their child. She claimed she was facing foreclosure for his “paltry” payment of $2600 a month. Before taxes, that’s $31200 a year! Its like this kid got a job, and a better one than minimum wage! Would she be complaining of foreclosure if the kid got out of her diapers and went to work everyday? Its free money she’s getting! With no rent to pay, I’m sure the kid can survive comfortably from birth to 18 on $31200 a year!
The message is clear: if you’re rich and can afford it, child support amount is tied to your wealth. Berry is worth about $70 million, according to celebritynetworth.com, so $16000 a month is nothing to her. Nevermind that her ex-husband is worth $4.5 million himself, more money that most of us will ever see.
I think its unfair and frankly stupid to tie child payments to the value of one of the parents to increase the price. I can understand the reasoning of decreasing the payments if both parents are poor, but not increasing it if the parent is rich. If you’re poor, you just can’t pay, money won’t magically appear because of a court ruling. However, if you’re rich, that doesn’t mean your kid needs to be clothed in cashmere onesies, Italian leather sandals, and a diamond tiara. Your kid is the same as any other kid.
I’m not convinced by arguments that the child needs to maintain their lifestyle. I’ve no problems with a rich kid whose parents get divorced and suddenly he has to walk to school and eat peanut butter & jelly sandwiches for lunch. It feels like we’re fleecing the richer parent to subsidize the kids’ lifestyles while most people would see the obvious problem if we made the same argument that the government and the taxpayers much subsidize every child’s lifestyle to “rich” to prevent “harming” him.
And lets drop any antiquated notion of “if they don’t want to pay, they shouldn’t have kids”. Its akin to telling women if they didn’t want to be assaulted, they shouldn’t dress like that, or they can’t get an abortion because if they didn’t want to have kids, they shouldn’t have sex. Punishment, and that’s what this is, should fit the crime. Its disproportional that rich parents have to pay more for kids and their only recourse is to either be poor or not have kids.
My solution to this is that all child payments should be based on a formula, maybe adjusted by state or county based on cost of living where the child resides, but that formula should be tied closely to the cost of raising a child. No matter how rich the parent is, the payments are the same for everyone and should be increased only due to circumstances such as medical bills, needs a babysitter, or some other extreme. If we use the $241080 figure from above, that comes out to about $1100 per month. None of this $16000 a month payments for anyone, no child is worth that much. Children have the right to live with food, shelter, and clothing, but not sports cars, mansions, and European vacations.
Doing so would abate the practice, perhaps accusingly made towards certain types of women, of getting pregnant by famous and rich men for money. If she can only expect a thousand a month, maybe some people will not attempt such a morally questionable pursuit. Maybe it would be more trouble than its worth.
*I specifically chose this example because most alimony payments we read about are from men to women and I didn’t want this to be a male/female issue and be accused of being anti-women