HBO is reportedly pulling the plug on the show Looking. There is much rejoicing by many folks with whom I am Facebook friends. Curiously, ISTM this show is hated most virulently not by gay-hating evangelical Christians or right-wing Tea-baggers, but by gay men - the very audience / demographic this show ought to appeal to. I have seen people post that “Looking is worse than AIDS!” This has been posted, mind you, by gay men friends of mine who are old enough to remember the 1980s and really, really should know better.
I am not a huge “Looking” fan. I watched it only a handful of times, I thought it was OK, and of the maybe four episodes I saw in entirety I liked one very much, and the others kind of breezed by. it just didn’t appeal to me enough to make a point of tuning in. The problem for me was that I didn’t see anything in it to get excited about one way or another. I didn’t fall in love with it, but on the other hand I certainly wasn’t enraged by it as some people are.
The most common criticism is that it’s characters are narcissistic and self-absorbed. OK, yes they are. But this is really one of the more honest elements of the show. Perhaps i am just being the cranky old man here, but as a gay 40+ man who came out in the age of ACT-UP and AIDS activism, 20-something gay millenials are quite frankly a narcissistic bunch of preeners. The characters on this show are actually less self-involved than a lot of young gay men I have met in the past 10 years. And it’s not like the show is just pandering to a narcissistic audience; it recognizes and makes a point of demonstrating the self-obsession and its ruinous consequences (that’s the whole point of Patrick’s entitled bearded friend. I imagine if the show continued several years on, you’d seen his arc go from being an entitled drug-addled brat to growing up into a more responsible mature person.) That the show recognizes and addresses it is refreshingly honest to me.
Then there’s the charges of racism. I’m just not seeing how Richie is such a backward, embarrassing stereotype. He seemed like one of the strongest characters to me, and I don’t see how showing him tell Patrick off (when Patrick was acting like an asshole) as being some cliche of an ‘violent latino.’
The actor who made those comments about not being effeminate was an idiot. And yet, I don’t see how his blunt comment deserved the massive amount of scorn he got. A handsome TV actor is a bit of a douche-bag in real life? Big Surprise! In other news, the sky is blue!
One thing I did like about “Looking” is that it was not squeamish about men-on-men sex, relationships and romance. Yes, gay men do actually do “gay things” with each other, and are not just the eunuch poodles to obnoxious straight girls.
One particular thing I’ve noticed and can’t understand is that many of the gay men I know who’ve raged about the ‘awful portrayal of us’ and the ‘racism’ in the show are also devoted fans of “Will & Grace.” They love it to this day even as they heap scorn on ‘Looking’! But W&G was practically self-loathing in its portrayal of gay men; and racist? The one Person of Color on that show was a sassy latina servant who was called a ‘tamale’ to her face by her boss. How does THAT show get a pass on exactly everything “Looking” gets condemned for?
But then, maybe I just didn’t see enough of it to get what other people are frothing at the mouth about. What are your opinions?