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My Papa Bear is gone.


Neither mundane or pointless but yesterday was the worst thing that has ever happened to me. Woke up about 2 am to find my husband on the couch. I thought he was just asleep but I realized he wasn't breathing. Called 911 but he must've already been dead when I found him. What am I going to do?! He took such good care of me. He made my meals helped me find things he spoiled me rotten. I miss his love so much already and it's only been a day. I just can't face a life without him. So broken right now. Thanks for listening
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Old 11-06-2019, 08:02 AM
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This is horrible. I am so incredibly sorry for your tragic loss.
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Old 11-06-2019, 08:03 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. The advice that helped me the most was take it one breath and one step at a time. Be patient with yourself. It may not seem like it now, but it will eventually become bearable.
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Old 11-06-2019, 08:14 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 08:16 AM
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Is there someone with you right now, like a friend or family member? If not, can you call someone to come stay with you temporarily? I hope you can.

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Old 11-06-2019, 08:34 AM
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I'm so sorry, janis. Can't imagine how this must feel.

Seconding what Rilchiam said. If you don't have a friend or family member with you, please call someone to be with you. This is not something you should try to go through alone.
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Old 11-06-2019, 08:36 AM
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Oh no! What you're going through is one of my worst nightmares. I do hope you have some real-life folks to lean on (you have us, of course).
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Old 11-06-2019, 08:39 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 09:25 AM
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Oh how awful for you! I am so very sorry.
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Old 11-06-2019, 09:28 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 09:29 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 09:33 AM
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Oh, god. Girl. I'm so sad for you.
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Old 11-06-2019, 10:02 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 10:04 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 10:06 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 10:17 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 10:21 AM
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So broken right now.


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Old 11-06-2019, 10:24 AM
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I can only imagine what you're going through. What a terrifying experience for you and I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
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Old 11-06-2019, 10:50 AM
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Old 11-06-2019, 11:00 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss janis. It's been almost 5 years since my wife passed away and I still feel the loss. Take it one day at a time. And get as much support as you can from your friends, family and rats. I know it's hard to believe now, but time does heal.
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Old 11-06-2019, 11:05 AM
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I am very sorry for your loss.

Agreeing that I hope there's someone who can come be with you for a while, if that would be helpful to you. Don't be afraid to ask -- people may not be sure whether you want company or privacy.
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Old 11-06-2019, 11:23 AM
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I'm sorry not only for your loss but also the heart wrenching way it occurred.
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Old 11-06-2019, 11:51 AM
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Thank you all so much for your kind words. So many people, including you, have reached out and that and God is the only thing making life even halfway tolerable right now. Am not alone. My folks came in the middle of the night and I am at their house. Again THANK YOU all so much.
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Old 11-06-2019, 12:01 PM
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Oh dear, I am so sorry for you. This is one of the things that keeps me up at night; losing my spouse.

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Old 11-06-2019, 12:30 PM
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Old 11-06-2019, 12:33 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss, and glad you can take comfort in your loved ones.
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Old 11-06-2019, 12:38 PM
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A couple crass but necessary things are to call his life insurance company to file a claim, and Social Security to register for survivor benefits. I wish I had known about the latter when my wife died.
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Old 11-06-2019, 01:27 PM
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Iím so sorry, janis. Glad your parents can be with you. Hugs.
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Old 11-06-2019, 01:32 PM
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Very sorry for your loss.

Logic implies that if I live long enough, my loved ones will pass before I do, but it's no comfort.
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Old 11-06-2019, 01:32 PM
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I am so sorry for you loss and hope that being with your parents helps.
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Old 11-06-2019, 01:42 PM
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I am so sorry. I'm glad that you have family with you now. If there's anything that we can do, please tell us. If you feel like sharing, I would like to know how you are doing.
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Old 11-06-2019, 02:36 PM
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Old 11-06-2019, 03:06 PM
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Old 11-06-2019, 03:31 PM
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What a terrible blow. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending virtual hugs.
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Old 11-06-2019, 03:59 PM
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Old 11-06-2019, 05:21 PM
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Old 11-06-2019, 05:37 PM
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My sincere condolences.
Please make sure you have someone close for now. A family member, a friend, a pastor. Everyone needs support in a time like this.
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Old 11-06-2019, 05:50 PM
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I'm glad your parents are there to help. A long, long hug of support to you on your sudden loss, Janis.
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Old 11-06-2019, 06:42 PM
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