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Old 11-14-2019, 06:11 PM
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Things that don't bother you, but seem to bother everyone else


Inspired by this post in another thread.

What are things that seem to bother most other people, but not you?

For me it's definitely personal/invasive questions. I couldn't bother me less. I might politely decline to answer, but the mere act of asking a personal question doesn't affect me. At all.

I once caught up with an aunt I hadn't seen in a long time, who started probing me with some very personal questions about an extremely difficult family event. She was clearly doing it with an intention to "get the gossip".

I just kept politely declining to answer the questions. The questioning itself couldn't have bothered me any less.

When I told my sister about my aunt's questioning, I told it as a "funny story", to elicit laughs. "Can you believe our aunt was that shameless?? BWA HA HA HA!!" etc.

What seems to bother most other people, but not you?
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Old 11-14-2019, 06:17 PM
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Old 11-14-2019, 07:39 PM
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Do NOT shop at T. Joe's if you are a private person. "So....! Plenty of bratwurst and peppers. Looks like someone's grilling out, and inviting the neighbors..." I always want to mess with the checker and say stuff like "Actually, I've been trying to build a huge domino setup in your parking lot; brats and peppers add an extra level of difficulty."

Actually, I've taken to arching an eyebrow and whispering "NOT that it's anyone's business, but... yeah."
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Old 11-14-2019, 07:46 PM
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I'll add another one:

Religious doorknockers. They don't bother me. I take the same view on them as Penn Jillette. These doorknockers are convinced that I may not be on the path to salvation, and are knocking to try and warn me. They might be wrong, but they believe it to be true, so I understand their actions. They've always moved along when I've politely told them I'm not interested today, so I don't buy the arguement that religious doorknockers are "shoving their religion down my throat" by simply knocking (I'm sure pushy religious doorknockers do exist, I've just never met one).

So yes. Knocking on my door because you want me to put on the path to salvation? Doesn't bother me.
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Old 11-14-2019, 08:04 PM
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So yes. Knocking on my door because you want me to put on the path to salvation? Doesn't bother me.
I'm right there with you and this despite having had a bad experience or two. I'm always a bit baffled by people who get enraged at door-to-door proselytizing. It's not like they're telemarketers( who themselves also don't particularly enrage me most of the time ). They're trying to be good people by their own beliefs, so I find politely declining their invitations and wishing them a good day is just decent manners. It's not like I'm usually up to something so important that I can't spare two or three minutes.
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Old 11-14-2019, 09:22 PM
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I'll add another one:

Religious doorknockers. They don't bother me. I take the same view on them as Penn Jillette. These doorknockers are convinced that I may not be on the path to salvation, and are knocking to try and warn me. They might be wrong, but they believe it to be true, so I understand their actions. They've always moved along when I've politely told them I'm not interested today, so I don't buy the arguement that religious doorknockers are "shoving their religion down my throat" by simply knocking (I'm sure pushy religious doorknockers do exist, I've just never met one).

So yes. Knocking on my door because you want me to put on the path to salvation? Doesn't bother me.
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I'm right there with you and this despite having had a bad experience or two. I'm always a bit baffled by people who get enraged at door-to-door proselytizing. It's not like they're telemarketers( who themselves also don't particularly enrage me most of the time ). They're trying to be good people by their own beliefs, so I find politely declining their invitations and wishing them a good day is just decent manners. It's not like I'm usually up to something so important that I can't spare two or three minutes.
Same here. I thought I was the only one.
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I do not understand people who have waited decades in order to accuse their rapists. If you are raped, he did something wrong, not you.


On the other hand I seem to lack empathy I suppose.
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Old 11-14-2019, 11:03 PM
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people that die of accidental drug orverdoses or kill THEMSELVES while driving drunk. a lot of people think it is a shame, me I figure it was their choice.
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Old 11-15-2019, 12:29 AM
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As far as doorknockers go, LDS >>> JW
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Old 11-15-2019, 12:51 AM
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Old 11-15-2019, 12:56 AM
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Same here, and for all message boards, not just this one. Users/members come and go, and If it's an interesting topic, I'm fine with a thread from 2005 re-surfacing and adding insight.

I truly and honestly don't know why some chafe over this.
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Old 11-15-2019, 04:52 AM
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Genealogy, couldn't give a stuff.

I have every reason to suspect some weird shit in the nether regions of my dad's side of the family. There are some very curious and exotic colourations and features that have come on down the line but I haven't got the slightest bit of interest in any of it. Nothing you could tell me about my genetic history could be of the slightest relevance to me, now.

My wife and her dad are fascinated by it but when they tell me I just glaze over. My wife and I are actually related a good few generations past and my response to that was along the lines of .......of course, we're from a fairly immobile rural area of small communities and were born 5 miles apart, I'd be shocked if we weren't.
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Old 11-15-2019, 09:40 AM
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Smelling bad stuff.

My sense of smell isn't normal. I guess it's genetic. It takes a strong smell before I even notice and I can't differenciate differrent smells. To me, it's "something", good, bad, flowery or citris. And it takes a REALLY bad smell before it bothers me.
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Old 11-15-2019, 09:51 AM
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Old 11-15-2019, 09:52 AM
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Old 11-15-2019, 09:54 AM
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Old 11-15-2019, 09:59 AM
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People forgetting anniversaries, birthdays, etc. just doesn't matter to me.

People calling me by the wrong name. Even husband can get away with it if it doesn't happen too often!


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Smelling bad stuff.

My sense of smell isn't normal. I guess it's genetic. It takes a strong smell before I even notice and I can't differenciate differrent smells. To me, it's "something", good, bad, flowery or citris. And it takes a REALLY bad smell before it bothers me.
I don't really have a sense of smell either. I'm glad because it seems like smells cause people to bitch all the time.

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Old 11-15-2019, 10:35 AM
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Another one for zombie threads.

I don't care which way the toilet paper goes on the roll.

I enjoy winter.

I don't mind drinking coffee that's gone cold.
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Old 11-15-2019, 10:48 AM
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Temperature, I have a wide tolerance. people in my current office space are forever complaining about the AC and playing with it. They ask me whether I'm hot/cold to which I reply "no" (and mutter under my breath about the Deming funnel and how them messing with the control is only making things worse)
Same with me. I ride my bicycle to work year round. I live in a northern climate (not far from US/Canada border) so the typical range I see in that year is 0-90 Fahrenheit. You acclimate. Currently, my morning ride is in the 20s and it now feels not so bad. When I leave work it's in the 40s and I can wear my shorts at that temp. The only thing that stinks about winter riding is my bike is heavy (fenders, heavy studded tires, lights, etc) and I'm already looking forward to April when I can go back to a light bike. Those e-bikes look better every winter. I'm waiting for my winter bike to break so I can justify it - I've had it 20 years so it's gotta break one of these days.
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Mandolin music.
I didnít realize that mandolin music bothered people but if it does I have to agree with RioRico.

My other answer would be how people like their food. Steak well done, beans in chili, mayo on anything.
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Unrealistic or inaccurate things in movies and T.V. shows. I honestly didn't know this was an issue for people before the Internet. Movies and T.V. shows are not supposed to be realistic, they are supposed to be entertaining. If I want reality, I'll look around me. I just can't see getting upset because something in a movie is not the same as it is in real life.
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When someone says something, dresses a certain way, or presents a symbol or sign that others find offensive and hurtful and they do it with zero malicious intent, I really donít give crap.
If someone finds some random swastika patterns in a first graders mosaic art project I couldnít care less.
If someone is a big Beyonce fan and puts on some bronzer to dress like her for Halloween so what?
If some kids want to play the circle game and have never heard that it is now considered some kind of white supremacy sign, let them play the dumb circle game.
If some girl is a big fan of rap music and someone catches her singing along to a song and she says the n-word I think she is a fan of rap music and nothing else.
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Comic sans. I am vehemently against some typefaces, but I think there's a place for Comic Sans. Probably not on your business card. Certainly not on MY business card. But I think it's a good choice at times. Like if you don't have Dom Casual.

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Old 11-15-2019, 07:38 PM
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I'm old but I like some tattoos. I don't have any and likely won't ever get any. I see images online of some insanely great (IMHO) tattoos. I just hate the ones I see in real life. I swear, the people I work with look for what ever tattoo place is closest and their first question is "What's on sale?"
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But you use a single offensive epithet to some people, and you better run for your life.
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Mandolin music.
I have no problem with that...

But...

How do you feel about Myron Florin music? Dick Contino music? Florian Zabach music? All three together? While stoned?
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Religious doorknockers. They don't bother me. I take the same view on them as Penn Jillette. These doorknockers are convinced that I may not be on the path to salvation, and are knocking to try and warn me. They might be wrong, but they believe it to be true, so I understand their actions.
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[...]It's not like they're telemarketers( who themselves also don't particularly enrage me most of the time ). They're trying to be good people by their own beliefs, so I find politely declining their invitations and wishing them a good day is just decent manners.
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Same here. I thought I was the only one.
I'm glad there's three others out there!
There's a pit thread out there about this, and I posted my opinion, and wasn't summarily booted out of the thread for it, but it certainly was going against the general tone of that thread.

I invite JW's in my home and we have a nice chat. I know they really want to make a major difference in my life, and I also know that it must stink to deal with folks from that pit thread all day long. So we chat.
And they explain their doctrines and theology and I explain mine, and we look at a few Bible verses. What's wrong with that? It puts me in a position where I have to consider the reasons between certain doctrines, and that's not necessarily a bad thing.
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Comic sans. I am vehemently against some typefaces, but I think there's a place for Comic Sans. Probably not on your business card. Certainly not on MY business card. But I think it's a good choice at times. Like if you don't have Dom Casual.
I've read that Comic Sans is great for dyslexics. I don't know if this is true.

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How do you feel about Myron Florin music? Dick Contino music? Florian Zabach music? All three together? While stoned?
ZaBach was a fast fiddler, and the others? The slogan of the annual Cotati (California) Accordion Festival is, "Accordions don't play LADY OF SPAIN - people do." I'm also okay with Korla Pandit on organ at the skating rink. Some, like my granddaughter, hate high-pitched Indian females singing, or Yma Sumac. As with Comic Sans, I'm not bothered.
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Zombie threads.
Hope you're enjoying this, because you'll get to read it all over again when I post A Thing That Doesn't Bother Me to this thread on this date in 2049.
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Cold Weather. We're having an unseasonable cold snap, and people are complaining. I'm getting asked "Where are your gloves? Aren't you cold? Do you have a winter coat?" Well, cold do not bother me. I'm wearing a sweater and a warm jacket, and a hat with both hoods over it. That's all I need.
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Heavens to Betsy! Now what kind of monster would do something like that?? 😮
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Cold Weather. We're having an unseasonable cold snap, and people are complaining. I'm getting asked "Where are your gloves? Aren't you cold? Do you have a winter coat?" Well, cold do not bother me. I'm wearing a sweater and a warm jacket, and a hat with both hoods over it. That's all I need.
I'm surprised cold weather doesn't bother your wrist.
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Sometimes it does make my left wrist sore and/or stiffens it, but since I'm right handed it's not a big deal. When it happens to be really bad, I put on a wrist brace.

I really only need to wear one mitten because the hand itself does not feel any pain.
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For me, it would be pumpkin spice. I am not fond of it, but have nothing against it. Yet many people on social media seem to burn with a white-hot rage against pumpkin spice.

Ditto for pineapple on pizza, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it, but people lose their minds.
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