# 13-year-olds having oral sex on a school bus **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 16, 2003, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965 "2003-09-16T17:12:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![beagledave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6de8d8/32.png) [@beagledave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beagledave)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/21 "2003-09-16T18:20:25Z")
I’m guessing that the district does **not** have a policy explicitly forbidding students from bringing large rodents on the school bus…setting said rodents on fire…and laughing in glee. I guess dumbass mom would think that’s ok as well? ---
**Author:** ![dalovindj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/65b543/32.png) [@dalovindj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalovindj)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/22 "2003-09-16T18:21:33Z")
I went to [Morehead State University](http://www.moreheadstate.edu/), so I guess I shouldn’t mock . . . ---
**Author:** ![Azael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a8b319/32.png) [@Azael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azael)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/23 "2003-09-16T18:23:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > **I don’t know about anyone else, but I did not know what oral sex was at 13 years old.** I suspect further investigation will show you that you are the exception rather than the rule in this case. ---
**Author:** ![carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de0a6/32.png) [@carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carrot)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/24 "2003-09-16T18:32:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lieu \* > \*\*“Because of the unfortunate connotations, Beaver U. will now be changing it’s name to Vagina Tech.” \*\* Ha. Bit of poor planning on our part actually. We will once again be changing our name, from Vagina Tech to University of Terus. ---
**Author:** ![Amp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Amp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amp)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/25 "2003-09-16T18:33:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by carrot \* > \*\*Ha. Bit of poor planning on our part actually. We will once again be changing our name, from Vagina Tech to University of Terus. \*\* I don’t get it. ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/26 "2003-09-16T18:34:01Z")
I respectfully disagree with you **Lord Ashtar** I think kids should be sheltered from that until they are older then at 13. Anybody who disputes that “it takes a village” to raise a child is on some kind of glue. The whole world is bigger and meaner and scarier and much more dangerous than ever before, and action must be taken NOW. Our kids are too precious for us to fail them just because we wish things were different. And that is my opinion. The kids who had the nerve to have oral sex on the bus have been seriously let down, probably by a great many people in their lives, and possibly by very good people, people who did not intentionally let them down. I often wonder how many people, and for how long, were letting down Dylan Harris and Eric Klebold before their evil turned itself onto their classmates and teachers? We all bear a responsibility. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/27 "2003-09-16T18:38:50Z")
> [@](#): > > I respectfully disagree with you Lord Ashtar > I think kids should be sheltered from that until they are older then at 13. You think kids should be sheltered from their hormones? [sub]How we got from a 13 yr old girl blowing a boy on a bus to kids shooting up a high school is beyond me…[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Airman_Doors_USAF)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/28 "2003-09-16T18:40:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > \*\*I don’t know about anyone else, but I did not know what oral sex was at 13 years old. \*\* Don’t worry about it. Clinton didn’t know either, and he was over 50. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/29 "2003-09-16T18:41:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > **I often wonder how many people, and for how long, were letting down Dylan Harris and Eric Klebold before their evil turned itself onto their classmates and teachers?** Think about what you’re saying. Do you really think Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold (those were their names by the way, not the other way around) were getting oral sex on the school bus? No way. If they had, there would have been no bullets flying at Columbine. ---
**Author:** ![carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de0a6/32.png) [@carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carrot)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/30 "2003-09-16T18:43:14Z")
Y’know, good ol’ U. Terus. I slay me. ---
**Author:** ![DoperChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9a28c/32.png) [@DoperChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DoperChic)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/31 "2003-09-16T18:44:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lieu \* > \*\*“Because of the unfortunate connotations, Beaver U. will now be changing it’s name to Vagina Tech.” \*\* Actually, lieu it’s [Arcadia University](http://gargoyle.arcadia.edu/UR/150th/time_1.htm) now. I kid you not. 😛 DoperChic ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/32 "2003-09-16T18:47:16Z")
> [@](#): > > You think kids should be sheltered from their hormones? I think kids should be taught to keep their hormones in check. 13 year olds have no business having sexual relations. And I feel bad that they have to be taught about things at such an early age. I think it should come from their parents and not the media. I have a 13 year old and we have discussed sex and protection. I have not gone into details about oral sex. I don’t think it is necessary at 13. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/33 "2003-09-16T18:50:23Z")
If the roads in Beaver County are as bumpy as the ones where I went to school, these kids are lucky no one went home with naughty bits in a Baggie. I suppose Mom would have sued the school over _that_ too. ---
**Author:** ![In\_Conceivable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/4bbf92/32.png) [@In\_Conceivable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/In_Conceivable)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/34 "2003-09-16T18:53:19Z")
Not to make it personal **Isabelle** , but wasn’t one of your children sexually active at 15? Did he go from knowing nothing at 13 to having sex at 15? ---
**Author:** ![Jaade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dfb087/32.png) [@Jaade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaade)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/35 "2003-09-16T18:57:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > \*\*I don’t know about anyone else, but I did not know what oral sex was at 13 years old. I certainly didn’t even have sex on the brain. These kids today are learning stuff at such an early age. I am shocked! What troubles me is where the kids got this idea and the nerve to act on it? I remember when on cable tv you never saw anyone have sex Now it not only implies raw sex but often S&M, Oral sex, Rape and so much more. > > Are the parents at fault for not talking to the kids? For not watching what the kids are reading or watching on tv? What could their parents have done differntly? > > I think they should be suspended but should not be free to not attend school for the rest of the year. Perhaps their county has an “alternative” school. \*\* I knew what oral sex was when I was thirteen. (For the record that was 14 years ago) I also knew that oral sex was something I wasn’t ready for, and something I wasn’t interested in doing. I was also fully aware of what sex was, what it meant, and the difference between sex and “making love”. This isn’t a “nowadays” problem. I heard about a girl in my school that gave a boy a blow job in the 7th grade in the school _library_. It’s not that kids don’t know it’s “wrong”. We all called that girl a slut. I’d bet that some of the kids who knew that couple felt the same way. What rock do you want kids these days to live under? Granted it shows very poor judgement on the kids in question, but what do their parents have to do with it? Some of the kids I knew in high school who were afforded EVERY opportunity in life were some of the worst behaved people I’ve ever met. Having sex, taking drugs, getting drunk when they were just a year or so older than these kids. It doesn’t make it right, but you can’t assume the worst about the parents. Sometimes kids will do everything you tell them not to do. ~J ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/36 "2003-09-16T18:58:33Z")
I think only the 17 year old has had sex. The other young kids haven’t (to the best of my knowledge) ---
**Author:** ![Azael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a8b319/32.png) [@Azael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azael)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/37 "2003-09-16T19:00:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > \*\*I have a 13 year old and we have discussed sex and protection. I have not gone into details about oral sex. I don’t think it is necessary at 13. \*\* You might not think it’s necessary. Her peers might not care one way or the other. Thinking that the only place kids learn about sexuality is either from school, parents or the “media” is missing the most obvious source completely. She will figure it out, so if you really think it’s going to make a difference then you might want to be the one to tell her. ---
**Author:** ![Ryle\_Dup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Ryle\_Dup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryle_Dup)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/38 "2003-09-16T19:02:25Z")
Boy did _I_ go to the wrong middle school. For the record, I’m 14 and I’ve known about oral sex since I was about 7 or 8 IIRC. By sheltering your children, you’re stunting their developement. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/39 "2003-09-16T19:05:29Z")
Better that they’re having oral sex than unprotected vaginal sex. Better that they’re having any sort of sex than plotting to kill their enemies. We continually deny sexuality in this country of prudes and repressed hormones, while sending our kids off to see Terminator 6. What do we covet? That which we see every day. Violence is not a natural impulse. Sex is. Deny the natural impulses and reap the unnatural. So a couple of horny teenagers gave and got. Perhaps the bus was not the best choice of venue, but what harm has been done? I suspect the real harm is to the sensibilities of fundie prudes to whom sex is a joyless, furtive exercise concluded in a darkened room for the purpose of procreation only. Go ahead, blast away. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965/40 "2003-09-16T19:07:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DoperChic \* > \*\*Actually, lieu it’s [Arcadia University](http://gargoyle.arcadia.edu/UR/150th/time_1.htm) now. > > I kid you not. > > 😛 > > DoperChic \*\* I love the timeline for Beaver College: > [@](#): > > 1865: Name changed to “Beaver Female Seminary and Musical Institute”. I can see them thinking: “Yes! That’s _much_ better! No one will laugh at us now!” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/13-year-olds-having-oral-sex-on-a-school-bus/201965.md?page=3)