# 17 January, 2001 - In Memory **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 17, 2001, 9:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491 "2001-01-17T09:23:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Falcon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/49beb7/32.png) [@Falcon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falcon)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/21 "2001-01-17T17:12:31Z")
No words I can offer except to say I’m sorry, hon. {{{{tater}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Silo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac91a4/32.png) [@Silo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silo)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/22 "2001-01-17T17:15:37Z")
_hugs_ That’s gotta be rough. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![omni-not](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8dc957/32.png) [@omni-not](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/omni-not)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/23 "2001-01-17T17:39:02Z")
I won’t say I know how you feel, because I don’t and never will. And I won’t add anything to that which has already been said because it’s been said with love and compassion, much more eloquently than I could have. Except for this: Try to think not so much of your loss but of the wonderful times you’ve shared together during your pregnancies. With any luck, that kind of miracle will happen again. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/24 "2001-01-17T19:39:39Z")
We. Need. A. Crying. Emoticon. I’ll try to get PD to post to this thread if I can - PD1 was/is a miscarriage. I’m PD2. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/25 "2001-01-17T19:47:47Z")
{{{Tracy}}} You are a very brave and strong woman. We all want to ease your pain. ---
**Author:** ![Serendipity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Serendipity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serendipity)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/26 "2001-01-17T21:53:13Z")
(((((((((((Tracy))))))))))) Nothing profound to add, really – I just wanted to pass along a cyberhug. (I wish they were as effective as actual ones.) I can’t even imagine what you’ve gone through, but I do know that, in spite of it all, you’re an amazing, beautiful, incredibly brave person. Tinytot is truly blessed to be able to call you mom. Much love, Jessica ---
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/27 "2001-01-17T22:29:52Z")
Without going into too much detail, allow me to say that I know exactly where you’re coming from **tater**. You are not in the least odd for thinking about this and having feelings concerning it. My heart goes out to you. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/28 "2001-01-17T22:35:01Z")
Aw, Tater, I’m so sorry. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![ladybug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/46a35a/32.png) [@ladybug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladybug)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/29 "2001-01-17T22:41:48Z")
{{{{{ **tatertot** }}}}} ---
**Author:** ![johnboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e47c2d/32.png) [@johnboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnboy)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/30 "2001-01-17T22:58:09Z")
TaterTot, I know I’m new here but let me add one thought: You may very well get a chance to meet your two children in the afterlife (if you beleive in that sort of thing.) ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/31 "2001-01-18T00:09:48Z")
{{{{{{ **tatertot** }}}}}} And what others may not know, even as you were dealing with your own pain, you offered your sympathies, help, and a shoulder to cry on to Honesty and myself when she had a miscarriage later that same summer. We wish you all the best. ---
**Author:** ![Odieman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/a87d85/32.png) [@Odieman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Odieman)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/32 "2001-01-18T00:19:41Z")
{{{Tracy}}}… ---
**Author:** ![Vestal\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5e9695/32.png) [@Vestal\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vestal_Blue)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/33 "2001-01-18T00:30:05Z")
I will keep you in my prayers, for healing and peace of mind. Feel free to E-mail me, if you wish. For what it’s worth, your little ones will live in your heart, and rest assured they are secure in the arms of the Lord, for no souls so cherished and loved can be anywhere else. {{{{{{{{{{{Tracy & Mr. Tatertot}}}}}}}}}}}} Larry ---
**Author:** ![Lissa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lissa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissa)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/34 "2001-01-18T00:56:57Z")
I’m terribly sorry about your loss. {{{Tracy}}} ---
**Author:** ![Gazelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Gazelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gazelle)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/35 "2001-01-18T01:06:37Z")
**tatie** I’m so glad you posted because you gave me a second chance to express my condolences. I’m so sorry about your miscarriages. I know how hard they have been on you and your family. I’m praying for you. Love, Canthearya ---
**Author:** ![Bill\_H](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a5b964/32.png) [@Bill\_H](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bill_H)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/36 "2001-01-18T01:23:19Z")
**tatertot** , so sorry for your loss. For what it’s worth, my wife (and I to some degree) had three miscarriages over the course of two years, but had two healthy happy children after. It was pretty tough; after the first loss, everybody tells you that medically it’s no big deal, and you’re surprised to find out how many people have had them. But after two they start running all kinds of tests and you really start to wonder. After three you feel like this just won’t happen. It’s very sad and frustrating. Plus, you’re on pins and needles for each pregnancy, wondering each day if this one’ll stick. I still remember the proposed birthday of the first. But as I say, we were able to have two great children afterwards; I hope that offers you some hope. ---
**Author:** ![LazarusLong42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/87869e/32.png) [@LazarusLong42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LazarusLong42)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/37 "2001-01-18T01:27:35Z")
((((Tracy)))) What more can I say? LL ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/38 "2001-01-18T01:49:53Z")
I’ve been where you’re at, tatertot. I’ve had a miscarriage, too. All I can add is that while the pain may never completely go away, someday it will get less bad. (((((tracy))))) ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/39 "2001-01-18T04:16:47Z")
{{{{{Tracytot}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Frannie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Frannie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frannie)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2001, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491/40 "2001-01-18T04:25:02Z")
I’m sorry. So many of us have – sadly – shared the same heartbreak. I know that it’s difficult to understand unless one has been through it. Mine was at 16 weeks. I was pretty drugged up at the time, but the image I carry with me is that of my baby boy in a jar. I’ve been blessed with two wonderful sons since that horrible day, so I know that it _does_ get easier. I’m sending all my best vibes for a healthy pregnancy or two in the future. God bless. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/17-january-2001-in-memory/50491.md?page=3)