# $2,000 for sex with.... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 6, 2003, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125 "2003-06-06T17:17:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/21 "2003-06-06T18:00:02Z")
> [@](#): > > **merge** : so why not cash in if that is your only dilemma? That’s the question I’m battling with! > [@](#): > > **Indygrrl** : How old is he? Is he remotely attractive? Could you just lay there, or would you have to do oral and such? 1. Average looking. No oral, but I don’t know how well the just lying there maneuver is going to work. Don’t think he’ll be too eager to pay up for a dead fish. > [@](#): > > **auntie em** : I guess my rationale is that if I could get SOME pleasure out of the whole thing besides the ability to pay off a credit card after the fact, then I’d do it, and the money would be gravy. > > Otherwise, I’d feel like a prostitute, which is not my cup of tea. But auntie, the pleasure of being able to pay off the bills weighs more to me than any sexual pleasure any man could give me. **ArrrMatey** , that’s a good point. **Nate** , of course. If I were to do it (and I don’t think I’m gonna :(), I’d definitely protect myself. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/22 "2003-06-06T18:00:12Z")
MeanOldLady, you’re not a whore. Don’t do it. ---
**Author:** ![Pablito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ed655f/32.png) [@Pablito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pablito)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/23 "2003-06-06T18:00:38Z")
You’re 20? Let’s add this: 12) can you be sure he won’t try or be able to blackmail you by threatening to tell your parents? ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/24 "2003-06-06T18:02:44Z")
Heh. It’s your problem…DEAL WITH IT, sister! (I’d at least consider it.) ---
**Author:** ![Nate\_the\_Great](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ea924/32.png) [@Nate\_the\_Great](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nate_the_Great)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/25 "2003-06-06T18:05:41Z")
Not really serious with this, but you could ask for the money up front, don’t sleep with him, and blackmail him by threatening to tell his wife. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/26 "2003-06-06T18:06:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MeanOldLady \* > …two of my friends just told me I should have done it, and another said I should have asked for $3,000. What the heck? Am I the only one who has a moral tiff with this? I have a moral tiff with your friends, for second-guessing you. Don’t let their lack of convictions make you doubt your own. I don’t have a huge problem with a person selling her (or his) body, but I would hate to hear of you selling out your principles. ---
**Author:** ![Pablito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ed655f/32.png) [@Pablito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pablito)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/27 "2003-06-06T18:07:30Z")
Another thought–maybe this is just a game to him, and he’ll keep upping the ante until you say ‘yes,’ then he can say (to himself, his buddies, or you), “I knew every woman has her price”, never having intended to actually part with the money or go through with it in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![bayonet1976](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/77aa72/32.png) [@bayonet1976](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bayonet1976)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/28 "2003-06-06T18:11:26Z")
Well, as long as you’re considering that line of business, what’s your bottom price for sex with someone like, say, me?\* \*The above is a left handed attempt at telling you no, you should not do it. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/29 "2003-06-06T18:12:47Z")
Well, if he’s willing to pay $2,000 to have sex, would he pay $500 for you to pose nude for “art photographs?” Might not pay off all the bills, but it could help you get through a rough spot. While we’re at it, would your local university also be willing to pay you to pose for them? ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Lance\_Murdoch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/47e85d/32.png) [@Captain\_Lance\_Murdoch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Lance_Murdoch)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/30 "2003-06-06T18:13:28Z")
2K might sound like a ton of money now, but ten years from now it won’t make any difference in your life weather you got this money or not. You will carry around what you did until your old and senile, however. Is this the kind of person you want to be? Will you someday have a husband and kids that you will hide this from? Is your self-image worth $2,000? Besides, what kind of a man would make such a proposal? How disrespectful! It seems he thinks of you as a whore. Do you want this man inside your body? Don’t let anyone kid you, if you do this you are turning a trick. Whatever happens, I wish you the best. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/31 "2003-06-06T18:15:20Z")
Christ **Pablito** , that’s a lot of questions. He doesn’t know any of the people I know, I can make sure there aren’t any vids/pics, no idea what I’d do if his wife finds out, but I suspect she’s got to know he’s been unfaithful. I don’t know if it’s a one time thing; he acts like it is, but I’m pretty sure it won’t be. I think that’s the reason he keeps coming back. Like **ArrMatey** says, this guy knows I’m hard up. Like, big time. He plans on paying me in cash. When he first offered I laughed. Told him I didn’t believe he was going to give me $2,000 to hump me for a few min. Then he said if I didn’t believe him, he’d pay me half upfront. This guy isn’t playing. I don’t know what’s going through this guy’s head or how he expects me to react. He’s treating this like a business deal. He doesn’t know my parents. He won’t be able to blackmail me. Aaaand, I think I’ve answered all of your questions. **Bippy** , he’s cheated on his wife with one other person in the past. Or at least that’s what he told me. I’m not sure how much I’ll believe from a man who’s cheating on his wife. He lies to her everyday, so why wouldn’t he lie to me? **In Conceivable** , yeah I know, but I’m not going to tell anybody. He sure as heck isn’t going to tell anybody. **Juanita Tech** , you’re right. Damn, is there a way I can make a quick 2 Gs that doesn’t involve anything sleazy? ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/32 "2003-06-06T18:19:08Z")
I’m not going to do it, folks. I told him no, and I pretty much feel like I made the right decision, but another part of me is kicking my own but yelling, “You idiot! You could have paid rent and paid off your mechanic with that!” My morals are ruining my life. ---
**Author:** ![Cliffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cliffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cliffy)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/33 "2003-06-06T18:19:12Z")
You’re in college? Assuming you’re of traditional college age, then **hell no** – ten years from now (or five or even three) you’re going to realize that two grand isn’t that much money, but you’ll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that you were a whore. You don’t owe this skeeze anything – if I were you, I’d call his wife and let her know what kind a creep she’s married to, but under no circumstances would I screw him. –Cliffy ---
**Author:** ![3trew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/13edae/32.png) [@3trew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/3trew)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/34 "2003-06-06T18:20:08Z")
I don’t think this is the kind of question that other people can really help answer for you. Some people (lest I sound like I’m moralizing, I’m probably one of them) would just consider the money a bonus, chalk off another purity test point, and never even have to deal with a qualm. Other people would be spending a whole lot of 4am reflection time on the matter in the years following. You have to look inside for this one. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/35 "2003-06-06T18:21:09Z")
I’d tell his wife if I had a way of getting in contact with her. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/36 "2003-06-06T18:26:01Z")
MeanOldLady, I’m the least moral person I know. I kick puppies and take candy from babies just for fun. You’re getting a great education and you’re a smart gal. You’re paying your dues now, so to speak. Once you’re educated and have a little experience under your belt, you’ll look back on this and laugh that you actually even considered doing the do with dude for such a paltry amount. [sub]Email me, please. I’d like to send you something. No, it’s not cash.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![DeadlyAccurate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@DeadlyAccurate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeadlyAccurate)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/37 "2003-06-06T18:35:39Z")
Consider this: it gets easier to say yes the more often you do it. As someone above mentioned, if he asked again, could you say no? I’m glad you’ve decided not to do it, and if I were you, I’d threaten to tell the police if he bothers you again. And then do it. ---
**Author:** ![X\_Slayer\_ALE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/bbe5ce/32.png) [@X\_Slayer\_ALE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/X_Slayer_ALE)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/38 "2003-06-06T18:41:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FairyChatMom \* > \*\*Wouldn’t do it. Whether he was married or single doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t have sex for money. \*\* OK how about a free apartment with cable TV and food, all for a month? Mistresses do it to be with the one they love (or are attracted to) and while they do not take money per se they are rewarded for their “companionship”. If you go down the slippery slope of having sex with a married man, I dont see where money is really the issue. The real issue is why is this man paying so much when he can get a hooker for waaay cheaper than that? If this man has cheated before then theres also a health issue involved. You dont know whom the partner he slept with, has slept with. If you feel that allowing this man to cheat on his wife is inconsequential to you, then take the money. If you feel bad about the money, split it with his wife. Im getting vibes that this man is somehow just trying to appease his conscience about cheating by buying it. Then he can say to himself that it wasnt emotional just business. That should be one of your concerns as well. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/39 "2003-06-06T18:44:49Z")
> [@](#): > > OK how about a free apartment with cable TV and food, all for a month? Well that’s another matter entirely altogether! Is it digital cable? ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2003, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125/40 "2003-06-06T18:49:19Z")
I would call the wife, tell her you have evidence that her husband has tried to solicit sex from you, and ask for a cut after the divorce hearings in exchange for your testimony. 🙂 Seriously though, I’m glad you decided not to be a 2K whore. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-000-for-sex-with/180125.md?page=3)