# 2 dates, then THE TALK, now what? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 16, 2010, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412 "2010-12-16T20:03:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2010, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/81 "2010-12-18T13:11:43Z")
Off topic- has anyone never put their dick in the crazy if the opportunity was there? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2010, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/82 "2010-12-18T14:26:37Z")
> [@Rilchiam](#): > > Banished? …but what about [Barnaby](http://www.unmuseum.org/marchwooden_barnaby.jpg)? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![mookieblaylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b2d939/32.png) [@mookieblaylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mookieblaylock)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2010, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/83 "2010-12-18T21:52:31Z")
Dude, trust me, I know how much it sucks to go a while without any romantic interest from women, but this looks way too much like a dead end. Someone who’s willing to make you put up with all that BS after two dates most likely isn’t going to give you a healthy relationship you deserve. ---
**Author:** ![raspberry\_hunter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b19c9b/32.png) [@raspberry\_hunter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raspberry_hunter)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2010, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/84 "2010-12-19T06:09:41Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > So, what you’re saying is: you were acting crazy then, yes? Because yeah, boys probably shouldn’t have dated you if you were acting crazy. Heck, I’d say the fact that you adjusted how you act proves you see the err of your ways. Yeah, I was acting crazy at that particular time (fueled by having just had a quite bad breakup, and a little by just being an adolescent, I think), and yes, it was a VERY bad idea for the boy who dated me to do so. So, yeah. That being said, it could have been a better idea in six months when I was over the previous guy, and was presumably a better idea five years later, if you ask my husband. **Zyada** , good point, I missed her age. A lot of people I knew dabbled intermittently in the crazy as immature adolescents, but eventually came out sane the other end… at thirty, not so much. ---
**Author:** ![kasuo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8c91f0/32.png) [@kasuo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kasuo)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2010, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/85 "2010-12-19T10:57:39Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Off topic- has anyone never put their dick in the crazy if the opportunity was there? Crazy is so fun to have sex with but the wisdom of the Dope must be recognized. /OT Fusoya, I’m sorry to hear of this situation. Before the revelation of her eviction, I was going to say that I found it hard to grasp that a 30-year old woman was being blatantly dumb about a possible hookup from nearly a year ago. Now with people chiming in about it being a setup, here’s to hoping you don’t give up on the human females. Not enough Lunarian chicks out there, eh? Whoa, Lunarian reminds me of “lunatic”, which is “crazy” attributed to the moon. ---
**Author:** ![nikonikosuru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5f8ce5/32.png) [@nikonikosuru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nikonikosuru)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2010, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/86 "2010-12-19T17:26:03Z")
She sounds crazy. She already has an out/excuse not to get close to you. Do you really want to risk getting more involved only to have her whip that out on you one day? Find yourself a non-crazy and start from scratch. I can’t imagine this ending well or her suddenly becoming available for you. ---
**Author:** ![Filbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/filbert/32/3433_2.png) [@Filbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Filbert)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2010, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/87 "2010-12-19T22:23:05Z")
To be fair, in the pizza situation- when I’ve been totally skint, I tend to refuse to let people buy me stuff too- because if I can have the money with me right now I can buy it for myself right now, but if I let someone else buy it for me I’ll feel cheap next time when I don’t have the money, and I can’t return the favour… Still, I’d be very careful… It does sound like she wants a shoulder to cry on/fwb, rather than an actual boyfriend, even if she has no intention of deliberately scamming you. ---
**Author:** ![MannyL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@MannyL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MannyL)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/88 "2010-12-20T00:18:09Z")
I know it’s been said but I’ve been involved with a woman for a little over two years now who has repeatedly said to me she is bad at dating and glad we are not dating. It’s finally set through my skull that while we were doing things that a dating couple did we were not dating. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/89 "2010-12-20T02:14:21Z")
> [@fusoya](#): > > SDMB has a Marketplace now, why don’t _we_ have a dating section? Well, there’s that “send a private message” thingy. Although it might be fun to have a “dating forum”, where people seek romance, interested parties respond and the rest of the Dope proffers advice on who’s crazy and who should Run Away, NOW. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![fusoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecccb3/32.png) [@fusoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fusoya)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/90 "2010-12-20T02:27:49Z")
The last I heard, her cousin had a couch in Staten Island that she was going to hastily move to. I’ve been keeping my distance, and have been keeping busy with work/holiday activities, making ME the one playing hard to get now. That SMDB dating forum would be the best idea EVER. Every time I develop a doper crush, I do a search and already have her baggage available to read about. It’s perfect. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/91 "2010-12-20T14:05:51Z")
Sounds like you dodged a bullet, fusoya. Keep the faith. And your money, too. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/92 "2010-12-20T15:13:51Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Off topic- has anyone never put their dick in the crazy if the opportunity was there? Of course, everyone does. That’s why there’s a rule about it, if it wasn’t a common mistake people wouldn’t need constant reminders not to do it. Crazy chicks are incredible in bed, but it is never worth it in the end. ---
**Author:** ![banjoDavid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3d9bf3/32.png) [@banjoDavid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/banjoDavid)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/93 "2010-12-20T15:23:07Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Off topic- has anyone never put their dick in the crazy if the opportunity was there? Today is the 13th anniversary of the craziest. I wish I didn’t remember so vividly. But I do. David ---
**Author:** ![Keith\_Berry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/22d042/32.png) [@Keith\_Berry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Keith_Berry)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2010, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/94 "2010-12-20T15:28:10Z")
I met a crazy one time when she was stalking her ex-boyfriend. For some reason I gave her my phone number…the sex was very good and wild and all, but the fact that she had mood swings every five minutes and talked incessantly about Jesus really gave me pause. That was a relationship that lasted four days. At the end of it I was threatening to call the police if she didn’t leave me alone. Today she’s on medication and we’re friends on Facebook. Go figure. I tried writing a novel about the experience, but it wound up sucking. ---
**Author:** ![KevinShi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c57346/32.png) [@KevinShi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KevinShi)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2010, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/95 "2010-12-21T15:12:58Z")
im so glad i scrolled up a bit to see fusoyas last post. i was on a major rant on how stupid he was to even think about continuing with that crazy bonkers totally off her fricken head chick was. Phew. i May be 14 but even i knew that that girl was f\*\*\*ing CRAZY. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2010, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/96 "2010-12-21T16:24:26Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > I barely KNOW you after three dates, I’m sure as hell not going to sleep with you. So what then? You’ll go to bed with any flying insect that flutters by your way, but you’re too good for me? Feh! ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2010, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/97 "2010-12-21T21:44:14Z")
> [@fusoya](#): > > She’s been banished to Staten Island. I’m safe for the time being. Banished? Has there been an imperial decree? Are there a trio of magicians strenuously maintaining a magical seal around the island? Is Staten Island really so unpleasant? Sorry, the turn of phrase just tickled my fancy. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2010, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/98 "2010-12-21T22:20:22Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > Banished? Has there been an imperial decree? Are there a trio of magicians strenuously maintaining a magical seal around the island? Is Staten Island really so unpleasant? > > Sorry, the turn of phrase just tickled my fancy. Not so much magicians and more Oompa Loompa orange Ed Hardy sporting guidos… ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2010, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/99 "2010-12-21T22:58:48Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Off topic- has anyone never put their dick in the crazy if the opportunity was there? I’ve had a handful or so of sexual opportunities that I’ve passed up because I knew the crazy/drama/this is a bad idea scale was just too high. And considering these were usually at a time when it was either that or nothing at the time on the sexual activity front makes it even more impressive. I’ve made plenty of dumb decisions in my life, but at least I can say sticking it in the crazy hasn’t been one of them (but boy o boy did I WANT to at the time). ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2010, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412/100 "2010-12-22T01:22:18Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Not so much magicians and more Oompa Loompa orange Ed Hardy sporting guidos… What, like [these fools?](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_Fd-lgkitTN8/Se-5yGXQvAI/AAAAAAAAABY/kYQd25z8uTU/s400/the-orange-guido-brigade.jpg) Or [this fool?](http://media.tumblr.com/G08JByNzw9otrp89YO0MUwIp_500.jpg) Or maybe [this fool?](http://www.peopleofjerseyshore.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Real-Live-Douchebag.jpg) 😃 (I thought it was only women who hated their eyebrows these days - I didn’t realize that guys did, too.) **fusoya** , would you mind going on some more dates from online people? I need more vicarious drama in my life. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2-dates-then-the-talk-now-what/564412.md?page=6)