# 3 down, 47 to go. Connecticut legalizes marriage for gays! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 10, 2008, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334 "2008-10-10T15:58:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![shantih](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f6c823/32.png) [@shantih](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shantih)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2008, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/21 "2008-10-10T22:53:48Z")
> [@Yeticus\_Rex](#): > > Haven’t you heard? It’s becoming an endangered species out here. From your keyboard to God’s ears … ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2008, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/22 "2008-10-10T23:17:45Z")
On the plus side, I’ve seen 0 yes-on-8 ads, and the no-on-8 ad that I’ve seen MANY times is very well done… it features an old (hetero) couple with two children, one gay, one not, both of whom are married, and they are saying “keep marriage legal for ALL of us” or something like that. Very nonthreatening 🙂 (I may have a few of the details wrong.) ---
**Author:** ![JustAnotherGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/58f4c7/32.png) [@JustAnotherGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JustAnotherGeek)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/23 "2008-10-11T00:05:59Z")
> [@Elysium](#): > > Now that crappy Rhode Island needs to get it together and join the crowd. Rhode Island appears to want to have it both ways. > [@Rhode Island](#): > > I mean, like, I _like_ gay marriage (when it’s done in another state), but I don’t know if I _like **like** _ gay marriage when it’s, like, done here… I don’t know. Like, I think we should go out for a while before we do anything serious, like really calling ourselves in a for-real relationship. I think we should just hang out and, like, see where it goes. You know? ---
**Author:** ![Punoqllads](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d2c977/32.png) [@Punoqllads](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Punoqllads)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/24 "2008-10-11T00:13:56Z")
> [@JustAnotherGeek](#): > > Rhode Island appears to want to have it both ways. That’s hot. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/25 "2008-10-11T00:19:35Z")
I believe Massachusetts doesn’t allow same-sex marriages by out of state residents. So does anyone know how this will work in Connecticut? Because the state could make some tourism money if people from other states can travel there to get married. (I know that California was hoping to make some money from such visitors.) ---
**Author:** ![Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Airman_Doors_USAF)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/26 "2008-10-11T01:00:15Z")
> [@shantih](#): > > Excellent good news! Let’s hope each step puts gay marriage more in the category of ‘boringly normal’ so that people can move on to other things to get themselves bent out of shape over. About 10 more states and SCOTUS will start seriously thinking about applying the 14th Amendment to gay marriage. That’s how these things happen historically. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/27 "2008-10-11T01:58:02Z")
> [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](#): > > About 10 more states and SCOTUS will start seriously thinking about applying the 14th Amendment to gay marriage. That’s how these things happen historically. With those 3 states (not counting others that offer separate-but-equal things like civil unions, domestic partnerships, etc., this is already 15.2% (1/6th) of the population of the USA. That’s a good start. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/28 "2008-10-11T02:14:35Z")
> [@](#): > > I believe Massachusetts doesn’t allow same-sex marriages by out of state residents. That was true until July 31st. Now it does. ETA: My marriage is my cite! ---
**Author:** ![shantih](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f6c823/32.png) [@shantih](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shantih)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/29 "2008-10-11T12:32:45Z")
> [@susan](#): > > That was true until July 31st. Now it does. > > ETA: My marriage is my cite! Congratulations!! May you have a lifetime of happiness! ---
**Author:** ![emmaliminal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7bcc69/32.png) [@emmaliminal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emmaliminal)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/30 "2008-10-11T14:25:01Z")
> [@susan](#): > > ETA: My marriage is my cite! Best cite _evar!!_ Best wishes for a wonderful life together! ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/31 "2008-10-11T17:55:55Z")
Thank you! ---
**Author:** ![JustAnotherGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/58f4c7/32.png) [@JustAnotherGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JustAnotherGeek)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/32 "2008-10-11T19:13:02Z")
> [@susan](#): > > ETA: My marriage is my cite! Truly awesome! (Both the marriage and the wit!) ---
**Author:** ![vivalostwages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@vivalostwages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivalostwages)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/33 "2008-10-11T20:33:25Z")
> [@NinjaChick](#): > > Excellent news. Well done CT! > “Gay marriage taught in schools”? What the hell does that even mean? Do California schools currently ‘teach’ hetero marriage? I don’t get this either, and it’s in every Yes-on-8 ad they show on tv here. Since when is marriage taught about in any way in school? They also say that Massachusetts schools had to teach that boys can marry boys, and that parents had no right to object. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/34 "2008-10-11T20:37:34Z")
> [@vivalostwages](#): > > I don’t get this either, and it’s in every Yes-on-8 ad they show on tv here. Since when is marriage taught about in any way in school? > They also say that Massachusetts schools had to teach that boys can marry boys, and that parents had no right to object. Yeah, it’s silly. Object to what? The schools pointing out the facts of the matter as they currently stood? ---
**Author:** ![emmaliminal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7bcc69/32.png) [@emmaliminal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emmaliminal)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/35 "2008-10-11T21:07:22Z")
> [@vivalostwages](#): > > Since when is marriage taught about in any way in school? Sometimes, in some states at least, Social Studies or Health classes touch on it. In Texas, in 2004, political pressure from the Texas Board of Education on publishers prompted the publishers to “voluntarily” edit high school health books so that they define marriage the same way Texas law now does, i.e., a “lifelong union between a husband and a wife.” [http://www.nytimes.com/2004/11/06/national/06texts.htm](http://www.nytimes.com/2004/11/06/national/06texts.htm) ---
**Author:** ![vivalostwages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@vivalostwages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivalostwages)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/36 "2008-10-11T22:48:23Z")
Even if they mention it in textbooks or classes, then, still, nobody’s actually telling the students that when they grow up, they have to marry a same-sex partner. Apparently, though, people object to having their kids hear about it at all even though it exists and they would very likely find out about it anyway. Goodness knows, they’d have heard it on the TV by now. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/37 "2008-10-11T23:22:11Z")
> [@kenner116](#): > > New York and New Jersey are probably just a couple of years away. Go NY! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2008, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/38 "2008-10-11T23:47:32Z")
> [@emilyforce](#): > > In Texas, in 2004, political pressure from the Texas Board of Education on publishers prompted the publishers to “voluntarily” edit high school health books so that they define marriage the same way Texas law now does, i.e., a “lifelong union between a husband and a wife.” “Lifelong”? Ha! Here in the Minnesota Legislature, the Republicans were going to push an anti-gay state Constitutional Amendment defining marriage as being between “one man and one woman”. Democratic leadership derailed that by informing them that they would move to add the words “for life” to the end of that amendment, and get the DFL legislators to vote for it. Then either the born-again republican legislators would have to vote against this, or else send to the voters a bill that would outlaw divorce in the state (which would almost certainly be defeated). ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/39 "2008-10-13T17:09:28Z")
> [@shantih](#): > > From your keyboard to God’s ears … Are you assuming that the Santa Anas are only responsible for that whooshing sound? ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334/40 "2008-10-13T17:41:05Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > “Lifelong”? Ha! > > Here in the Minnesota Legislature, the Republicans were going to push an anti-gay state Constitutional Amendment defining marriage as being between “one man and one woman”. Democratic leadership derailed that by informing them that they would move to add the words “for life” to the end of that amendment, and get the DFL legislators to vote for it. Then either the born-again republican legislators would have to vote against this, or else send to the voters a bill that would outlaw divorce in the state (which would almost certainly be defeated). I like that technique; if people want to define marriage along religious lines, make them REALLY define it along religious lines. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/3-down-47-to-go-connecticut-legalizes-marriage-for-gays/467334.md?page=3)