# A 15-year-old girl has a crush on me, apparently. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 13, 2008, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716 "2008-10-13T14:42:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/21 "2008-10-13T17:28:51Z")
> [@Alice the Goon](#): > > You’re a grownup now, you’re in college, and you should be hanging out with your peers, which high school kids are not. I am aware of that, and I do hang out with my friends in college, but not all of my friends are in college. Visiting my high school a few times a year is the easiest way to see those of my friends who are still there in person. As I said, it’s not as if I go there for hours every day. > [@Autolycus](#): > > Good Auto is thinking: “in 3 years, she’ll be 18 and.. you will be 23.. that’s still bad!” Yeah, but not _as_ bad. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/22 "2008-10-13T17:34:52Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > The safest thing to do would be to avoid that high school completely, but since when was doing the safest thing the best thing? > [snip] > Evil Auto is thinking: “in 3 years, she’ll be 18 and you’ll be 23. Ka-ching!” Having once been a 15 year old girl, I doubt her interest in him is going to last the 3 years it would be necessary to make sure he isn’t a statutory rapist. And I agree, stay away. There are very few scenarios where this works out well for you. ---
**Author:** ![Skara\_Brae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Skara\_Brae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skara_Brae)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/23 "2008-10-13T17:35:53Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > Good Auto is thinking: “in 3 years, she’ll be 18 and.. you will be 23.. that’s still bad!” But no longer a felony… ---
**Author:** ![CaerieD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@CaerieD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaerieD)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/24 "2008-10-13T17:47:15Z")
It may not even be a felony now, depending on where this takes place. For instance, in a number of states you can marry someone under the age of eighteen with parental consent, even if the age of consent is eighteen. Under these conditions, you’re exempt from statutory rape charges. The fact that a teenager is considered incapable of consenting to sex, but with parental support can get _married_ is a little disturbing, IMO. Don’t marry her, **Captain Carrot**. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/25 "2008-10-13T18:03:50Z")
Update: I have talked to my best friend, who knows her, and she says that Anne (the girl who did this) is like that with everybody. False alarm! ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/26 "2008-10-13T18:07:31Z")
never mind ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/27 "2008-10-13T18:11:59Z")
“You know what I love about high school girls? I keep getting older, and they stay the same age.” - _Dazed and Confused_ ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/28 "2008-10-13T18:13:22Z")
As the mother of two teenaged boys, I’m here to tell you- teenaged girls are crazy. Be afraid, be very afraid. ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/29 "2008-10-13T18:27:27Z")
> [@Captain\_Carrot](#): > > Update: I have talked to my best friend, who knows her, and she says that Anne (the girl who did this) is like that with everybody. False alarm! I could have probably told you this from the start. There are some girls out there that are just waaaaay too outgoing and naive. Jumping into your arms after only knowing you for 6 hours should have been a clue. Not really dangerous for you since you’re an adult and see it for what it is. It is dangerous for her however since one of these times she’s going to get the wrong guy who has the wrong idea about her and either tells her off for being such a tease when it doesn’t go his way or does something worse and takes advantage of her. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/30 "2008-10-13T18:40:05Z")
> [@Hampshire](#): > > Not really dangerous for you since you’re an adult and see it for what it is. I still don’t think of myself as an adult, and I didn’t see it for what it was, I didn’t know what it was, and I consulted people whom I thought would. And I agree, she’ll be lucky if this doesn’t hurt someone down the line. ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/31 "2008-10-13T18:42:31Z")
> [@Captain\_Carrot](#): > > False alarm! Whew! Good thing too. I was just getting out the fire hose. Sounded like some dousing was in order. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/32 "2008-10-13T18:49:03Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > As the mother of two teenaged boys, I’m here to tell you- teenaged girls are crazy. Be afraid, be very afraid. You think there’s another unpleasant surprise waiting for me if/when I see her again? ---
**Author:** ![schnuckiputzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecb155/32.png) [@schnuckiputzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/schnuckiputzi)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/33 "2008-10-13T19:00:53Z")
As a long-time teacher of teenage girls, college guys are like Nirvana. She’ll crush on you for a while, then move on to someone more her own age. It happens. And college-age kids come back to our high school all the time – it’s great to catch up on what’s going on their lives. Just be polite and hands-free. This too shall pass. ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/34 "2008-10-13T19:27:17Z")
> [@Captain\_Carrot](#): > > And unless she starts stalking me, all I have to do to avoid her is not go to Choir during 7th period. I was in a similar situation with a 16-year-old. I just avoided and ignored her and eventually she gave up. She didn’t actually stalk me, but she somehow got my number and address, and started leaving gifts at my door. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/35 "2008-10-13T19:36:06Z")
> [@Captain\_Carrot](#): > > You think there’s another unpleasant surprise waiting for me if/when I see her again? I don’t know- just in case you come in contact with one, you should wear high-waisted pants, a polyester shirt and prosthetic shoes. They’re known to wither in the face of uncoolness. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/36 "2008-10-13T20:03:36Z")
I teach high school. I’m also a member of the school’s security and safety committee. I’ve been at this since 1985. You need to stay away from that high school in general and her in particular. Really. If you need a transcript or something, that’d be different. You’re just going to “visit your friends.” Visit them at their homes. The school is absolutely-fucking-not there as a place for a college sophomore to keep his social life vital. You have no real business there. If you were coming to my school, you’d long since have been told to get on with your life. ---
**Author:** ![kasuo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8c91f0/32.png) [@kasuo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kasuo)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/37 "2008-10-13T20:59:08Z")
Paraphrased from **Family Guy** : TEEN GIRL answers her front door. GIRL: Hello? QUAGMIRE: How old are you? GIRL: Sixteen. QUAGMIRE: Eighteen? GIRL: Mom! QUAGMIRE: I like where this is going. Heh, all-right! ---
**Author:** ![Electric\_Warrior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Electric\_Warrior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electric_Warrior)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/38 "2008-10-13T21:05:06Z")
> [@schnuckiputzi](#): > > As a long-time teacher of teenage girls, college guys are like Nirvana. She’ll crush on you for a while, then move on to someone more her own age. It happens. And college-age kids come back to our high school all the time – it’s great to catch up on what’s going on their lives. Just be polite and hands-free. This too shall pass. Not to mention, teenage girls do tend to have irrational crushes without any intent at an emotional or sexual relationship. Sometimes these will be cute actors or musicians, or sometimes they will be people in their lives who are, or at least appear to be, completely unattainable. I think it could be a bit frightening to a 15-year-old if this kind of playful flirting were actually responded to emphatically. ---
**Author:** ![CAT\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9dc877/32.png) [@CAT\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CAT_1)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/39 "2008-10-13T21:47:55Z")
She is like that with everyone? Really??? Jumping up on and wrapping her legs around men? That is a bit odd. She may have some issues then. I would avoid her at all costs. I agree with everyone who said you probably shouldn’t be hanging around the H.S. either, unless you are there for a specific reason. When I was about your age I went back to my old H.S. to observe some teachers, and do some clinical work. I have a teaching degree. I was very professional, and even though I still knew a lot of the kids, I didn’t fraternize with them while I was there. ---
**Author:** ![Pollux\_Oil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/858c86/32.png) [@Pollux\_Oil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pollux_Oil)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2008, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716/40 "2008-10-13T22:51:53Z")
> [@Scumpup](#): > > I teach high school. I’m also a member of the school’s security and safety committee. I’ve been at this since 1985. > You need to stay away from that high school in general and her in particular. > Really. > If you need a transcript or something, that’d be different. You’re just going to “visit your friends.” > Visit them at their homes. > The school is absolutely-fucking-not there as a place for a college sophomore to keep his social life vital. > You have no real business there. > If you were coming to my school, you’d long since have been told to get on with your life. Maybe it’s just my high school, but I distinctly remember when I was a senior there were people that were seniors MY freshman year (and older) returning to visit the school. They were there to visit friends from younger classes as well as old teachers. I don’t really see anything wrong with it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-15-year-old-girl-has-a-crush-on-me-apparently/467716.md?page=3)