# A couple of questions for straight guys **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2009, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658 "2009-02-06T02:30:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Chase\_Ransom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de0a6/32.png) [@Chase\_Ransom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chase_Ransom)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/41 "2009-02-06T06:06:14Z")
I cannot foresee any reason an erect penis would be out in the wild unless it has a purpose. In the case of group sex and things of that nature, fine. I can even imagine some unexpected perspectives of other guys erections at a bachelor party gone wild (hookers or strippers). But circle jerk-offs, masturbating with porn while in the company of others, demonstrations of how to masturbate… …that was just not kosher in my neck of the woods. I am not a prude by any extent of the imagination, but I do prefer nakedness to be kept to one’s self or otherwise, others who have a purpose of seeing you naked. This goes x 2 for erect body parts. Never have I ever. P.S. I dont think any of the aforementioned circumstances are “gay” weird. I just don’t think that is how you should handle your junk. Being in the presence of another man’s erect penis doesn’t make you gay. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/42 "2009-02-06T06:11:02Z")
Yet another “never” vote. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/43 "2009-02-06T06:14:48Z")
Maybe it’s a regional, cultural thing, but the circle jerks and community spanking some people are describing is not something I ever encountered growing up, and my formative years ranged across an extremely broad geographical spectrum. In any teenage-guy community I ever lived, spanking with another guy would have been seen as unequivocally gay, no arguments, no appeals. I’m not saying that attitute was correct, obviously, but there definitely would have been a homophobic backlash against any guy who even made the suggestion to another group of guys. If any guys ever paired off and did it, they sure didn’t tell anybody about it. ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/44 "2009-02-06T06:17:07Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > I have posted this before and nobody believes it but I will share again. After my high school was obliterated by a massive fire my senior year of high school, everything went to hell… Did you go to Sunnydale High with Buffy and Willow? ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/45 "2009-02-06T06:31:28Z")
> [@not\_alice](#): > > Actually no. > > I was wondering if we were being whooshed by Vox never having seen anyone naked and I just was wondering how he could have missed all those guys in gym class. It was participating in gym class, including changing and showering that I suggested was part of the socialization process. > > ETA: I see Vox already clarified that. My apologies. I totally read your statement wrong. > [@not\_alice](#): > > … (behaving in a locker room, not seeing another erection, … I read that as being a list, when you were simply clarifying that you weren’t including seeing erections as part of the socialization process. I still disagree with your premise, but not nearly as much so as when I thought you were implying every male adolescent should hang around multiple erect penises. For the record, my buddies and I shared porn mags and looked at them together growing up, but the thought of touching our penises together never even crossed our minds. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/46 "2009-02-06T06:38:05Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > For the record, my buddies and I shared porn mags and looked at them together growing up, but the thought of touching our penises together never even crossed our minds. Heehee. Might want to recheck that wording. ---
**Author:** ![Vox\_Imperatoris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Vox\_Imperatoris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vox_Imperatoris)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/47 "2009-02-06T06:39:13Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Maybe it’s a regional, cultural thing, but the circle jerks and community spanking some people are describing is not something I ever encountered growing up, and my formative years ranged across an extremely broad geographical spectrum. In any teenage-guy community I ever lived, spanking with another guy would have been seen as unequivocally gay, no arguments, no appeals. I’m not saying that attitute was correct, obviously, but there definitely would have been a homophobic backlash against any guy who even made the suggestion to another group of guys. If any guys ever paired off and did it, they sure didn’t tell anybody about it. It would seem that way for me, too, although I don’t talk to other guys about sex and certainly have never looked at porn with them. Valete, Vox Imperatoris ---
**Author:** ![atomicbadgerrace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@atomicbadgerrace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/atomicbadgerrace)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/48 "2009-02-06T06:58:43Z")
> [@Vox\_Imperatoris](#): > > …I don’t talk to other guys about sex… Straight or gay, I don’t think I’m going out on a limb when I suggest that, in \*this \*regard, you are the exception rather than the rule. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Alienhand](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8edcca/32.png) [@Alienhand](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alienhand)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/49 "2009-02-06T06:59:33Z")
We watched porn movies together rather often from middle school right up through our college years (again, the penises didn’t get exposed unless it was about to be placed in a member of the opposite sex). Once in a while when in the my friends’ dorms, some one outside the normal group would say (usually while drunk) that they jerked off with other guys in middle school then backpedal furiously. I’m guessing it’s not common but not too much of a leap to make. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/50 "2009-02-06T07:09:44Z")
> [@atomicbadgerrace](#): > > Straight or gay, I don’t think I’m going out on a limb when I suggest that, in \*this \*regard, you are the exception rather than the rule. 😃 I dunno… I’m pretty irreverent around good friends, and we never talk about sex _explicitly._ We might talk about women, what’s hot or not, or even throw out a crude comment… but never the details of our personal experiences, or what we like and don’t like to do in the sack. Eww. ---
**Author:** ![atomicbadgerrace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@atomicbadgerrace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/atomicbadgerrace)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/51 "2009-02-06T07:14:58Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > I dunno… I’m pretty irreverent around good friends, and we never talk about sex _explicitly._ We might talk about women, what’s hot or not, or even throw out a crude comment… but never the details of our personal experiences, or what we like and don’t like to do in the sack. > > Eww. **Vox Imperatoris** is a teenager in high school – I guess that’s a bit of required knowledge to understand the implied “…rather than the rule, among boys in high school.” Either way, it was just a joke. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/52 "2009-02-06T08:23:00Z")
Ahh, I gotchya. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/53 "2009-02-06T13:55:28Z")
In school, we were advised to shower after gym class, but nobody ever did. The year we had swim class, we would all change from underwear to bathing suit while facing straight ahead, no words spoken. Except for one guy who even at the young age of 14 had a dick of porn proportions, and proudly paraded it around the locker room. But in the spirit of the OP, never did I see a live erect one, as in, right there in the same room with me, until I was in my late 20’s and my friend and I shared a girl one night. I’m pretty sure I haven’t been in the same room with another exposed erection before or since. And never, ever, did I or anyone I knew of participate in a circle jerk or whack off to porn together. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/54 "2009-02-06T14:21:03Z")
I can’t recall any time - and I suspect I would. ---
**Author:** ![Darryl\_Lict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@Darryl\_Lict](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darryl_Lict)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/55 "2009-02-06T14:38:20Z")
I was certain that it was never, until I thought about it. There were no circle jerks in my circle, that’s for sure. But, I have seen live sex shows in Sydney and Amsterdam, so yeah, I have seen an erect weiner. ---
**Author:** ![WormTheRed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/bbe5ce/32.png) [@WormTheRed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WormTheRed)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/56 "2009-02-06T15:50:49Z")
Nope, never seen one. ---
**Author:** ![Bobotheoptimist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/919ad9/32.png) [@Bobotheoptimist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bobotheoptimist)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/57 "2009-02-06T15:53:07Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > Never. > > And at this point in my life (almost 36), I can’t even imagine a situation where I wood — I mean would. Except change the age to “almost 41”. ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/58 "2009-02-06T16:05:33Z")
> [@Indistinguishable](#): > > Heehee. Might want to recheck that wording. > [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > For the record, my buddies and I shared porn mags and looked at them together growing up, but the thought of touching our penises together never even crossed our minds. 😕 I’m not seeing the funny part? We’d find a stash of one of our dads’, and look at them and giggle. But we never thought of rubbing our penises together, or of touching our respective penises individually. Am I wearing blinders that are making me miss something? ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/59 "2009-02-06T16:10:44Z")
Never. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658/60 "2009-02-06T16:12:30Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > 😕 > > I’m not seeing the funny part? > > We’d find a stash of one of our dads’, and look at them and giggle. But we never thought of rubbing our penises together, or of touching our respective penises individually. Am I wearing blinders that are making me miss something? It sounded like you had only meant touching yourselves individually but worded it in such a way as to suggest actually making penis-to-penis contact. Apparently you _intended_ to do that, so…ok…I don’t think anyone had said anything about going that far, though. That’s going beyond the OP’s question about seeing one and moving into actual homosexual experiences. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-couple-of-questions-for-straight-guys/484658.md?page=4)