# A friend disappears **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 26, 2011, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126 "2011-08-26T02:00:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2011, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/41 "2011-08-30T04:11:21Z")
> [@AndyLee](#): > > Remember Olivia Newton-John’s ex boyfriend, the so called “Love of her life.” He disappeared for a month, she wasn’t even aware he was gone. Shows how much she was involved with him. Now the police are pretty certain Patrick McDermott is alive and living somewhere in Latin America after trying to fake his own death. [They broke up before he disappeared](http://articles.nydailynews.com/2010-04-06/gossip/27060982_1_investigators-boyfriend-fishing-trip), so it’s not like she expected to be in daily contact with him at the time. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2011, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/42 "2011-08-30T04:12:25Z")
I’m so sorry for this turn of events, **Candyman74**. ---
**Author:** ![Feyrat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/fbc32d/32.png) [@Feyrat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feyrat)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2011, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/43 "2011-08-30T04:13:38Z")
Oh, no. ☹ So sorry, Candyman. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2011, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/44 "2011-08-30T04:53:24Z")
Sorry **Candyman**. But I agree with **lieu** that this sound suspicious. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/45 "2011-08-31T01:04:52Z")
I’m sorry Candyman. This is not good. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/46 "2011-08-31T02:23:03Z")
**Sorry Candyman. Things look grim.** ---
**Author:** ![Candyman74](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ad7895/32.png) [@Candyman74](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Candyman74)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/47 "2011-08-31T16:37:02Z")
It turns out he did attempt the swim, and he did not succeed. The funeral is next week. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/48 "2011-08-31T16:45:42Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, **Candyman**. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/49 "2011-08-31T16:47:24Z")
> [@Candyman74](#): > > It turns out he did attempt the swim, and he did not succeed. The funeral is next week. ☹ That sucks. Sorry to hear it. I was going to say that now in my mid-40’s taking a crazy break from my oh-so routine “that’s so unlike him!” life sounds pretty normal. Not now, though. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/50 "2011-08-31T16:49:25Z")
I’m really sorry things turned out that way, **Candyman**. That’s a tough one. Remember the good times for he obviously was not himself as of late. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/51 "2011-08-31T16:49:29Z")
I’m so sorry, **Candyman.** ---
**Author:** ![Crotalus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crotalus/32/41_2.png) [@Crotalus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crotalus)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/52 "2011-08-31T16:56:08Z")
Sorry, Candyman. ---
**Author:** ![KinkiNipponTourist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e9bcb4/32.png) [@KinkiNipponTourist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KinkiNipponTourist)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/53 "2011-08-31T16:58:18Z")
Sorry Candyman, I’d been hoping things would turn out differently. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/54 "2011-08-31T17:21:57Z")
I’m so very sorry to hear that this was the outcome. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/55 "2011-08-31T17:24:35Z")
I’ve been watching this thread and hoping for a different outcome. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/56 "2011-08-31T18:45:42Z")
That sucks,\*\* Candyman\*\*. Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/57 "2011-08-31T18:59:59Z")
Echoing the other commenters: That sucks. At least he was found. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/58 "2011-08-31T20:48:54Z")
I am sorry to hear that. I, too, was hoping he had just taken a break. ---
**Author:** ![Candyman74](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ad7895/32.png) [@Candyman74](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Candyman74)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2011, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/59 "2011-08-31T21:33:49Z")
Indications (the letter) seem to be that he actually imagined he could make that swim. Why, I don’t know - we can only assume some kind of breakdown which put these thoughts in his head. I haven’t seen the letter personally - it was addressed to his parents, and they are keeping it that way. It kills me to think about how he felt halfway there when he realised he wasn’t going to make it. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2011, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-friend-disappears/594126/60 "2011-09-01T00:03:37Z")
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