# A guy gave me his number while i was jogging outside... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 4, 2015, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924 "2015-09-04T18:25:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 23
**Author:** ![Esox\_Lucius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/848f3c/32.png) [@Esox\_Lucius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esox_Lucius)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/441 "2015-09-14T17:02:57Z")
Guys like to talk fishing. Brag about how many fish you’ve caught, how long you played them, etc… ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/442 "2015-09-14T17:04:43Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > 37 women only used you for your body, and didn’t respect you in the morning? > > Seriously, though, this whole discussion, here and elsewhere, is giving me a headache. Although that might also be from smacking my head against the keyboard too often. “Oh no! She had sex with me on the first date! I must dump her! Oh no! It’s been three dates and she hasn’t had sex with me yet! I must dump her!” > > Apparently, picking the precise moment to have sex with a man to ensure that he thinks of you as exactly the right combination of whore and Madonna is a fine art. > > I think I’m with Marlyn. Live life with an open mind and an open heart, and see what happens. > > _Runs carefree through field of flowers_ All I am saying is that statistically in my case, the correlation between early sex and no relationship is very strong. This can (and should) be attributed to my emotional immaturity and insecurities at the time. Since the guy in this scenario is only 23, I’m making an assumption that he’s as emotionally immature as I was at the time (which might be completely wrong). ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/443 "2015-09-14T17:11:10Z")
> [@Marylnshephards](#): > > I just don’t want to end feeling like piece of meet. I have been in FWB before when I wanted more from the guy, but I ended up feeling resentful and used Mjeh. The truth is that you feel like something is missing inside you and you’re hoping that someone else will fill the hole in your heart. Everyone goes through this. We all think we are flawed somehow and that we need someone else to complete us, thus we get stuck in endless games of relationship. Women pretend to be weak, men pretend to be strong… yada yada. The only real way out of the carousel is to sit down, shut up, relax and ask yourself “Who/what the fuck am I? Why am I doing this?” and deal with the shit that comes up. Before you deal with your emotional crap you can’t really love anyone or have a real relationship anyway. ---
**Author:** ![CheshireKat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheshirekat/32/1207_2.png) [@CheshireKat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CheshireKat)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/444 "2015-09-14T17:12:28Z")
> [@Esox\_Lucius](#): > > Guys like to talk fishing. Brag about how many fish you’ve caught, how long you played them, etc… Yeah, it’s all about that bass. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/445 "2015-09-14T17:23:56Z")
> [@Marylnshephards](#): > > He made it pretty clear that he wants to get down and dirty when we meet. However, I told him that we should meet and hang out for a bit to see how the evening goes. He said sure, its up to me > > I have question for guys: When a girl sleeps with you on the first date ,do you lose interest? Do you normally drop her like bad habit? 😕 Very close to 100% of the time. I may go back to get laid now and then but for some reason yes I loose interest. There have been some exceptions when conversation went extremely well and the chemistry was very strong. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/446 "2015-09-14T17:24:45Z")
BS meter back on high. It’s been swinging back and forth - I go from “no one this naive or lacking in self confidence would admit it so freely,” to “well, I guess it’s possible.” But this latest complete refusal to admit that he just wants sex, the endless plaintive cries that “I just don’t want to end feeling like piece of meet” are too much. And we have the start of “second thoughts” that allows her to milk the thread even longer. I like a good story as much as anyone, but this one’s getting tiresome. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/447 "2015-09-14T17:25:48Z")
> [@Stoneburg](#): > > Since the guy in this scenario is only 23, I’m making an assumption that he’s as emotionally immature as I was at the time (which might be completely wrong). Yeah, maybe. I guess I’m just puzzled by the apparent willingness of women to hand over the control over their sex lives to emotionally immature 23-year-olds, and their expectations. Why should Marlyn care what the guy thinks of her after a steaming first date of lube-aided freaky anal? If he doesn’t “respect” her, fuck that guy. He’s a dweeb in a Cobalt. He’s free to piss off and have a fine and dandy rest of his life, if that’s what he wants. Now, there are many reasons not to jump into bed with Cobalt. I wouldn’t do it, based on the information provided so far. But he’s just some asshole. If I wanted to bonk him on the first date, how he felt about me in the morning, whether I was whore enough or Madonna enough, or whether or not he would brag about the incident to his friends… who cares? Let him. 'Cause I was the one who wanted to fasterisk him, and I was the one who made the choice. If he feels like he’s the man, then, fine, whatever. Let him think he’s in charge. I’m the one \*actually \*in charge. And I know it. Maybe he thinks he’s the fisherman, but he’s the fish. ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/448 "2015-09-14T17:42:38Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > Yeah, maybe. > > I guess I’m just puzzled by the apparent willingness of women to hand over the control over their sex lives to emotionally immature 23-year-olds, and their expectations. Why should Marlyn care what the guy thinks of her after a steaming first date of lube-aided freaky anal? If he doesn’t “respect” her, fuck that guy. He’s a dweeb in a Cobalt. He’s free to piss off and have a fine and dandy rest of his life, if that’s what he wants. > > Now, there are many reasons not to jump into bed with Cobalt. I wouldn’t do it, based on the information provided so far. But he’s just some asshole. If I wanted to bonk him on the first date, how he felt about me in the morning, whether I was whore enough or Madonna enough, or whether or not he would brag about the incident to his friends… who cares? Let him. 'Cause I was the one who wanted to fasterisk him, and I was the one who made the choice. If he feels like he’s the man, then, fine, whatever. Let him think he’s in charge. I’m the one \*actually \*in charge. And I know it. > > Maybe he thinks he’s the fisherman, but he’s the fish. True that. And it would be awesome if more women would let go of their victimhood and neediness and do just that. But obviously the OP is not there yet, and while I am philosophically totally OK with everyone making their own mistakes, I also see no harm in giving some obvious pointers. After all, humans are almost unique in their ability to learn from _others_ mistakes, even though we are incredibly reluctant to do so for some reason. ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/449 "2015-09-14T17:44:25Z")
Hmm… actually I think I still have some hang ups in that area that were just exposed by your post, Martian Bigfoot. Turns out I had some emotional investment in the “Women are frail and need to be protected from men” meme. Thanks for bringing that to the surface, much appreciated. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/450 "2015-09-14T17:52:16Z")
> [@Stoneburg](#): > > Thanks for bringing that to the surface, much appreciated. 🙂 My pleasure entirely, my good man. 😉 > [@](#): > > And it would be awesome if more women would let go of their victimhood and neediness and do just that. But obviously the OP is not there yet […] Well, how do we know she isn’t? Let’s try it. Hey, Marlyn: Let go of your victimhood and neediness! There. Let’s see if it works. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/451 "2015-09-14T18:02:34Z")
If this thread is good for one thing, it’s that we can all pull together and _heal._ ---
**Author:** ![Esox\_Lucius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/848f3c/32.png) [@Esox\_Lucius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esox_Lucius)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/452 "2015-09-14T18:37:40Z")
> [@CheshireKat](#): > > Yeah, it’s all about that bass. 😃 😃 Perhaps the OP is a good Christian, for did not the Lord say unto us, "Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men”? ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/453 "2015-09-14T19:00:41Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > My pleasure entirely, my good man. 😉 > Well, how do we know she isn’t? Let’s try it. > > Hey, Marlyn: Let go of your victimhood and neediness! > > There. Let’s see if it works. I just can’t see how it wouldn’t work. Marlyn, listen to the nice Martian with the big feet. > [@cmyk](#): > > If this thread is good for one thing, it’s that we can all pull together and _heal._ That’s TWO things! You ruined the whole thread with your inability to count!! ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/454 "2015-09-14T19:05:51Z")
Dammit! ---
**Author:** ![eschereal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eschereal/32/18939_2.png) [@eschereal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eschereal)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/455 "2015-09-14T19:10:01Z")
> [@CheshireKat](#): > > Yeah, it’s all about that bass. 😃 Does it involve a bobber? ---
**Author:** ![CheshireKat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheshirekat/32/1207_2.png) [@CheshireKat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CheshireKat)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/456 "2015-09-14T19:11:12Z")
> [@eschereal](#): > > Does it involve a bobber? Yes, and a piece of cod. ---
**Author:** ![Sauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Sauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sauron)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/457 "2015-09-14T20:35:50Z")
> [@CheshireKat](#): > > Yes, and a piece of cod. Waaaaait a minute here … y’all aren’t _ **actually** _ talking about fishing, are you? I see through your clever double-entendre! You can’t fool me! ---
**Author:** ![FXMastermind](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fxmastermind/32/7289_2.png) [@FXMastermind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FXMastermind)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/458 "2015-09-14T20:48:08Z")
Men are like fish. The small one you throw back The medium ones you eat And the really big ones you mount ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/459 "2015-09-14T21:45:00Z")
It’s Monday! I’m going to pretend this is not fiction. If Mary goes through with the date - will she: anal/oral/kiss-n-tell us? ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2015, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-guy-gave-me-his-number-while-i-was-jogging-outside/729924/460 "2015-09-14T21:50:10Z")
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