# A (M)ad Lib MMP **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Tags:** mmp\ **Created:** [April 21, 2008, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209 "2008-04-21T11:36:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 21
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/22080_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/401 "2008-04-26T00:48:32Z")
\*\*swampy \*\* - I don’t need to overpack - my kid has a washer, and it stays with the house, so we don’t have to pack it. And I can do laundry as needed. As for packing ratty unders, my mom did exactly that on her last European cruise. They were told they could only have one bag of a set size, which meant getting souvenirs was almost impossible. So Mom rounded up all her oldest, tattiest unders and after she wore them, she tossed them. That gave her space for underwear sized souvenirs! Anyway, the van is as packed as it can be tonight. In the morning, I’ll add my toiletries and the frozen food I need to take. Then I’ll hit the road. I’m drugged, including a melatonin, so I should crash well. Oh yeah, and I was informed that Sunday night is one last WWE PPV. Swell. So I’ll expect youse peoples to amuse me on Sunday. In fact, you won’t see me on line again till Sunday. Try not to miss me… ☹ Laterz!! _MWAH!!_ ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/402 "2008-04-26T00:49:08Z")
Had fish and rice for dinner. Work went OK\< joint hurt, though. I posted in the pictures thread. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/403 "2008-04-26T01:08:56Z")
I’m loving the MMPer pictures in the photo thread! All right, I’ll spill. That Guy broke up with his girlfriend. That’s not even the half of it, but that’s all I’m going to say now. Gah, I need food. I’ve been feeling queasy for most of the day. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/404 "2008-04-26T01:12:51Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] I’m loving the MMPer pictures in the photo thread! All right, I’ll spill. That Guy broke up with his girlfriend. That’s not even the half of it, but that’s all I’m going to say now. Gah, I need food. I’ve been feeling queasy for most of the day. [/QUOTE] Really now…how is this going to change things? You know you’re going to have to spill, right? ---
**Author:** ![Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sticks_and_scones/32/16951_2.png) [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sticks_and_Scones)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/405 "2008-04-26T01:19:13Z")
[QUOTE=Taters] Really now…how is this going to change things? You know you’re going to have to spill, right? [/QUOTE] Seconded. Wow, **Haze** , that is interesting. ---
**Author:** ![anyrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/54ee81/32.png) [@anyrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anyrose)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/406 "2008-04-26T01:21:51Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] I’m loving the MMPer pictures in the photo thread! All right, I’ll spill. That Guy broke up with his girlfriend. That’s not even the half of it, but that’s all I’m going to say now. Gah, I need food. I’ve been feeling queasy for most of the day. [/QUOTE] we have to know the half, and soon. eta wait - I just had the oddest feeling the other half is he asked you to marry him so you could stay in the US. I’m right, aren’t I? ---
**Author:** ![Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sticks_and_scones/32/16951_2.png) [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sticks_and_Scones)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/407 "2008-04-26T01:25:58Z")
Whoa. I was _so_ going to go to bed. Now I have to stay up to hear the next installment in **The World According to Haze.** ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/408 "2008-04-26T01:29:48Z")
Good lord, **rosie** , are you my mother? I just talked to my mom on Skype and she said, “I had the weirdest feeling today! Like you were going to call and tell me that you’re getting married to an American so you’re not coming back to Korea!” :eek: She doesn’t know ANYTHING about me and That Guy - she thinks I’ve been single for the past three years. That freaked me out, I tell you. He did propose to me. Gah. I’ll give you guys details later - maybe tomorrow. I need some time to digest this all myself. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/409 "2008-04-26T01:29:52Z")
Before she gets all into the details, she needs to make her move on scrabulous. Priorities, people! Ok, do that and then spill. Off to bed soon–it’s monsooning out there. Torrential rain with one pissed off Zeus and (does any other pagan god make thunder?–oh yeah, Thor). ---
**Author:** ![Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sticks_and_scones/32/16951_2.png) [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sticks_and_Scones)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/410 "2008-04-26T01:33:12Z")
And… What did you say??? (Ok, you don’t have to answer that right now, but I had to ask) ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/411 "2008-04-26T01:39:04Z")
Good Lord…I had a feeling it was something like that. Obviously, I’m not privy to your every thought and feelings regarding him, but really, are you seriously considering it? You can tell me to mind my own business, but I am concerned for you. He’s put you through quite the emotional roller coaster for quite some time. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/412 "2008-04-26T01:43:40Z")
May I suggest something? That we not ask **Hazel** about this and let her share with us when she feels she can? This is pretty huge, as things go. (not meant as a castigation; I’m as concerned and excited and wondrous as you all are, just sayin’.) Rigs (standing if for Mom, since she’s on the road). 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![anyrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/54ee81/32.png) [@anyrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anyrose)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/413 "2008-04-26T01:50:51Z")
Right ok, **Haze** - go pet Olive for a while and get some sleep (if you can) and know that whatever you decide to do, we’re here for you, we love you, and support you. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/414 "2008-04-26T01:52:24Z")
You are absolutely right, **rigsy.** My apologies, **Haze.** ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/415 "2008-04-26T02:06:22Z")
Whoa! That’s _one_ correct move. OK…_two_ correct moves (the proposal bit wasn’t there when I started to type). You know we’re sitting on the edge of our seats, right? 😃 Thanks for the compliments on the pictures. I’m working on pics from the Cincinnati flower show and maybe a few from the 'hood. Lots to do this weekend. Meeting in the morning; possibly some nursery tours (scouting for our group shopping); gardening if the weather cooperates; a big celebration at church; a housewarming at a friend’s on Sunday; laundry; other stuff I’m forgetting. But…although I’m waiting here with bated breath, I’m also kinda sleepy. Someone poke me when **Haze** comes back. (And I agree with **rigs** - as curious as we all are - take your time. Hugs.) GT ---
**Author:** ![Mahna\_Mahna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47c2d/32.png) [@Mahna\_Mahna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahna_Mahna)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/416 "2008-04-26T02:27:22Z")
**Haze** , I am making one of these faces right now: :eek: That’s a whole lotta stuff to process and break down into bite-sized pieces. The only advice I will give is take a long hard think about all this, and not to rush into any important decisions until you’re ready. …I’m glad to see that he does have some cojones after all, though. ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/417 "2008-04-26T03:34:01Z")
Hmmm. IN-teresting. Yeah, process a bit and we’ll be here when you’ve had a chance to file some of that away, **Haze.** I can’t fault your logic there, **swampy**! Battlestar on tonight, w00t! ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/418 "2008-04-26T03:54:35Z")
Finally looked at the flowers. Very purty **Traveler**. Well no more worry if I did the right thing accepting the step up today. Gov’t sent a letter to me that I received today (when I got home so only an hour ago) that basically said thanks but you didn’t meet all our qualifications. Buhbye. I’m kinda ambivalent about it now, but I know I messed up and that’s mainly because I haven’t been doing accounting stuff for so long. In school I was immersed in it, but then I got out and found a job that was different from accounting and finally finished up my diploma but I haven’t focused on accounting itself in about a year. So I guess it’s good I accepted the step up, now I just have to work my butt off to be sure I keep it and prove I can do it so I can get more money. Today was stressful though, not that I was doing my new job but my old one and training the new guy (still, I’ll be so glad when he finally gets his login and then he can really get down to the nitty gritty because it’s easier to learn by doing and he can’t do until he has his login). It was basically one of those days I like to call bull _remembers where she is… doesn’t know if she can swear so modifies_ crap days. Ended up with all the higher ups of shipping gone and leaving us lowly paid peons to deal with stuff. It got dealt with and then I went to see Nim’s Island with a coworker who also ended up being there late (different department though somewhat related to mine). It was good, a nice light family movie that was sweet and funny. The perfect antidote to a bad day. Tomorrow the plan is to do a good scrub of Velociraptor’s room (the walls are looking kinda dingy and we may as well sweep and mop while we’re at it) and then I’m getting contacts! Wheee… ---
**Author:** ![tarragon918](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d26b3c/32.png) [@tarragon918](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tarragon918)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/419 "2008-04-26T04:45:13Z")
Oh my! {{{{{{{ **Haze** }}}}}}}}. No questions from me, just hugs and good thoughts. I will admit to being curious. 🙂 Found out that there’s a new used bookstore that opened back in February, so I’m going to check that out tomorrow, along with a coffee/pastry shop whose “grand opening” is tomorrow. Hope I can find some good used books! ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2008, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209/420 "2008-04-26T05:49:54Z")
[QUOTE=eleanorigby] (standing if for Mom, since she’s on the road). 🙂 [/QUOTE] I love you, **rigs**. And thanks, everyone, for being patient with me. Okay. :: deep breath :: So like, at the beginning of this week I was complaining about how That Guy is just now saying he wants to be with me after it’s too late to do anything about it, right? I sent him a snarky email to that effect, saying, “Well, gee, I want to stay too, and I’ve only told you this fifty billion times, but it’s too late now, isn’t it? Unless you’re going to marry me. I hear green card marriages are worth couple thousand dollars these days.” He came over today, like he usually does on Fridays. At first I thought he’d come to his senses and had decided that there’s not much to be done now except enjoy the last two months we have together. We made small talk about stuff: classes, etc., and eventually got around to serious talk. He told me how he’d been complacent, how he thought that I’d end up staying anyway regardless of what went on with us, since I obviously did not want to go back to Korea at all. I told him that I wanted to stay as much as ever, but it was just unrealistic and stupid for me to do so at this point. I also told him honestly that I might have fought harder to stay if we had an actual, you know, relationship. He admitted that he’d been stupid and cowardly and had realized how much I meant to him too late. I observed that we’re just very different people. “I do things impulsively; you overthink everything. C’est la vie.” Then he took a deep breath. “Okay. Could you just listen to me and not freak out for a few minutes? Just . . . just listen.” And then he dropped the bombshell that he broke up with Victorian Heroine and that he wanted to marry me so we could be togther. I think my mind just kind of blanked for a second. He obviously had given this a lot of thought. He talked about visa fees and lawyers and how he had enough money saved up to do this. He talked about _selling his drum set and his father’s wedding ring heirloom_. He talked about _flying to Korea so he could meet my parents_. I interrupted him. “Meet . . . meet my parents?” He gave me a funny look. “Well, if we did get married, of course. What do you think they’ll say?” I couldn’t even answer him, I was so flabbergasted. So not only was he suggesting marriage, he was suggesting, like AN ACTUAL MARRIAGE. Not for the sake of a green card. Really, really, getting married, having a wedding, telling our family and friends kind of marriage. It’s so strange. It’s like I’ve been begging for a chocolate bar and someone has offered me ownership of Godiva. Ironically, our positions have changed. Now it’s him being decisive and me being terrified. I don’t know what to think. Apparently That Guy asked Minister’s Lad for advice, and Minister’s Lad was all, “Dude, slow down, seriously.” Sound advice, I think. I haven’t decided anything yet, obviously, but for the moment I haven’t changed my mind about going back to Korea, at least for a few months. No matter what we decide, I think it would be wise to give ourselves some time apart, just to make sure this isn’t something he’s doing on a whim, or some weird chivalrous impulse. I have to say, though, I was flabbergasted by his sudden set of balls, so to speak. I mean, up til now it’s always been me saying, “If you really want to be with me, then be with me! All your worries are just excuses!” and him saying, “But what about all these problems blahblahblah.” And now, he’s like, “I love you. I want to be with you. We can do this,” and I’m like, “Holy shit, you are insane.” My life is weird. I tested the waters with my mom today. I told her that I’d been dating a friend (white guy) for the past year now but that I didn’t tell her because I wasn’t sure if it was going to ever be serious (half-truth), but now it might be and that I wanted her to know. She was . . . trying to be encouraging, but I could see that the idea of a non-Korean son-in-law kind of freaks her out. Heavens know what my dad is going to say. Although it might not even come to that, I supopse. I feel a bit calmer now. It was just so much to take in, and now I’m just very confused. Off to bed. Thanks for listening. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209.md?page=20) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-m-ad-lib-mmp/446209.md?page=22)