# A mother is dying.  Who will get the kids?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-mother-is-dying-who-will-get-the-kids/555954>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [October 3, 2010, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-mother-is-dying-who-will-get-the-kids/555954 "2010-10-03T23:01:27Z")\
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**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\
**Post date:** [October 5, 2010, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-mother-is-dying-who-will-get-the-kids/555954/61 "2010-10-05T10:31:33Z")

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> [@Stuffy](#):
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> > [@purplehorseshoe](#):
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> > Clarity. The kids have two father figures in their life currently - they _live with_ their mother’s boyfriend, so he counts as a stepfather-type figure. Therefore just saying “dad” is less than clear to a bunch of random strangers armchair quarterbacking someone’s life.
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> This. In fact, as indicated by my response other than the phrase “bio-dad” I’m surprised this is a serious discussion. The kids aren’t Mom’s property to be willed away to whomever, I find the attitude itself disgusting. These kids have a father already.

Yeah, that’s kind of that’s the way I feel, but I was not saying it because the mom’s in a stressful place. It seems likes any consideration of working with the the bio dad in this tragic scenario is way down their list. Manda Jo’s probably right re the impetus for this, but it’s still pretty dismissive of the bio dad.

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