# A pit of me (maybe TMI?) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 21, 2005, 9:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150 "2005-02-21T09:26:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Hunter\_Hawk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/50afbb/32.png) [@Hunter\_Hawk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hunter_Hawk)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/21 "2005-02-22T05:12:41Z")
> [@Queen Tonya](#): > > Is it weird to say ‘best wishes’ for a breakup? As in, I hope the two of you can disengage with as little drama and hurt feelings as possible, eh? > > Yeah, that’s weird, well intentioned but weird. Apparently there’s a reason Hallmark doesn’t make a card for this. _Roses are red Violets are blue You dumped the trash Now I’m dumping you_ ---
**Author:** ![Tenar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@Tenar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenar)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/22 "2005-02-22T22:49:09Z")
DO NOT KICK HIM DIRECTLY TO THE CURB. Continue to observe his behavior. Take voluminous notes. Write a sitcom about him. THEN kick him to the curb. He sounds hilariously funny. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 7:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/23 "2005-02-23T07:04:35Z")
I’m gonna go against the grain here, and say that despite all of his shortcomings (and don’t forget that **every single person** has plenty of idiosyncracies that drive others up the proverbial wall) you sound like you love him heaps. He may be a bit dumb sometimes, and he may do strange dances when the trashman comes, but really, are they the worst things in the world? Your OP and your latter post came across to me as mild _bewilderment_ that you could possibly be with someone like him, but it also conveyed a sincere loving for him. That’s what relationships are all about. Rejoice in your love for this man. 🙂 And keep us posted about his latest antics. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/24 "2005-02-23T07:40:34Z")
I agree with **kambuckta**. Bet you feel better after letting off some steam, though, **hoosier mama**. BTW – love your user name. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/25 "2005-02-23T08:06:37Z")
It sounds like despite the stuff he does that drives you crazy, there is some chemistry. I can’t help but note that you seem to equate your relationship with him as one of your pets, because you kind of use language people use to describe animals, particularly pet animals. When you talk about the guy, its almost like you’re talking about your pet dog. Kind of weird. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/26 "2005-02-23T14:16:02Z")
“You are an idiotic, slimy piece of cunt muscle.” No, it doesn’t sound at all to me like she loves him. She did say she cared for him, but that’s not the same as love. I’d be willing to bet that she does have some attachment to him, but that she’s not in love with him. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/27 "2005-02-23T15:06:48Z")
She said that to _herself_. Because she’s still with him. But you’re not, **hoosier mama.** You’ve just woken up. What went before isn’t necessarily an indicator of your “dumbness.” Everybody can get complacent. Change is hard. Good luck to you. ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/28 "2005-02-23T15:13:23Z")
> [@hoosier mama](#): > > In the spirit of the pit (to myself): you are an idiotic, slimy piece of cunt muscle. You are wasting your lesser-educated brain on a leech of the world’s oxygen supply. You are so insecure that you would rather be associated with the likes of the worm-infested waste of your animals than be alone. Grow up and grow some balls; you know better than to tolerate ignorance let alone subject yourself to stupidity. Bullshit. You’re not pitting yourself, you’re pitting him. Which is sad, because _you_ were on the rebound, _you_ initiated the relationship, you got what you wanted from him, and once you’re ready to move on, _now_ you notice he’s a “leech on the world’s oxygen supply”. Do _both_ of you a favor, and end it sooner rather than later. If you honestly have that little respect for him, you’re no better for him than he is for you. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/29 "2005-02-23T16:23:47Z")
> [@cuauhtemoc](#): > > Do _both_ of you a favor, and end it sooner rather than later. If you honestly have that little respect for him, you’re no better for him than he is for you. This bears repeating. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/30 "2005-02-23T19:05:03Z")
Hoosier Mama, you’re the funniest poster to come around in a long while. I like the “slimy piece of cunt muscle” insult, although I don’t think you should apply it to yourself. I don’t have much advice. I stayed with a dummy for a long time too, and I even had a kid with him. He wasn’t quite as dense as your guy, but he might be when he gets older. 😃 That said, if you really feel so much animosity towards him, it’s mean to keep him around just to laugh at him and tell him he’s dumb. But, if you love him, then maybe you can get past all this (although it sounds like it would be a hard thing to get past). Good luck, and definitely keep us posted. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![MagicEyes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@MagicEyes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MagicEyes)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2005, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/31 "2005-02-24T01:50:20Z")
> [@hoosier mama](#): > > Tonight: I honestly don’t remember how the yelling started. It did end with me screeching (like only neurotic women can) that “dogs fart!, women do not steal ribs!, stars aren’t reflections of the sun’s light! and I HAVE NEVER HAD A LITTLE PENIS INSIDE OF ME OTHER THAN YOURS!” The old man is soundly sleeping in my bed right now. I laughed so hard at this, I almost passed out. And then I saw “The trash men are coming, hee-hee, ha-ha.” You’re killing me! And then the housecoat and Eeyore slippers. Stop it–I’m laughing so hard I can’t breathe!!! This is one of the best stories I’ve heard in a long time. Are you a professional writer? If not, you should be! In your list of reasons to stay with him, 1 1/2 is very important. If your animals like him, there must be something good about him. ME ---
**Author:** ![MrFantsyPants](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ba0ec/32.png) [@MrFantsyPants](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrFantsyPants)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2005, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150/32 "2005-02-24T03:31:33Z")
Ask yourself this… If you woke up tomorrow with an infinite amount of courage, what would you do? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-pit-of-me-maybe-tmi/291150.md?page=1)