# A poll for guys... be honest. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 31, 2004, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885 "2004-01-31T06:29:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/1 "2004-01-31T06:29:35Z")
As a guy, do you like having a girl make eye contact during sex? She can be your wife, girlfriend, bed buddy, newest conquest… doesn’t matter. Or does it? I’m curious what I’ll get for responses. This is not the thread for jokers or clowns. I need honesty. Do you like eye contact during sex? Does the kind of sex make a difference? Does your partner’s status (wife, girlfriend, bed buddy, etc…) make a difference? Without getting into some raunchy TMI, of course. ---
**Author:** ![MeanJoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanjoe/32/5693_2.png) [@MeanJoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanJoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/2 "2004-01-31T06:37:45Z")
Yes, I like eye contact during sex. During love of my life sex… During sweaty sex… During raunchy sex… During quicky sex… Just about during any sex. MeanJoe ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/3 "2004-01-31T06:38:39Z")
Yes. The only time it’s absolutely necessary is when I’m recieving oral sex, though. I _love_ that. ---
**Author:** ![jkirkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ac8455/32.png) [@jkirkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jkirkman)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/4 "2004-01-31T06:39:02Z")
Hmmm. A FEW times in my life, I have maintained eye contact pretty much all the way throughout. It was with the two great loves of my life, and it was rare. Otherwise, even if I am totally into you, and thinking solely of you and me and what we are doing, I pretty much have them closed because I’m thinking about what I am feeling and doing (both selfishly and feedback) and not about what I am seeing. The times I have maintained eye contact were very special, but I posit that I maintained eye contact BECAUSE they were special, and not the reverse. Sheesh, cold shower time. –jack ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/5 "2004-01-31T06:44:59Z")
Being a virgin, I can’t answer that. But often times just regular eye contact with a girl can make me nervous because I’m not used to getting any attention from girls. When a random girl looks at me, which might happen once every 6 months, I usually just think there might be something on my face. Oh, and physical contact to, that gets me every time. Like just two weeks ago, this one girl who has been very friendly towards me recently just randomly put her arms around me. My mind is so unfamilar with that sort of physical contact that it threw me into a state of confusion and I just tensed up really bad. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![MeanJoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanjoe/32/5693_2.png) [@MeanJoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanJoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/6 "2004-01-31T06:45:56Z")
> [@dutchboy208](#): > > Yes. > > The only time it’s absolutely necessary is when I’m recieving oral sex, though. I _love_ that. Yes, what Dutchboy208 said! I was going to say the same thing in my first post but refrained. Ain’t nothing hotter! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/7 "2004-01-31T06:53:20Z")
I forgot to add a big ol’ “Why?”… why do you like it? Keep it clean please. I’m just curious. ---
**Author:** ![MeanJoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanjoe/32/5693_2.png) [@MeanJoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanJoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/8 "2004-01-31T06:59:38Z")
> [@SanguineSpider](#): > > I forgot to add a big ol’ “Why?”… > > why do you like it? Keep it clean please. I’m just curious. Because it is sexy. Because it beats the hell out of her stairing at the ceiling. Because it can convey fun, excitement, thrill, naughtyness or love. Because during oral sex well… it just looks so damn hot. MeanJoe ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/9 "2004-01-31T07:14:06Z")
So during oral sex, if your partner has her eyes closed, it takes away from the experience? Or during sex in general? ---
**Author:** ![MeanJoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanjoe/32/5693_2.png) [@MeanJoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanJoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/10 "2004-01-31T07:23:38Z")
> [@SanguineSpider](#): > > So during oral sex, if your partner has her eyes closed, it takes away from the experience? Or during sex in general? Well, no not generally. I mean afterall, I’m still getting oral sex and that is always better than say… fishing. It is just a nice touch. During sex in general, not really either unless it is the aforementioned staring at the ceiling and that can just un-nerve a guy. 😉 MeanJoe ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/11 "2004-01-31T07:45:59Z")
Do you verbally request it, **dutchboy208** or she just knows to do it? I’m guessing you have a monogamous partner, I could be wrong. It will be interesting to see more guys respond to this since I’m counting. ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 7:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/12 "2004-01-31T07:49:32Z")
Are these regular partners or one-nighters? Or does it matter? ---
**Author:** ![MeanJoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanjoe/32/5693_2.png) [@MeanJoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanJoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 8:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/13 "2004-01-31T08:04:22Z")
> [@SanguineSpider](#): > > Are these regular partners or one-nighters? Or does it matter? It does not matter to me. I am married now and monogomous but in the past I think in every instance there was some form of eye contact. ---
**Author:** ![Doomtrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/0ea827/32.png) [@Doomtrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doomtrain)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/14 "2004-01-31T08:24:54Z")
I’ve never really noticed. I’m not really paying attention to eyes. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/15 "2004-01-31T10:39:42Z")
For just knocking it out? Not so much… With my one true love? Yes. Seems very intimate. ---
**Author:** ![Art\_Barber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/edb3f5/32.png) [@Art\_Barber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Art_Barber)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 10:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/16 "2004-01-31T10:44:18Z")
> [@dutchboy208](#): > > The only time it’s absolutely necessary is when I’m recieving oral sex, though. I _love_ that. Jesus, I _hate_ that. Whenever she does that, she inevitably pays less attention to what she is doing. It breaks both her concentration and mine. Art ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 10:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/17 "2004-01-31T10:50:58Z")
Yes, eye contact during sex can be sexy. I like it, but I don’t do it the whole time we’re having sex or anything. Like **GMRyujin** said, I’m not looking at eyes so much… I happen to also think that having a woman throw her head back, close her eyes and pant filthy epithets while I’m making love to her is awfully damn sexy, too. 😃 Married and monogamous, FWIW. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/18 "2004-01-31T10:55:26Z")
> [@SanguineSpider](#): > > Do you verbally request it, **dutchboy208** or she just knows to do it? I’m guessing you have a monogamous partner, I could be wrong. It will be interesting to see more guys respond to this since I’m counting. Actually, I’ve never requested it. Somehow it’s not quite the same as “a little to the left”. The first girl who did it was a monogamous partner- at time of writing, I’m not getting oral sex at all, let alone eye contact ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/19 "2004-01-31T10:56:45Z")
> [@Art Barber](#): > > Jesus, I _hate_ that. Whenever she does that, she inevitably pays less attention to what she is doing. It breaks both her concentration and mine. > > Art Possible TMI: I’m not saying constant, unbroken eye contact. But looking up at me while pausing to lick, and so forth, is more erotic than anything else I can think of. ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2004, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885/20 "2004-01-31T14:44:03Z")
Ummm, no opinion. Here is a smiley fo **dutchboy\_208** : :o :eek: 😕 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-guys-be-honest/226885.md?page=2)