# A Poll for Married Dopers **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 4, 2008, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851 "2008-08-04T22:52:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/41 "2008-08-05T02:16:00Z")
A. It has never been in doubt for the last 45 years! šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![E.Thorp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@E.Thorp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/E.Thorp)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/42 "2008-08-05T02:17:52Z")
Hetero. Iā€™m 40, sheā€™s 31. Together 11 years, married 7. I would be very surprised at anything other than **A**. ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_T](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Gary\_T](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_T)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/43 "2008-08-05T02:18:22Z")
A. MId 50ā€™s, married 23 years, no kids. ---
**Author:** ![conurepete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e57/32.png) [@conurepete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/conurepete)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/44 "2008-08-05T02:19:09Z")
C D if he gets suicidal ---
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/45 "2008-08-05T02:20:33Z")
Married 27 years, three kids, looking at empty nest. I would have said A, but the past two weeks or so have been interesting, to say the least, so now itā€™s probably A- or A.3 or something like that. Itā€™ll straighten out soon, I think. ---
**Author:** ![NicePete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ee7513/32.png) [@NicePete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NicePete)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/46 "2008-08-05T02:24:32Z")
A 20th anniversary coming up at the end of the month. Weā€™ve stuck together through some very tough times so far. Sheā€™s my best friend, I canā€™t imagine not wanting to be with her. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/47 "2008-08-05T02:30:57Z")
Iā€™m a pessimist, and we have gone through a rough patch or two, so I say **B**. Iā€™m just not comforatable saying ā€œneverā€. But, I am very happy (and I believe she is too), and I would be astonished if we didnā€™t spend the rest of our lives together. Weā€™re hetero, both ~35. Together 9 years, married 6, no youngā€™uns. ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/48 "2008-08-05T02:34:51Z")
Solid A We met freshman year in college. I was dating her roommate. Spring break we discovered we lived a mile from each other back home. Itā€™s been more than 22 years and weā€™re married 15 of those two weeks ago. Weā€™re pair bonded as strong as Iā€™ve ever seen any couple. Mostly because we understand each other and the rest of the world appears to be constructed mostly of people who donā€™t make sense and donā€™t try. ---
**Author:** ![JpnDude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/838e76/32.png) [@JpnDude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JpnDude)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/49 "2008-08-05T02:39:46Z")
Between **A** and **B**. We are very happy and confident in our marriage, but one never knows the future. Hetero, inter-cultural, dated for 5 years, been married for 8 years. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/50 "2008-08-05T03:03:22Z")
A, no question. Hetero, married 26 years, ages 49 and 51. ---
**Author:** ![BaneSidhe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c5a1d2/32.png) [@BaneSidhe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaneSidhe)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/51 "2008-08-05T03:29:27Z")
ā€œBā€ with a heavy leaning to ā€œAā€ especially after the shit we had to live through when I had my breakdowns. Hetero, married 14 years. no kids. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/52 "2008-08-05T03:47:46Z")
Male, 46. Married for 2+ years. **A**. After what weā€™ve been together, we are commited to each other. We decided early on to complete commit and to work on any issues which may come up. ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/53 "2008-08-05T03:56:46Z")
B, even though I think weā€™re more solid than 99% of married couples. You just never know what the future holds. A tragic event like the death of a child could potentially tear us apart (I have no idea that it actually would, but Iā€™m using it as an example of something Iā€™ve heard often unexpectedly ends in divorce.) I feel like A but I think B is the realistic choice for everybody. Both of us are 27, together 5 years, married 3. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Bruin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Queen\_Bruin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Bruin)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/54 "2008-08-05T04:10:52Z")
A. If we made it through what we have already, weā€™ll make it through anything that doesnā€™t come from within. Hetero, me 27, him 36, living together 8 years and married for 4 of those. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/55 "2008-08-05T04:33:23Z")
A. 18 years together. Almost 3 kids. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/56 "2008-08-05T04:57:27Z")
A, very likely, but who can foresee the future? Straight, married almost 18 years (anniversary on Aug. 11), three wonderful sons. So far, so good! Sheā€™s smart (PBK), beautiful, kind, tolerant, well-read and a talented cook. Same politics and religious views as me. We have a lot of shared interests but are also secure enough that each of us is cool with the other having different interests, too. She makes me happy and still turns me on; I do my best to return the favor. Iā€™m a very lucky man. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/57 "2008-08-05T07:20:50Z")
B. Itā€™s great, but the past couple of years living overseas have been kind of rough. I probably would have said A before moving here, but I think B is more realistic. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 12:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/58 "2008-08-05T12:39:46Z")
Hetero, married 7 years, together almost 9. Heā€™s 35, Iā€™m 27. Very solidly ā€œAā€. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/59 "2008-08-05T12:49:13Z")
Missed my edit window ā€¦ I keep forgetting I had one of those ā€œbirthdayā€ things back in May ā€¦ Iā€™m 28. ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2008, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851/60 "2008-08-05T12:55:58Z")
A - 20 years married - Donā€™t we all come into it with the idea that this is an A? Although, if she makes me late again, Iā€™m downgrading us to a B. Thatā€™ll show her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-married-dopers/458851.md?page=4)