# A Poll for the Guys (about Sex) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 12, 2007, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122 "2007-11-12T12:29:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![iPatch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/97f17d/32.png) [@iPatch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iPatch)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/1 "2007-11-12T12:29:21Z")
Can you tell by ‘feel’ how long it’s been between sex with your partner? In other words, do you notice a corralation between tightness and frequency of sex? Bonus question: Regardless of answer to the above, did you ever _think_ this was possible? ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/2 "2007-11-12T13:22:39Z")
Wow! No. Is that real? Holy shit, you just blew my mind! ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/3 "2007-11-12T13:30:50Z")
As long as it’s been more than about 5 minutes, no. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/4 "2007-11-12T13:39:00Z")
No. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/5 "2007-11-12T13:39:14Z")
No, never been able to tell. Yes, it has crossed my mind. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/6 "2007-11-12T14:18:15Z")
No to both. ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/7 "2007-11-12T14:19:26Z")
[Bangs head] Actually yes. When I and a and long term gf… Y’know, I won’t go any further since it’s a poll. But yes. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/8 "2007-11-12T14:29:38Z")
No. In fact, I think that’s kind of ridiculous. Hell, I couldn’t tell a “difference in tightness” six weeks after my ex had _given birth to a six pound human being_. By comparison to _that_ ordeal, my modest pecker isn’t going to knock things out of whack very much, vaginally speaking _ETA: Yes, I did wonder about it, but it’s never been true for any girl I’ve been with_. ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/9 "2007-11-12T14:50:52Z")
Um, no. Then again I have a pretty good physiological understaning regarding the female reproductive system. And I have a good attitude towards menstruation. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/10 "2007-11-12T14:54:19Z")
No. Tightness can simply mean she’s been doing her Kegels. ---
**Author:** ![Martiju](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@Martiju](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martiju)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/11 "2007-11-12T15:01:40Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] my modest pecker isn’t going to knock things out of whack very much, vaginally speaking _ETA: Yes, I did wonder about it, but it’s never been true for any girl I’ve been with_. [/QUOTE] You speak for yourself! Wasn’t there some thread on the site that seemed to indicate that we all (women included probably) had at least 14" and 8" girth…?! Oh, and no. And no. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/12 "2007-11-12T15:03:23Z")
No and, No. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/13 "2007-11-12T15:41:55Z")
I know I always butt in on the ‘for men’ threads, but I had to answer from the female perspective- YES. And he notices, too. ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/14 "2007-11-12T15:56:28Z")
Actually, yes. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/15 "2007-11-12T15:59:09Z")
No and no. Anyone who says they can tell is imagining things. There is no physiological reason they would be able to tell. It doesn’t get bigger. ---
**Author:** ![brendon\_small](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brendon_small/32/17101_2.png) [@brendon\_small](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brendon_small)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/16 "2007-11-12T15:59:35Z")
To the first, I would have to say no. I don’t notice much of a difference except when my wife and I did have sex for the first time after the birth of our son. It was slightly tighter, but that was after 5.5 weeks plus a few days before the birth. It wasn’t much different, but it should be noted that up until that point it was at least once a week. I had wondered about this before, but never would have said anything about it aloud. Brendon Small ---
**Author:** ![I\_m\_No\_Saint](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/977dab/32.png) [@I\_m\_No\_Saint](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_m_No_Saint)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/17 "2007-11-12T16:30:04Z")
Yeah, I believe I can. ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/18 "2007-11-12T16:35:03Z")
Nope. Unless, as others have mentioned we are talking about some back to back to back stuff. So long as I can get the cap off my Heineken, all is good. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/19 "2007-11-12T16:45:02Z")
[QUOTE=Cat Fight] I know I always butt … [/QUOTE] At first I thought this answer was going in a very different direction. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2007, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122/20 "2007-11-12T17:04:07Z")
[QUOTE=brendon\_small] To the first, I would have to say no. I don’t notice much of a difference except when my wife and I did have sex for the first time after the birth of our son. It was slightly tighter, but that was after 5.5 weeks plus a few days before the birth. It wasn’t much different, but it should be noted that up until that point it was at least once a week. I had wondered about this before, but never would have said anything about it aloud. Brendon Small [/QUOTE] Hormones released after delivery and during nursing (primarily oxytocin) will tighten all smooth muscle tissue, which includes the vagina (using the technical term to refer to the birth canal, not the colloquial “vagina” which includes the labia and other external genitalia). Some women who have had c-sections (so the vagina was never stretched during childbirth) have a very difficult time having sex six weeks later, because the hormones have tightened up muscles that were never loosened. There are techniques and exercises, including graduated medical grade “prostheses” (dildoes), that a gynecologist can prescribe in order to gently loosen things up again. In other words, the period after childbirth doesn’t “count.” There is a hormonal reason for it, and a measurable change in the resting diameter of the vagina. But anecdotally as a woman, I feel a difference, and my partner reports one as well, if it’s been more than a couple of weeks since intercourse. So the real answer may be that different women’s bodies react differently to periods of abstinence. I’d certainly expect a difference between women who use dildoes and/or vaginal vibrators while they’re not sleeping with a man and those who use only clitoral stimulation or don’t masturbate at all. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-for-the-guys-about-sex/426122.md?page=2)