# A poll, of a somewhat TMI nature. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 8, 2008, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779 "2008-11-08T06:04:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2008, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/61 "2008-11-08T21:36:57Z")
Yuck. Definitely rude, though not deliberately so. I probably wouldn’t have gone nuclear, though. I might have mentioned it to him and asked him to clean it up, but he’s still a guest. Not that such status means he can shit in the sink or something, but since it seems like an unthinking, genuine mistake, I’d take a lighter tone. A well-timed “Hey, X, you missed the toilet and peed on the seat! Mind wiping that up for me?” would probably go a long way toward preventing him and anyone else present from ever making that mistake again. Just make sure you do it in front of everyone. As a bonus, he’ll probably be very embarrassed. 😉 Oh, and I’m female. ---
**Author:** ![gravitycrash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/977dab/32.png) [@gravitycrash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gravitycrash)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2008, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/62 "2008-11-08T21:52:17Z")
I even clean up the toilet seat in hotel rooms. Why should some poor Hispanic woman have to clean up for my poor aim. I also clean up the toilet seat after some back splash.:o ---
**Author:** ![fervour](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@fervour](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fervour)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2008, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/63 "2008-11-08T23:16:41Z")
Male here. The guy was rude and gross. But there is apparently a lot of members of my sex who don’t care. Be glad you don’t have to use a public men’s room. Personally I’m glad you called him out on his behavior. Maybe he’ll behave more considerately for others in the future. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2008, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/64 "2008-11-08T23:30:47Z")
> [@picunurse](#): > > Yesterday my husband invited some friends over. One of them (male) used the bathroom and peed on the seat! > I went a bit nuclear. > All the guys thought I over reacted. Even my husband asked what I was so excited about, after all, it was just urine… Urine is sterile. > Yes, most urine is sterile.. while it’s inside the body! He thinks it’s just a girly ick thing. I think almost anyone would find it gross. > So, what do you think? Please, include your gender. Male here. First… real men don’t piss standing up with the toilet seat down. It either leads to either the work of wiping it off, or being a complete jackass who leaves it sitting there soaked with piss. If you’re a woman and find the seat up, don’t complain, thank whoever it was who kept your seat sanitary by raising it. Though smearing urine around on a seat with toilet paper may remove the visible contamination, it still doesn’t exactly sterilize it. Second… if you find piss on the seat, you may want to take pause before you go nuclear on someone. I had a friend (female) who went into the bathroom, found the seat had been given a golden shower treatment, found the house-guest (female) who had used it immediately before, and gave her a humiliating and public dressing-down. The object of the tirade, livid, protested that the seat was already sprinkled with piss when she got there, and it wasn’t her job to clean up someone else’s piss nor sit in it. So she just “hovered” and went about her business. I’m not sure what the right etiquette is in that situation, but I’m pretty sure my friend was in the wrong for hunting down the alleged perpetrator and publicly embarrassing her. ---
**Author:** ![vandal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/858c86/32.png) [@vandal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vandal)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2008, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/65 "2008-11-08T23:41:17Z")
Well, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I would hope he _unknowingly_ dripped a few drops onto the seat, and simply didn’t know there was anything to clean up. If he did know about it though, then yeah, that’s just classless, and gross. If that’s his normal MO at his own domain, then hey, that’s his business, but when he’s a guest in someone’s home, then act accordingly. ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2008, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/66 "2008-11-08T23:58:32Z")
> [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](#): > > Female…gross. I cannot understand why a guy would do this and not wipe it off. I would do so to avoid embarassment, if nothing else! Male. You left out that it’s also incredibly rude. Who would go into anyone’s home and make a mess like that and not clean it off? If Ms Hook was that offended by one of my friends actions in our own home I’d tell him to clean up his act (clean up his act, snerk, snerk) or keep away! ---
**Author:** ![dactylic\_hexameter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d26b3c/32.png) [@dactylic\_hexameter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dactylic_hexameter)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2008, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/67 "2008-11-09T00:00:51Z")
The appropriate response is clearly to walk over to him and touch him somewhere (cheek, neck, arm, hand, face ideally) with a dripping wet hand. When he complains that you got him wet, say “sorry, about that! We were out of TP, so I used my hand…what? Urine’s sterile!” ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2008, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/68 "2008-11-09T00:03:46Z")
> [@dactylic\_hexameter](#): > > The appropriate response is clearly to walk over to him and touch him somewhere (cheek, neck, arm, hand, face ideally) with a dripping wet hand. When he complains that you got him wet, say “sorry, about that! We were out of TP, so I used my hand…what? Urine’s sterile!” It’s childish, but I use that joke whenever I can. ::touch:: “Ew, your hands are wet!” “Sorry, I just peed. Sprayed a little.” ---
**Author:** ![Mrs\_Johnson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7cd45c/32.png) [@Mrs\_Johnson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs_Johnson)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2008, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/69 "2008-11-09T01:08:24Z")
Female It’s gross: I don’t care if it’s supposedly sterile. Other peoples’ body fluids are gross. It’s inconsiderate: Someone else has to clean up after you. Clean up your own bodily fluids! I’m thankful I’ve never once had to clean the seat after Mr J. That would piss me off. ---
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2008, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/70 "2008-11-09T04:25:55Z")
Male It’s just jerkish behavior because it means that now I have to clean up someone else’s piss. There is really some dickish sense of entitlement going on if you think other people are willing to clean up your piss. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2008, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/71 "2008-11-09T05:23:25Z")
Male, and that’s gross. Some of my gender are just plain, flat-out pigs. Check the men’s room at a truck stop or service station sometime. It’s hard to tell if the previous users were born in a barn or under one. ---
**Author:** ![Azeotrope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/0ea827/32.png) [@Azeotrope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azeotrope)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/72 "2008-11-10T01:54:57Z")
female, and another vote for ewwwwwww! And as for the sterility argument, so is molten lava, but I wouldn’t want to sit on that either. My official biggest pet peeve is women who “hover” in public restrooms and appear to have a lawn sprinkler installed downbelowdecks, because I can see piddle all over the seat, floor, and in one really bad case a suspiciously moist roll of toilet paper in the holder. I remember in college, above the TP holder in every stall in every ladies’ room in one building there was a typewritten notice reading “IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO SIT, PLEASE WIPE THE SEAT SO THE REST OF US DO NOT HAVE TO SIT ON YOUR URINE!!!” Obviously someone on staff got pissed off (pun intended with malice aforethought) one time too many. ---
**Author:** ![Taenia\_spp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5e925/32.png) [@Taenia\_spp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taenia_spp)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/73 "2008-11-10T02:50:05Z")
Male here, and it’s definitely very gross. However, I’d just clean it up, file this away in **Husband’s Friend’s** permanent record, and continue on with the pleasantries of the evening. If he comes by later and has a repeat performance, all hell will break loose. ---
**Author:** ![Vihaga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Vihaga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vihaga)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/74 "2008-11-10T15:36:02Z")
Female. Peeing on the toilet seat is rude, but almost certainly not deliberate. Humiliating a guest for something that was almost certainly an accident, however, is unforgivably rude, so I would clean it up and go about my business. If he made a habit of it, I’d say something to him privately, or, if it was a gathering of people I knew _very_ well, I’d make a general announcement for whoever was peeing on the seat to stop it, without naming names. ---
**Author:** ![Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eyebrows_0f_doom/32/3119_2.png) [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/75 "2008-11-10T16:06:00Z")
> [@Vihaga](#): > > Female. > Peeing on the toilet seat is rude, but almost certainly not deliberate. Yes accidents happen. However, not wiping it up afterwards \*is \*deliberate. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/76 "2008-11-10T16:12:56Z")
> [@ugly ripe tomato](#): > > My official biggest pet peeve is women who “hover” in public restrooms and appear to have a lawn sprinkler installed downbelowdecks, because I can see piddle all over the seat, floor, and in one really bad case a suspiciously moist roll of toilet paper in the holder. This drives me crazy, too. I often think that women are worse than men about peeing on the seat. There’s nothing worse than a woman hellbent on hovering on shaky legs, convinced that putting her butt on the seat is tantamount to sitting in a puddle of raw sewage. Of course, after the hover method, it often is. ---
**Author:** ![robertdc54](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/45deac/32.png) [@robertdc54](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertdc54)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/77 "2008-11-10T16:18:14Z")
im a guy and i think this is gross, at least clean up after yourself. ---
**Author:** ![cmosdes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@cmosdes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmosdes)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/78 "2008-11-10T16:19:58Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > Hey, “close” only scores points in horseshoes and hand grenades, right? And thermonuclear devices… [QUOTE=SpecialAgentJem] Female here \…I wouldnt have the balls [/QUOTE] I think that follows by definition. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/79 "2008-11-10T16:57:18Z")
Peeing on the seat in a private home (ie., someplace where you’re not afraid to touch the seat) is evidence of stupidity, poor hand-eye-penis coordination, _and_ rudeness (if you don’t clean it up). I’m male. It’s gross. I don’t care if it’s sterile- I don’t want to clean up other people’s bodily wastes. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2008, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779/80 "2008-11-10T17:47:56Z")
> [@Napier](#): > > It’s true, occasionally a seat is obstructed from opening all the way and will not stay up. I imagine this is much less unlikely in a household without males. It is generally tactically difficult to hold the seat up with one hand while peeing, unless one is in a state of near-complete undress. Leaving pee on the seat in this kind of situation, though, requires either tremendous thickheadedness or a warpedly inappropriate sense of justice.. Yes, this is the only time I don’t lift the seat, some uber-padded seats won’t stay up. I can’t figure out why female hover-ers don’t lift the seat. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-poll-of-a-somewhat-tmi-nature/471779.md?page=5)