Shakester, you raise a very good point. I respect your request that this is not about YOUR poverty, but I must ask you this. Have you ever been rich, or relatively well-off? Say, upper-middle-class? In other words, have you experienced both states?
I ask this because I have been poor and I am now definitely upper-middle-class. But there have been times in the last few years when I have been so depressed as to verge on suicidal.
Then again, I agree with the aphorism: “If you think money doesn’t bring happiness, try poverty!”
As to the part about choices, I see what you mean. George Orwell, who experienced poverty and wrote about it, noted something that really made me think. He noted how “complicated” everything is when you’re poor. Now, most people who have only known affluence would assume that one of the “good things” about poverty is that it makes life simple. Orwell noted that it is just the opposite. And I understand what he means.
When well-off people like me think their life is complicated, it is usually because of things like the fact that I have to pay taxes on a vacation home in the country as well as a luxury condo in the city, or that they have to find somebody to take care of their cats while they are off on a cruise.
So let me sum it up like this. I think that we can safely assume that the most normal aim in human life is to be happy.
So what I have found is that poverty is indeed a bar to happiness, especially if it is severe. It would take quite an unusual person to be happy when their children are starving in front of them, for example. It does not make you happy not to be able to send a brilliant child to a good school because you are too poor.
The trouble is, though, that we are likely to extrapolate that there is a direct ratio between income and happiness, and that is the big mistake.
So here is my rule: Money brings happiness to the extent that it will eliminate the worst aspects of poverty. But as you progress up the material/income/social scale, the role played by material well-being in your happiness becomes smaller and smaller, and the role played by your emotional and mental health becomes greater and greater.