# A Question For The Male Dopers...

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [July 14, 2001, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-for-the-male-dopers/72454 "2001-07-14T04:58:44Z")\
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**Author:** ![silent\_rob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@silent\_rob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silent_rob)\
**Post date:** [September 12, 2001, 9:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-for-the-male-dopers/72454/61 "2001-09-12T09:39:10Z")

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Personally, I don’t lust after all of my female friends. Sure, sexual thoughts pass through my head about some of them, and I’ll notice if they’re attractive, but I also make a distinction.  
If, in my mind, a friend is off-limits, then I most-likely won’t think about sex with them. Now, that brings up the question of what makes a friend off-limits. That’s a tough one…it can be different things. If the female friend is either really close or has a SO, then that might make them off-limits in my mind. I guess with both it’s kind of an internal honour mechanism: they trust me or their SO trusts me, so I must be trustworthy. Not to say that those that think otherwise are in the wrong; this is just my thing.  
However, that doesn’t mean that I can’t see anything ever happening with my female friends. It just means that, for the most part, if the relationship is only one for friendship, that’s how I think about it.  
Now, there are exceptions. For instance, if a female friend is talking about sex (ie. them having it). How could I not think about it then? 😃

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