# A Question \[possible to friend someone?\] **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [August 24, 2023, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044 "2023-08-24T16:40:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Jagraze1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jagraze1/32/14870_2.png) [@Jagraze1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jagraze1)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/1 "2023-08-24T16:40:11Z")
Is it possible to friend someone on this forum? Is so how? ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/2 "2023-08-24T17:26:46Z")
There was a way to friend other users on vBulletin but that didn’t carry over when we migrated here to Discourse. ---
**Author:** ![Jagraze1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jagraze1/32/14870_2.png) [@Jagraze1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jagraze1)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/3 "2023-08-24T17:31:38Z")
So we can’t friend people here? ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/4 "2023-08-24T17:34:45Z")
All I know is that I no longer have a “friends” list. There’s a “send invite” thing but I have no clue what it does, if anything. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/5 "2023-08-24T18:02:22Z")
The closest thing we have is our ignored and muted lists. Clearly Discourse isn’t very friendly. 😛 To be honest, I had people on my friends list on the old board, but it didn’t really seem to serve any actual purpose from what I could tell, so its absence here isn’t a big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Jagraze1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jagraze1/32/14870_2.png) [@Jagraze1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jagraze1)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/6 "2023-08-24T18:10:47Z")
Where? ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/7 "2023-08-24T18:15:03Z")
Notes from Discourse on Invites: > **[Create and use Invites](https://meta.discourse.org/t/create-and-use-invites/263314)** > > By default, users can start sending invites once they reach Trust Level 2. The invite page can be accessed from the user menu: Invites can be created from here, and it will also list any pending invites that have yet to be redeemed: An... We don’t really use them here. But they could be I think. It seems easier to PM someone. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/8 "2023-08-24T18:15:39Z")
Click this and it will take you to your own invites page: > **[@Jagraze1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jagraze1/invited/pending)** ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/9 "2023-08-24T18:20:55Z")
> [@Jagraze1](#): > > So we can’t friend people here? No. We don’t have that here. > [@Atamasama](#): > > To be honest, I had people on my friends list on the old board, but it didn’t really seem to serve any actual purpose from what I could tell, so its absence here isn’t a big deal. In vBulletin, you could set things in your profile to be visible to everyone, visible only to friends, or not visible at all to anyone (except mods and admins). It was also fairly easy to send a PM to someone on your friends list. It was also more difficult to look up someone’s exact user name on vBulletin. Discourse makes it much easier to find someone’s user name, so the ability to quickly PM from your friends list isn’t so important on the new software. Most people didn’t really use the friend features on vBulletin, probably due to its very limited functionality. I can’t remember anyone complaining about its absence after we moved to Discourse. ETA: I have also updated the title of this thread/topic. Please use descriptive titles. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/10 "2023-08-24T18:26:10Z")
> [@What\_Exit](#): > > Notes from Discourse on Invites I believe you have to be Trust Level 2 to send invites. New users can’t send invites. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/11 "2023-08-24T18:29:50Z")
That is how the documentation reads from Discourse. Still vague on what an **invite** would do for someone on the board. It would work better to send to someone off the board. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/12 "2023-08-24T18:31:42Z")
I think it just invites someone to participate in either a thread or a PM, and that’s it. I’ve never actually used it so I’m not sure. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/13 "2023-08-24T18:35:53Z")
After fiddling with it a little bit, it looks like you can send it to someone’s email to invite them to the board. It will send them a link to a specific thread/topic. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/14 "2023-08-24T18:48:19Z")
Yes, that seems to be the main use. But I mean most people would just text or Email the link. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/15 "2023-08-24T19:04:05Z")
FYI, I’m glad we don’t “friend” each other here. How many of those “friends” on other social media are actually friends? “Hi, this is Digs. Digs, with a D… you don’t know me, but I’m at the airport. And since we’re Facebook friends, I was hoping you could pick me up…” ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/16 "2023-08-24T19:15:16Z")
Yeah, we’re all friends here. Even the few dipsticks among us. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/17 "2023-08-24T19:29:36Z")
Awww. I’ll be your friend. (Clearly I don’t understand how other social media things use the _friend_ people whatchamacallit) ---
**Author:** ![Jagraze1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jagraze1/32/14870_2.png) [@Jagraze1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jagraze1)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/18 "2023-08-24T20:22:16Z")
Huh?? ---
**Author:** ![cincinnatus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cincinnatus/32/7990_2.png) [@cincinnatus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cincinnatus)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/19 "2023-08-24T23:21:07Z")
> [@snowthx](#): > > Even the few dipsticks among us. Ahh, there’s more than a few. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2023, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044/20 "2023-08-24T23:35:44Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Awww. I’ll be your friend. > [@Jagraze1](#): > > Huh?? Aha, you’ve already figured out the proper response to Becks running at you with arms open wide… Watch out, friendship with her entails being dragged into her weird family and even weirder pranks (often involving you in a Bigfoot costume). [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-question-possible-to-friend-someone/989044.md?page=2)