# A quick and easy question for the homosexual community

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058>\
**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [May 4, 2003, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058 "2003-05-04T19:21:38Z")\
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**Author:** ![Nobody](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/94ad74/32.png) [@Nobody](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nobody)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2003, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/1 "2003-05-04T19:21:38Z")

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A woman who marries a gay man is refered to as his beard.  
Is there a term for a man who marries a closet lesbian?

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**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2003, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/2 "2003-05-04T20:03:50Z")

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Her dress? 😃

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**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2003, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/3 "2003-05-04T20:15:34Z")

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I think this has been discusses, try a search. Whiel I’m not sure about marriage, the male equivalent of a fag hag is sometimes referred to as a “hand bag.”

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**Author:** ![KidCharlemagne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@KidCharlemagne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KidCharlemagne)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2003, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/4 "2003-05-04T21:25:06Z")

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or a purse

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**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/5 "2003-05-05T00:18:19Z")

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Search SDMB on the work “merkin”

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**Author:** ![Nobody](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/94ad74/32.png) [@Nobody](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nobody)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/6 "2003-05-05T00:24:48Z")

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OK, thanks.

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**Author:** ![phraser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e4f/32.png) [@phraser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phraser)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2003, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quick-and-easy-question-for-the-homosexual-community/173058/7 "2003-05-05T06:46:55Z")

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Me/my friends call guys who hang around with lesbians “dyke mikes”… I don’t think this refers to guys who marry lesbians.

In this country, to get youth allowance (social security for if you’re under 25) you have to be independent from your parents, and the main way you get this (if you’re a uni student and unable to earn over $14,000 in 18 months) is by being in a marriage/de facto relationship… but they don’t recognise same-sex relationships. For that reason, a lot of gay guys I know married dykes I know so that they’d get eligibility for youth allowance so they could move out of home, away from their less-than-supportive parents. Those were usually referred to as “Austudy Marriages” (because Youth Allowance for students used to be called Austudy).