# A quiet return and the loss of my dad **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 31, 2003, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003 "2003-12-31T21:02:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/21 "2004-01-01T13:33:08Z")
The loss of a loved one is a deep sadness and nothing that I say will make it less so. However, know that I [understand](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=227216) what you are going through and my thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/22 "2004-01-01T13:54:42Z")
I lost my Dad last year at 74. He was going downhill fast and I flew out to visit him for the last time (a week before he died). He was mostly out of it, but had a couple of lucid moments, one of which was when he shook my hand and said “goodbye”. That tore me up bad and I’m having difficulty typing just thinking about it. But I console myself with one of my Dad’s other lucid moments, when he said, "you know, it’s kind of like that Johnny Cash song, _25 Miniutes to Go_… _Well they’re building a gallows outside my cell, and I’ve got 25 minutes to go…"_ Black humor in the face of death…you were great, Dad! ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/23 "2004-01-01T15:04:13Z")
**Eprix** I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/24 "2004-01-01T15:04:24Z")
**Esprix** I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/25 "2004-01-01T16:23:04Z")
My sympathies for your loss. ☹ Sometimes, a little quiet time helps. I spent an afternoon last week looking over old family photo albums because of my last great uncle passing. It actually felt good, in a weird, oh so human sort of way. Use your friends, online types and offline. It’s good to have friends. > [@](#): > > _from Esprix in his LJ_ > > There’s so much we could all share about him, but these simple things – work hard, have a sense of adventure, feel young, love and be loved, be kind, be happy and be yourself – these were what made him so wonderful, and these are the things we should all remember about him. A very good way to be remembered. Go in peace. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/26 "2004-01-01T19:59:41Z")
My condolences, **Esprix**. ---
**Author:** ![Triss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Triss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Triss)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/27 "2004-01-01T20:58:28Z")
My sincere sympathies **Esprix**. I read your eulogy for your Dad. Made me a little misty while it gave me a little chuckle, too. I think you honoured your father well. Take care and peace to you & yours in the New Year. ---
**Author:** ![Chata](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c2a13f/32.png) [@Chata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chata)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/28 "2004-01-01T21:04:11Z")
Sorry for your loss. I still have both my parents, but they are getting old. I read these threads with great dread. I know my time of grief is coming. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/29 "2004-01-01T21:19:02Z")
Welcome back, Exprix. So very sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Having lost my dad a few years ago, I know how must feel. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Horseflesh](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/horseflesh/32/7502_2.png) [@Horseflesh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horseflesh)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2004, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/30 "2004-01-01T21:29:11Z")
Welcome back, **Esprix**. I was just asking a fellow Doper at Christmas time why I hadn’t seen you around lately. I was shocked to hear that you had been suspended. My condolences to you on the loss of your father. Mine passed away almost three years ago at the unripe age of 57 (sudden heart attack) and the hurt still stings now and then. I’m glad he got to see his only grandkids one last time a few months prior at Thanksgiving. It’s great that you were able to take the trip and be there for your mother during this difficult time. Your father sounds like a well loved man, and always will be. ((((( **Esprix** & family, and all those that have lost a loved one))))) ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/31 "2004-01-02T16:15:20Z")
Welcome back, **Esprix** , and I am sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![DeadlyAccurate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@DeadlyAccurate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeadlyAccurate)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/32 "2004-01-02T16:28:02Z")
I thought about you over the holidays, **Esprix**. I was hoping you hadn’t decided to leave for good. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/33 "2004-01-02T20:52:17Z")
Welcome back, **Esprix**. I’m sorry to hear about your Dad. Your thoughts about him which you have shared show your beautiful soul. Thanks for letting us in. ((((Esprix))) ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/34 "2004-01-02T21:18:36Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **Esprix**. It sounds like he was a great man, and he had a wonderful family. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/35 "2004-01-02T21:42:57Z")
My condolences, **Esprix**. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![sperfur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9adbd/32.png) [@sperfur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sperfur)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/36 "2004-01-02T21:47:32Z")
((((( **Esprix** ))))) ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/37 "2004-01-02T23:04:38Z")
**Esprix** , welcome back. I’ve missed you, and you were one of the reasons I started hanging around here. I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your father, and that Q will never meet him. I know you’ll always have the stories of him, but it’s not the same. If you need a shoulder to cry on, borrow mine. Be well, my friend, CJ ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/38 "2004-01-05T07:59:53Z")
Thanks everyone for your kind words. The hardest part is getting Mom back on her feet, but we all know, including her, that it’ll take time. For my part, I’m getting back into the groove of life, including posting to the Dope, and we’ll just take it as it goes. Life continues apace, as always… Esprix ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003/39 "2004-01-05T13:51:11Z")
Welcome back, friend. I am very sad at your loss. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-quiet-return-and-the-loss-of-my-dad/222003.md?page=1)