# A request for all Dopers **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 11, 2022, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055 "2022-10-11T05:57:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/1 "2022-10-11T05:57:54Z")
My father died, and I have to go to his funeral next week. A friend of mine quit breathing early yesterday morning, and despite all efforts, he is gone. My request is simple: For a minimum of about a week I need all of you, _every single one of you_, to stay alive, because I am barely keeping it together right now. You can be sad. You can be happy. You can be angry. You can be confused. You can be silly. You can be pissed-off. Just…_be_. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/2 "2022-10-11T06:14:23Z")
{{a hug}}, in whatever form you need (including none, if that’s what you need) ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/3 "2022-10-11T08:01:43Z")
Sorry to hear that and I’ll do my best. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 8:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/4 "2022-10-11T08:07:01Z")
An offer of virtual hugs from me, too. I am juggling a lot right now, mostly in a good way. If i seem unresponsive this week, it’s because I’m busy doing irl stuff. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/5 "2022-10-11T08:49:45Z")
As I tell my boss every time I leave work, “I’ll try not to get hit by a bus today.” Take care Czarcasm. Grief is really hard, so you need to be very kind and gentle with yourself. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/6 "2022-10-11T09:13:34Z")
I am so sorry. Sometimes it does seem just too much to bear. I will do my best to comply with your request. ---
**Author:** ![glee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b5a626/32.png) [@glee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/glee)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 9:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/7 "2022-10-11T09:51:05Z")
I am so sorry. I hope the ancient Persian adage helps “This too shall pass.” ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/8 "2022-10-11T09:57:19Z")
With hope and best wishes, I find your request meritorious and agree to your terms. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/9 "2022-10-11T11:01:14Z")
So sorry to hear Czarcasm, hang in there yourself too. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/10 "2022-10-11T11:10:35Z")
At 64 I’m a decade beyond what I expected, but I’ll try. Sorry for your losses. ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/11 "2022-10-11T11:15:22Z")
Oh, dear, I am so sorry that you’ve suffered these loses! The price of love is grief, and I wish I could pay everyone’s debt! 💓 ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/12 "2022-10-11T11:28:13Z")
I’m on it. Sorry to hear about all that. Be easy on yourself and we’re all here for you. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/13 "2022-10-11T11:29:58Z")
I will agree to the be silly part. Don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve. ---
**Author:** ![pullin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c57346/32.png) [@pullin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pullin)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/14 "2022-10-11T11:30:28Z")
Really sorry to hear this. Will be thinking about you and wishing you the best (or at least comfort). ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/15 "2022-10-11T11:36:30Z")
Damn, I’m sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/16 "2022-10-11T11:48:05Z")
What @Sunspace said. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/17 "2022-10-11T11:48:32Z")
Well, damn. I’m sorry for your losses. I’ll do my part to stay alive for awhile. > [@glee](#): > > I hope the ancient Persian adage helps “This too shall pass.” Except, the loss of someone _doesn’t_ pass. We permanently move to a new reality that doesn’t have that person in it. ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Dead\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Cat)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/18 "2022-10-11T11:53:26Z")
Huh - well, OK then. Was planning to do that anyway, so it shouldn’t be too much of an inconvenience for me to comply. Losing one person sucks more than enough, let alone two in quick succession, sorry you’re having to go through this. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Knig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@Typo\_Knig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Knig)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/19 "2022-10-11T11:54:44Z")
{{{@Czarcasm}}} I am so sorry for your losses. They are each hard ones. I hope that better memories of your Dad and of your friend help you through these hard times. ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2022, 12:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055/20 "2022-10-11T12:20:02Z")
@Czarcasm, I am truly sorry to hear that; it really does suck and hopefully you have folks IRL who you can talk to. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-request-for-all-dopers/973055.md?page=2)