# A slight complaint about the Moderators **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 25, 2006, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575 "2006-01-25T17:55:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![andrewdt85](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/71e660/32.png) [@andrewdt85](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andrewdt85)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/1 "2006-01-25T17:55:11Z")
> **[We can discuss anal sex but not sexual fantasies?](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=355733)** > > In post #12 of the thread cited below, a moderator threatens to close the thread if sex fantasies are discussed. This is in a thread about anal sex. What are the relevant rules? > [@TubaDiva](#): > > We have a new poster on the board who we suspect is not so cognizant of the culture here and also not so good with interpersonal skills, let me put it that way. > > We hope to coax this new poster into some more appropriate behavior; for some it takes a little longer to get the hang of it. > > The thread was closed because it seemed more prurient than anything else and bordering on Penthouse Forum territory. Yeah, you can discuss most anything here within some sort of limits, but as moderators we know too much when we feel it and that generally means thread closure sooner or later. > > As for our new boy, I do believe he is younger and certainly less knowledgeable than the average Doper and thus in need of some [del]indoctrination[/del] education. I would think he’s going to be schooled over the next few days in more ways than one. Cut him a break, you were young and foolish once too. Show him a better way to be. > > TubaDiva The thread I started was a legitimate one, but I can understand the question about the masturbation fantasies being too much. By ‘more appropriate behavior’, you mean a.) Never asking _any_ questions which involve sex or any other topic that Big Brother decides doesn’t exist b.) Never throwing out controversial ideas for consideration, because doing so isn’t politically correct; remember Lawrence Summers, president of Harvard, and how he was ostracized for suggesting for consideration that women may inherently be less able at science than men? That’s the kind of ship (on second thought, replace the ‘p’ with a ‘t’) that you Mods run here. And in the end, you want to close my thread almost entirely because it was _me_ asking, and you were biased. If a long-standing and beloved poster had asked that question, you’d let it slide. Hey, the Mods are just humans after all. But you’re unprofessionalism really sucks, and it happens all the time. The Moderators here are biased, overbearing, and often condescending group. Of course, there’s nothing we can do about it, except repeat this phrase: _The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine._ ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/2 "2006-01-25T18:08:17Z")
They are never going to be able to spell out rules of what is OK to post and what isn’t OK. They make judgement calls on threads. Just because you don’t always agree with the judgements doesn’t mean they are overbearing, biased or condescending. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/3 "2006-01-25T18:08:57Z")
> [@andrewdt85](#): > > And in the end, you want to close my thread almost entirely because it was _me_ asking, and you were biased. If a long-standing and beloved poster had asked that question, you’d let it slide. Incorrect. This has been a moderator judgement call for years now. Search on “elevate the tone”, IIRC, for just some examples. You’re just being pointed out in that ATMB board because you’re the person who posted the thread in question. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/4 "2006-01-25T18:09:48Z")
Dude. You just came back from suspension and you’ve already started over fifteen threads. You’re over using a resource that we all have to share. How about shutting the fuck up for a little while? ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/5 "2006-01-25T18:11:05Z")
Yes… this will go well. ---
**Author:** ![Crotalus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crotalus/32/41_2.png) [@Crotalus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crotalus)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/6 "2006-01-25T18:16:01Z")
When a self-professed twenty year old male virgin writes an OP that solicits responses from women about an intimate subject, I think that the mods can be forgiven for suspecting that prurience just might have been the motive, rather than a selfless quest for truth. ---
**Author:** ![Revenant\_Threshold](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f1d935/32.png) [@Revenant\_Threshold](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revenant_Threshold)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/7 "2006-01-25T18:17:53Z")
I’m pretty sure a “masturbation fantasties” thread would have been closed no matter who the OP was, or how long they’d been here. ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/8 "2006-01-25T18:17:59Z")
> [@andrewdt85](#): > > The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine.The Mods are always right; everything is fine. […] It’s got a beat and I can dance to it. I like it. ---
**Author:** ![Q.E.D](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/51bf81/32.png) [@Q.E.D](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q.E.D)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/9 "2006-01-25T18:18:15Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > Dude. You just came back from suspension and you’ve already started over fifteen threads. You’re over using a resource that we all have to share. How about shutting the fuck up for a little while? What he said. Shitting out every thread idea that pops into your head is NOT the way to go around here. You start more threads in one day than most folks around here start in a month. Not only that, but the staff is kind enough to let you come back, and you’re _already complaining about them_? Not. Smart. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/10 "2006-01-25T18:18:32Z")
Even though I’m fairly open about sex, there is something rather inappropriate about a 20 year old man asking the women of this board what sexual fantasies they use while masturbating, hijacking his own thread about women’s thoughts on anal sex. If the ladies feel like talking about it, I’m not going to stop them, but YOU sure as hell shouldn’t be the one requesting it. ---
**Author:** ![Sal\_Ammoniac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8dc957/32.png) [@Sal\_Ammoniac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sal_Ammoniac)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/11 "2006-01-25T18:20:46Z")
The Mods are always right; everything is fine. Sheesh! ---
**Author:** ![Who\_me\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/958977/32.png) [@Who\_me\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Who_me_1)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/12 "2006-01-25T18:25:29Z")
**andrewdt85** , when you are told something and the overwhelming consensus of everyone involved agrees, you may want to listen. ---
**Author:** ![fluiddruid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c2a13f/32.png) [@fluiddruid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fluiddruid)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/13 "2006-01-25T18:28:45Z")
Wow. Return from suspension, post 15+ threads, then pit the Moderators the next day. You’re on a roll. What’s next? ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/14 "2006-01-25T18:32:09Z")
I thought your original thread was more than likely just some prospecting for stroke material. The main reason I popped into this thread, though, is that I have a morbid fascination with “_you_ don’t have what it takes to be one of _us_” pile-ons. They are most common, but by no means limited to, threads involving new member/moderator conflict. I can’t take my eyes off of it when my fellow members suddenly turn into Biff and Muffy berating a pledge. ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/15 "2006-01-25T18:32:20Z")
> [@](#): > > You start more threads in one day than most folks around here start in a month. Actually, that is one more thread than I have started since April, 1999. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/16 "2006-01-25T18:35:30Z")
Some venues are appropriate for questions like this and some, like the SDMB, simply aren’t. Posting it here is like driving around with a _Honk if you like to buttfuck_ sticker on your car. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/17 "2006-01-25T18:35:47Z")
> [@fluiddruid](#): > > Wow. Return from suspension, post 15+ threads, then pit the Moderators the next day. You’re on a roll. What’s next? You’re a Moderator. I think what’s next is pretty clear. Do it. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBeer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/977dab/32.png) [@UncleBeer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBeer)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/18 "2006-01-25T18:36:36Z")
> [@andrewdt85](#): > > And in the end, you want to close my thread almost entirely because it was me asking, and you were biased. What am I missing here? The thread linked by the OP was started by someone named “Plan B” and isn’t locked. The thread referenced in _that_ OP, while indeed started by andrewt85, isn’t locked either. So, what the fuck are we complaining about here? I need to know because I’ve got a whole shithouse fulla gripes stored up. If I can unload one of them here, I’d like to do so. Lots of them are getting kinda stale. ---
**Author:** ![Elza\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Elza\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elza_B)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/19 "2006-01-25T18:57:39Z")
> [@fluiddruid](#): > > Wow. Return from suspension, post 15+ threads, then pit the Moderators the next day. You’re on a roll. What’s next? My guess is that he’ll Pit Jesus Christ. Or Cecil. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2006, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/20 "2006-01-25T19:00:39Z")
> [@Elza B](#): > > My guess is that he’ll Pit Jesus Christ. > > Or Cecil. [Perhaps even in the same OP.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=350419) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575.md?page=2)