# A slight complaint about the Moderators **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 25, 2006, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575 "2006-01-25T17:55:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![Leviosaurus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/439d5e/32.png) [@Leviosaurus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leviosaurus)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/241 "2006-01-27T22:04:16Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Oh for heaven’s sake! We have given you plenty of advice. We are NOT here to hold your hand and “keep you in line”. That’s your job. You’re a big boy. And yet, here we are in this thread, doing precisely that! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/242 "2006-01-27T22:17:55Z")
Now would really, really, really be a good time to request that this thread be closed. Look, the Dope isn’t a support group, self-help group, therapy session, etiquite instruction course, or happy fun time jamboree. The Dope is a place for smartasses (and asses who are generally smart) to post. Many take their posting cues from Cecil who, not being an actual human being, has the bonus of being a deliberate aesthetic creation. And a large part of that aesthetic is snark. Now, you seem to want the Dope to be certain things that, in my years lurking and posting, I have never seen it be. Not ever. You seem to want a ‘safe space’ where you can get constructive criticism with nobody making fun of you, or insulting you, or snarking at you, etc… Chances are this isn’t going to happen anywhere on the Dope, and certainly not in the Pit of all places. There are people in real life, and, I’d wager, organizations and such which cater to your wishes. But the Dope isn’t, and never will be, one of them. We’re not here for you, (in every sense of that phrase). We’re really not. In the grand scheme of posting here, very few people , very few, are probably thinking “Hey, what can I do to help **andrew** out today?” So instead of continuing to insult people, and using emphasis in your text showing you’re being very emotional, and saying some things that are quite frakly rather absurd, just chill. Take a break from posting, especially in the Pit. If you don’t want ‘bullshit’ with your constructive criticism then posting in the forum dedicated to flaming, meanness, anger, and telling people that they are stupid and/or wrong… well, that’s probably not the best place to go about it. Seriously, ask for this thread to be closed, and maybe take a few months to just lurk without posting. You’ll notice that nobody else here gets the treatment you seem to crave. Notice how they are treated. And then, if that kind of dynamic is one you’d like, start posting again. Otherwise maybe you’re just not going to be happy on this board. That’s something to consider and there’s no shame in it. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/243 "2006-01-27T22:38:54Z")
You know what **Andrew**? I used to have a dog just like you. The stupid fucker would shit and piss in his own food and then turn around and eat it. Stupid fucking animal. Most worthless damn creature I ever saw…until now. You are a whiney, self absorbed, crybaby cock biting ass nugget. Just shut the fuck up already. Oh yeah…some CC…Well, let’s see…proof read before posting. There you go, you snivelling little tit mouse. ---
**Author:** ![Feydeau](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df788c/32.png) [@Feydeau](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feydeau)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/244 "2006-01-27T23:19:17Z")
> [@andrewdt85](#): > > Feydeau, to address your post against the call not to- I understand why you think I could be gay, because there is plenty of evidence for it from my posts: deragatory terms for women that I used once in some Pit threads; ignorance of the female anatomy; etc. etc. However, as if it’s important, I assure you I’m not- I want to have a relationship with a woman, and I will be working with my counselor to take baby steps towards one. > > That brings me to the next part of your post- autism? I looked it up on Wikipedia (sorry, I use that a lot). Some of it- but not much- is similar to psychological stuff I have, sure. But there are a lot of other psychological things that I _know_ I have, and I don’t want to share those just yet with the board for privacy reasons. I am seeing a counselor, and am open with him. > > As for needing to get out more, I agree- but the fact is, that I don’t ‘party’ anymore, and the only groups I want to join are ones that are all about the sharing of knowledge and searching for truth. Can you guys reccomend some? I know that sounds like some geeky Captain America bs, but the fact is that, despite what it seems, I am very mature mentally (or so I think…) > > That brings me to drug use- **NO**. I don’t drink alcohol, and have sworn to never do so again, because of personal reasons. I don’t do any other substances, and never will, although I am taking prescription medicines (also personal). > > And as to my major- unsure. I’m behind where I should be in schooling, but I am in school. Thanks for answering my post in a rational, even-handed manner. (There may be some hope for you yet). Since you say you’re seeing a counselor, that’s good; you can safely ignore my autism speculation. But I figured there was something going on there behind the scenes. And I did think for a while before posting about your sexuality. It’s really none of my business – I was just pointing out some observations. The [metaphor](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metaphor) of the cocktail party is especially apt – that’s really how this board works. There are almost countless conversations going on here, all at once. This board is unique, and certainly not for everyone. I hope that you are able to acclimate yourself here and stay. You’re interesting. To repeat some earlier CC: Lurk more. Stop posting as much until you get more of a ‘feel’ for the atmosphere here. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/245 "2006-01-27T23:24:16Z")
> [@Greathouse](#): > > proof read before posting \ you snivelling little tit mouse. Ahem… :: cups hands, whispers into **Greathouse’s** ear :: Titmouse is one word. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/246 "2006-01-27T23:38:38Z")
> [@andrewdt85](#): > > Does anyone believe me? I don’t. I think you’re full of shit. You either consciously get off on winding people up or you’re a pathological but undiagnosed narcissist. You either need professional help or a solid punch in the neck. I’m done. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2006, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/247 "2006-01-27T23:44:14Z")
> [@Starving Artist](#): > > Ahem… :: cups hands, whispers into **Greathouse’s** ear :: Titmouse is one word. > > 😃 What about Dickmouse? Is that one word or two? ---
**Author:** ![andrewdt85](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/71e660/32.png) [@andrewdt85](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andrewdt85)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2006, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/248 "2006-01-28T00:07:32Z")
The advice you’ve given me since my last post has been incredibly valuable- I’m not so sure I _am_ cut out for this board- in fact, there’s a very strong chance I’m not. You see, my psychological problems- more specifically, self-esteem problems- are very bad, and this message board has derailed me several times (nothing too drastic, just some bouts of depression and angst because I was so disliked). For instance, take Case Sensitive. He’s the type of guy I can’t survive; his posts are biting and humorous, and while even I chuckle at them when I read them, they can cause me severe damage: if the posts following Case’s had been ones that laughed at his joke at my expense (which none of them were, thank Og), I would have been thrown into another stressful bout of anger, resentment, and depression. It’s not that he’s the bad guy; it’s just that biting rhetoric like his, if laughed at by others, hits me really close to the bone, and that’s something I can’t have in my life. It’s dangerous to my well-being, and I’m not exaggerating. Yes, I know- this all seems so ridiculous. But you already know how ridiculous I am when it comes to other people’s words on a message board, and that’s why you gave me this advice. I will lurk for a while, and I won’t be back until I start the routine I spoke of; and even then, my posting will be very watered down and edited. Sure, this isn’t psychologically the best way to deal with it, but it’s what I gotta do. The best way to deal with it would be, as someone told me months ago, to use these boards to learn how to let go of things in real life, too. But I’m just not ready to do that yet. It’s like the Chinese proverb says: the tallest nail gets hit the hardest. My posting, when I post again, will be the short nail. Moderators, please close this thread. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2006, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/249 "2006-01-28T00:09:32Z")
Kudos. I hope you find peace somewhere, even if it’s not here. ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2006, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/250 "2006-01-28T00:10:07Z")
Never heard of a dickmouse, but they sound like painful little critters. ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2006, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575/251 "2006-01-28T00:13:31Z")
> [@andrewdt85](#): > > Moderators, please close this thread. Allah’s ears almost fell off waiting for you to say this. Done. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-slight-complaint-about-the-moderators/341575.md?page=12)