# A thread about birthcontrol, and my poor sister **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 1, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778 "2003-11-01T02:04:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2003, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/61 "2003-11-04T20:47:36Z")
The shots for men are really new, and I’m not entirely sure they’ve been approved by the FDA yet. They were all over the news a month or so ago. Try googling “male birth control shot”; I’ll bet you get plenty of articles about it. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2003, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/62 "2003-11-04T21:07:17Z")
> **[Male birth-control pill studied](https://www.seattlepi.com/news/article/Male-birth-control-pill-studied-1101350.php)** > > Doctors at the University of Washington are renewing long-stymied efforts to develop a... There ya go, **Priceguy**. You can get to other articles by googling “male birth control injection”. ---
**Author:** ![Deadly\_Nightlight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Deadly\_Nightlight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Deadly_Nightlight)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2003, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/63 "2003-11-05T05:07:51Z")
Well as of this morning I guess this thread became obselete. Yesterday she got her first ultrasound pictures and saw the heartbeat and got the pictures. She decided to keep the baby, went got a new bassinet and a few baby items. Today she miscarried. I wish I knew what to say to her because she is a mess. She had just got used to the idea and was ok with the whole thing. Now the baby isn’t there anymore. She had a D and C, and some other procedure(didn’t want to pry so I just let her tell me what she wanted to say without pressing) Her Husband will have his vasectomy Next week. So I guess that ends that. Its funny because I feel numb and its not even happening to me. I can kind of empathize. Well Barely. When I was married the first time I spent alot of time trying to concieve but it never happened. It was painful to be around pregnant women, and baby items, so I can kinda of understand when she told me she wanted all the baby stuff in her house gone. I didn’t know what to do before to help her, and now I am not any closer ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2003, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/64 "2003-11-05T05:08:51Z")
I’m so sorry, **Nightlight**. ---
**Author:** ![SnoopyFan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d07c76/32.png) [@SnoopyFan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnoopyFan)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2003, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/65 "2003-11-05T06:19:48Z")
Wow what a shame ☹ I mean, yeah, the kid wasn’t planned but she’d gotten used to the idea, and now this ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Reepicheep](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ed655f/32.png) [@Reepicheep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reepicheep)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2003, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/66 "2003-11-05T07:02:32Z")
**Nightlight** , I’m sorry that she is in pain now. I hope that it passes quickly for both your sister and her husband. However I am glad that her birthcontrol problem is taken care of with the appointment for husband 2. ---
**Author:** ![Chanteuse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de053/32.png) [@Chanteuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chanteuse)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2003, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778/67 "2003-11-05T13:50:57Z")
I know what you mean about not knowing what to do and how to feel, **Nightlight**. My best friend lost her baby (stillborn) this past summer and I felt the same way. Really, all you can do is be there. Let her talk about it (if she wants to) and when she cries, hug her and cry with her. Share her grief–it helped me when I lost a baby several years ago to know that others cared enough to sorrow with me. And give her this from me: {{{{{Nightlight’s sister}}}}} [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-thread-about-birthcontrol-and-my-poor-sister/210778.md?page=3)