# A time of grief and relief **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 12, 2007, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464 "2007-10-12T13:44:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2007, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/21 "2007-10-14T22:21:11Z")
**ETF** , your OP was beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss. I know that being prepared doesn’t make the loss any less. What it will do, is make the healing easier. Take care of yourself and your siblings. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/22 "2007-10-15T01:16:59Z")
[QUOTE=ivylass] There are good deaths, and there are bad deaths. It sounds like your mom had a good death. I won’t tell you not to grieve and cry, but try to remember her with laughter too. Your family is in my thoughts. And I know it was probably a typo, but your mom didn’t die tomorrow, did she? You meant Saturday the 13th? [/QUOTE] :smack: I mean around 5:00 a.m. the 14th. Gah. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/23 "2007-10-15T01:27:05Z")
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Almost 19 years ago, I went through a very similar situation with my mother, and could have kissed the hospice nurses for all they did to make sure the end was as comfortable for her as possible. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/24 "2007-10-15T01:30:57Z")
**ETF** I’m so sorry for your loss. Your mom, you and all of your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so glad to see she died surrounded by her children. That’s the best most comforting thing that could have happened. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/25 "2007-10-15T02:38:19Z")
One of the beautiful things about this thread is the obvious love and caring shown between the ETF siblings. So often we hear awful stories of family fights, and to see these folks in close accord is a comfort. **ETF** , thank you for sharing. I will pray that things continue to go well for you and your family. Thank God your mom is at peace. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/26 "2007-10-15T03:18:45Z")
I am very sorry for your loss, and very thankful that your mother had a good life, was ready for it to end, and that your siblings remain family through it all. She, you and your siblings have been very fortunate. ---
**Author:** ![vivalostwages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@vivalostwages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivalostwages)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/27 "2007-10-15T17:02:21Z")
May she rest in peace. Thank you for sharing this. I remember all too well “the wearying shuttle,” as you so aptly put it, when my dad was dying last year and my friend’s mom was dying just a few months ago. It is indeed a profound blend of grief and relief when it comes to an end. ---
**Author:** ![BaneSidhe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c5a1d2/32.png) [@BaneSidhe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaneSidhe)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/28 "2007-10-15T17:44:09Z")
May your Mum rest in peace. [hugs] to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/29 "2007-10-15T21:47:22Z")
Thanks, all, for your thoughtful words. They’re very much appreciated. We’ve got the immediate aftermath pretty much squared away, and continue to be of one mind on everything. Knowing how completely we can rely on each other has been a tremendous support for all of us. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/30 "2007-10-15T22:02:32Z")
**{{{ETF and family}}}** ---
**Author:** ![velvetjones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5f9b8f/32.png) [@velvetjones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velvetjones)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/31 "2007-10-15T22:10:36Z")
I’m sorry for your loss **ETF** Your family sounds beautiful. I Wish you many lasting memories of your mother and hope you and your siblings get a chance to reminisce and laugh amid the grief. ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2007, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464/32 "2007-10-15T22:23:40Z")
Your love and your family’s love are beautiful, ETF. Blessings and comfort for all of you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-time-of-grief-and-relief/422464.md?page=1)