# A tiny dot, a life is not. This pregnancy didn’t last **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 29, 2009, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151 "2009-08-29T13:59:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![shantih](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f6c823/32.png) [@shantih](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shantih)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2009, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/21 "2009-08-29T22:46:13Z")
I’m so sorry. Much sympathy and shared sorrow going out to you from a distant land. Hug your wonderful girls! ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2009, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/22 "2009-08-29T23:15:30Z")
I have known the pain your wife is feeling, and your beautiful poetry helps me to understand yours. My tears are with you both. ---
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2009, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/23 "2009-08-29T23:35:06Z")
(((((((( **TokyoFamily** )))))))) :(:(☹ ---
**Author:** ![Mother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/76d3ee/32.png) [@Mother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mother)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/24 "2009-08-30T00:19:56Z")
You write beautifully. I’m very sorry for your loss. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/25 "2009-08-30T00:59:31Z")
I’m sorry ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/26 "2009-08-30T03:43:29Z")
What has happened once can happen again. The path has been laid down. The possibility remains. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/27 "2009-08-30T04:09:46Z")
It’s a LOT more common than you might think. For us: Married. Pregnant. 🙂 Miscarriage. ☹ Pregnant. Daughter. 🙂 Pregnant. Son. 🙂 Pregnant, second trimester, vasectomy. Miscarriage. ☹ No opportunity to have third, but very, very thankful for what we have. ---
**Author:** ![BaneSidhe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c5a1d2/32.png) [@BaneSidhe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaneSidhe)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/28 "2009-08-30T04:25:09Z")
Gentle hugs and prayers to everyone. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/29 "2009-08-30T04:31:18Z")
I’m so sorry, **TP**. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/30 "2009-08-30T12:24:26Z")
Thanks everyoe for the kinds words. I spend a wonderful day today with my daughter while letting my wife rest at home. Beta-chan doesn’t understand anything of course, and was just happy to have her daddy all day. We’ll be OK. We went out to dinner with some friends who are expecting their first child, and had a lot of fun. I’ll figure out something about work. I’m watching the ruling party go down to defeat here in Japan, and I’m glad that my setbacks are private and not on the news. I’m a lucky man and wouldn’t trade my place with anyone. I could never give up this daughter who adores her father. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/31 "2009-08-30T15:40:23Z")
Sorry to hear that **TP** , and glad to hear you are taking it in stride. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/32 "2009-08-30T15:44:56Z")
I am so very sorry to hear this news on both counts. You are such a beautiful writer, the good and the bad, reading your posts is an honor, **Tokyo Player**. ---
**Author:** ![lunar\_elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/35a633/32.png) [@lunar\_elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lunar_elf)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/33 "2009-08-30T16:57:07Z")
My thoughts to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![purple\_haze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/db5fbb/32.png) [@purple\_haze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purple_haze)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/34 "2009-08-30T17:15:47Z")
Oh no! I’m really sorry to hear what has happened to you and your family. My best wishes to you and your lovely wife. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/35 "2009-08-30T22:23:37Z")
It’s raining this morning in Tokyo, an appropriate weather. My wife and I talked again last night and started to look at expenses and income. I’ve always spent less than I’ve earned, and been concervative with my purchases, so we won’t be in immediate trouble. When we signed on the house, we did it anticipating that the good times wouldn’t last forever, which makes us look smart now. A more expensive home would have bought us some more space (always a premium in Tokyo) but would have made the payments higher. We’ll survive. And we’ve got a story to tell. “So did I ever tell you about the day we lost both . . .” ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/36 "2009-08-31T02:41:46Z")
My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/37 "2009-08-31T04:11:29Z")
Hang in there hon _HUGS_ ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/38 "2009-08-31T04:24:52Z")
I’m so sorry. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/39 "2009-08-31T17:09:31Z")
I forgot about the job loss - sorry about that, too. That was one sucky day for you guys. Here’s to better days to come! ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2009, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151/40 "2009-09-01T02:30:31Z")
My heart goes out to you. I’ve lost both pregnancies and jobs… and neither is easy to deal with. You are in my thoughts. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-tiny-dot-a-life-is-not-this-pregnancy-didn-t-last/508151.md?page=3)