# A VERY Polite Objection To Something Said **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 13, 2001, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-polite-objection-to-something-said/61835 "2001-04-13T13:46:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Creaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e68b1a/32.png) [@Creaky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Creaky)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-polite-objection-to-something-said/61835/41 "2001-04-15T03:50:38Z")
I was adopted. Big deal. So are lots of people. Worse things could have befallen me. And yeah, sometimes other kids (and occasionally adults) said nasty stuff about my being adopted; but kids say lots of nasty stuff to each other, whether the object of their ridicule happens to be an adopted peer or an ugly teacher or whatever. That’s childhood for you. As far as feeling like I wasn’t really the “real” child of my adoptive parents, of course I felt that way. That’s because I’m not genetically related. I accept that. My family and I joke about it a lot. They are more like each other than I am like them, which I do attribute in this case to our genetic differences. But it certainly doesn’t make me unhappy. We are a very close family and get along about as well as anybody could want. My adopted child status did, however, turn me into a spectacular overachiever. I always felt that I needed to show how grateful I was that my parents adopted me by doing really well at everything I took up. I did and still do want to make them proud. Show them that they really did get a good deal after all. Neurotic? Maybe. But it works for me. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-polite-objection-to-something-said/61835/42 "2001-04-15T04:03:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Anthracite \* > \*\* I have to travel 5500 miles in 12 hours, and really don’t have time to continue. \*\* Cut out salt intake and bring bottled water. Flights that long usually result in some edema to the legs. I always kick off my sneakers when I board a transcontinental flight. And yeah, this one’s done. Be safe. Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-polite-objection-to-something-said/61835/43 "2001-04-15T04:23:35Z")
> [@](#): > > As far as feeling like I wasn’t really the “real” child of my adoptive parents, of course I felt that way. Really? I’m adopted, and I **NEVER** felt this way. But I have come to realize that it’s VERY unusual. I never cared who my birth mother was, still don’t. My “real” parents took me out for a very nice birthday dinner tonight. LOL- When my (soon to be,_sigh_) Ex-wife and I were in therapy, it came up. Neither her nor my therapist could believe that I really didn’t give a rats ass about being adopted, until my ex called my mom who verified, “Yup, he’s never cared”. My adopted sister, however, did have some issues with it as a young teen, so I understand I am the exception. ---
**Author:** ![mouthbreather](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a698b9/32.png) [@mouthbreather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mouthbreather)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2001, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-polite-objection-to-something-said/61835/44 "2001-04-15T19:57:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Weirddave \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > As far as feeling like I wasn’t really the “real” child of my adoptive parents, of course I felt that way. > > Really? I’m adopted, and I **NEVER** felt this way. \*\* Weirddave, ditto and ditto. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-polite-objection-to-something-said/61835.md?page=2)