# A Very Sad Man in Thailand **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 20, 2008, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105 "2008-04-20T12:08:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/1 "2008-04-20T12:08:31Z")
There is a farang (Westerner) who got burned in a relationship with a bargirl (surprise surprise) and so started [this website](http://www.phenchaloemphol.com/) out of revenge. But all he does is show himself to be the sad wanker he truly is. **The website should be safe for work.** At least, there are no salacious photos. Don’t miss the part about having black magic performed against her. What a putz! ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/2 "2008-04-20T12:17:56Z")
Damn, for a second I thought you were saying _you_ were sad. Glad you’re not! > [@Some dipshit](#): > > \*\*Warning: some Thai bar girls might have dubious morals and cultural mores that you won’t understand. > > Also, watch for bear poop when in woods. Update: Pope strongly believed to have Catholic tendencies.\*\* Still, hopefully he’s making some money from the advertising banner for Thai call cards! ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/3 "2008-04-20T12:21:26Z")
[QUOTE=jjimm] Damn, for a second I thought you were saying _you_ were sad. Glad you’re not! Still, hopefully he’s making some money from the advertising banner for Thai call cards! [/QUOTE] No, I’m quite a happy man in Thailand. 🙂 Lucky, too, in that I’ve never had to resort to black magic. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/4 "2008-04-20T12:42:11Z")
Damn, now I want to live in Thailand. Think I’ve got the experience and knowledge to avoid the bar girls… Got any jobs? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/5 "2008-04-20T15:15:08Z")
[QUOTE=jjimm] Think I’ve got the experience and knowledge to avoid the bar girls… [/QUOTE] Hehehe. That’s what they all say. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Ale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@Ale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ale)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/6 "2008-04-20T15:37:56Z")
But but… in _Pretty Woman_ everything turned out great at the end!, what did I do wrong? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/7 "2008-04-20T15:44:31Z")
[QUOTE=Ale] But but… in _Pretty Woman_ everything turned out great at the end!, what did I do wrong? [/QUOTE] :eek: So this was you, Ale? Say it ain’t so! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/8 "2008-04-20T16:37:51Z")
Teal Deer, But I did read far enough to “You know you have to pay me right?” whereupon my face did this: :eek: then this: :rolleyes: and I read no further. ---
**Author:** ![supergoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@supergoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supergoose)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2008, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/9 "2008-04-20T20:41:07Z")
On the website, the guy mentions that he’s paying child support. Did I miss the explanation for that? Does that mean he and his American ex had kids (and he pretty much abandoned them to live halfway around the world) or that he and his Thai sweetie had a kid\*? If the latter, the fact that he never mentioned it or expressed affection for it is really sad. I could see him not referencing kids from his former marriage in his diatribe about his Thai love, though. \*She _is_ holding a baby in one picture. Although I didn’t think they’d been involved that long. And **Ale** , if it isn’t out of line for me to ask, how are things with you and \*your \*Thai sweetie? I seem to recall that you moved there to be with her. (Assuming your earlier comment was a joke.) ---
**Author:** ![Ale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@Ale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ale)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/10 "2008-04-21T02:01:15Z")
[QUOTE=supergoose] And **Ale** , if it isn’t out of line for me to ask, how are things with you and \*your \*Thai sweetie? I seem to recall that you moved there to be with her. (Assuming your earlier comment was a joke.) [/QUOTE] Besides going through one of those low points you get in any retionship right at this very moment things are going well, thanks for asking. 🙂 \* And yes, it was a joke.\* ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/11 "2008-04-21T02:10:23Z")
So, love truly IS blind. Because that’s NOT an attractive woman. ---
**Author:** ![Rhubarb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/59ef9b/32.png) [@Rhubarb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhubarb)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/12 "2008-04-21T02:16:51Z")
[QUOTE=Mr Bus Guy] So, love truly IS blind. Because that’s NOT an attractive woman. [/QUOTE] That depends on how many Singha’s you’ve had. Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder and all. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/13 "2008-04-21T02:17:42Z")
[QUOTE=Siam Sam] burned in a relationship with a bargirl [/QUOTE] I believed a “bargirl” to be a waitress or hostess in your previous posts. Without reading the link, it’s an entirely different profession, isn’t it? Nice gardens, BTW. ---
**Author:** ![JimB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f4b2a3/32.png) [@JimB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimB)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/14 "2008-04-21T02:36:46Z")
So tell us about BJ bars Siam. It doesn’t seem like getting some head from a girl that’s been sucking condomless dicks all day would be very arousing. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/15 "2008-04-21T03:01:00Z")
[QUOTE=carnivorousplant] I believed a “bargirl” to be a waitress or hostess in your previous posts. Without reading the link, it’s an entirely different profession, isn’t it? Nice gardens, BTW. [/QUOTE] Oh, yeah. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/16 "2008-04-21T03:01:14Z")
[QUOTE=Mr Bus Guy] So, love truly IS blind. Because that’s NOT an attractive woman. [/QUOTE] If that’s him in the pic on the right (second from the top) then he’s definitely no looker. He was in love the second day? The day she told him he needed to pay her? Sounds to me like he is pretty damn dumb. Sometimes all the signs are there, but we don’t _want_ to see them. Instead of putting up a website to warn others of her and “others like her,” he’s immortalized his own stupidity. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Cymbeline](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_cymbeline/32/9244_2.png) [@Green\_Cymbeline](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Cymbeline)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/17 "2008-04-21T03:03:09Z")
Wow, what a pathetic loser. WTF did he expect? And then he goes on about how he still loves her… God I feel sorry for his children. So, **Sam** , what’s the _straight dope_ on these “bargirls”? (What does that even mean?) Do they really prey on pathetic Americans like that? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/18 "2008-04-21T03:05:11Z")
[QUOTE=supergoose] On the website, the guy mentions that he’s paying child support. Did I miss the explanation for that? Does that mean he and his American ex had kids (and he pretty much abandoned them to live halfway around the world) or that he and his Thai sweetie had a kid\*? [/QUOTE] The way I read it, the children were with his American ex. No doubt abandoned them. Thailand is full of farangs who have abandoned one thing or another. The guy in the link is not an uncommon story. I’d say he’s prime material to end up doing the Farang High-Dive as we call it, off a tall balcony – particularly common in the town of Pattaya. I’m sort of amazed he hasn’t done it yet. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/19 "2008-04-21T03:11:39Z")
[QUOTE=Siam Sam] I’m sort of amazed he hasn’t done it yet. [/QUOTE] Think he’ll last long enough to list him in Celebrity Death Pool 2009? Hey he’s a celebrity. He’s got a web site. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2008, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105/20 "2008-04-21T03:11:49Z")
[QUOTE=nyctea scandiaca] Wow, what a pathetic loser. WTF did he expect? And then he goes on about how he still loves her… God I feel sorry for his children. So, **Sam** , what’s the _straight dope_ on these “bargirls”? (What does that even mean?) Do they really prey on pathetic Americans like that? [/QUOTE] “Preying” is such a harsh term. I’d say their always on the lookout for that jackpot that some girls seem to get. For instance, there was a pair of identical twins performing in one of the live shows in Angel Witch Bar in Nana Plaza. Quite a popular pair they were, too. The show broke up when a pilot with a major airline whisked one of them away to his corner of farangland. He certainly has the money to keep her in comfort for the rest of her life. Assuming she does not screw up and resort to old habits; they say you can take the girl out of the bar, but not the bar out of the girl. Most problems stem from being a putz like the guy in this link. These guys don’t realize it’s a business proposition and end up spending lots of money, often all of it. Then why WOULD she want to stay around? Not only is he STILL a dork, but now a broke dork, too. As for what the term “bar girl” means, it simply refers to a prostitute who works in a bar rather than, say, a massage parlor or escort service, or even the street. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-sad-man-in-thailand/446105.md?page=2)