# "A Very Special \`Fuck You'" or "An Overly Juvenile Rant That I'll Regret Later" **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 20, 2000, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410 "2000-02-20T04:37:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Pantology](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e95f7d/32.png) [@Pantology](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pantology)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/1 "2000-02-20T04:37:00Z")
FTR, this is in no way directed towards anyone here, nor is it meant to address a topic addressed anywhere here. Rather, it is directed towards the fine group of people that tend to associate with me. That said: I can’t fucking believe that every motherfucking one of you is gone right now. Every one of you shit-eating children-of-a-bitch knows every fucking detail of the shit I’m going through right now, and every monkey-pumping one of you doesn’t seem to give a damn. I’ve known most of you for excessively long amounts of time, and in that time, this is the one goddamned night when I truly _ **need** _ one of you to be here, or to talk to, or even to appear to give a shit. I’ve been sitting in this same fucking chair most of the day, awash in a strange combination of self-pity and self-loathing, _and every one of you fuckers is nowhere to be found_. How many fucking nights have I spent with you, getting you through situations that mirror this one? _ **Where the fuck are you people?** _ ---
**Author:** ![Nurlman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Nurlman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nurlman)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/2 "2000-02-20T04:48:00Z")
> [@](#): > > **Where the fuck are you people?** Umm… We’re probably in English class, learning how to express ourselves with some dignity. Why is no one around? Maybe-- and I could be going out on a limb here-- it’s your delightful personality, Miss Merry Sunishine. Kisses- * * * “If I had hands and you had a neck, I would squeeze it so hard your brains would come out of your head which you do not possess.” ---
**Author:** ![Anti\_Pro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Anti\_Pro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anti_Pro)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/3 "2000-02-20T05:19:00Z")
I hope you e mailed this to the people that you’re so upset with Pantology, people don’t always let you down on purpose, sometimes they just don’t ‘get’ how upset you might be, or what your needs are. On second thought, I hope you DIDN’T e mail them, just calm down and tell them instead. * * * “Consider it a challenge…” ---
**Author:** ![Angkins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/fbc32d/32.png) [@Angkins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angkins)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/4 "2000-02-20T05:46:00Z")
What the fuck??? Are you OK? Maybe you should associate with different people. You can get medication to control those outbursts. * * * Any connection between your reality and mine is purely coincidental. ---
**Author:** ![Angkins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/fbc32d/32.png) [@Angkins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angkins)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/5 "2000-02-20T05:48:00Z")
and I’m a little confused… was I supposed to care? ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/6 "2000-02-20T06:40:00Z")
If that made you feel better Pant then I for one am glad you vented. It seems you are learning one of life’s rather harsh lessons, that there is no one on this plane of existence that you can count on %100 of the time. Learn to be an island unto yourself, people are flawed - every last one of us, and will let others down whether we mean to or not. ---
**Author:** ![Louie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c68b51/32.png) [@Louie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Louie)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/7 "2000-02-20T07:07:00Z")
Heh. Sounds like you got the same friends as I do; I’m always there where they need help, but they’re nowhere to be found when I need help. But hey, we always have one of those days. Don’t take it out on them, it’s not their fault. No one can be there 24 hours a day for one person. Were you online waiting for them to get online? Have you tried calling your friends? ---
**Author:** ![yosemite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/3ab097/32.png) [@yosemite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yosemite)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 9:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/8 "2000-02-20T09:29:00Z")
What exactly is your crisis, the thing that is causing your stress? (You don’t need to be lengthy or terribly specific, just give us a vague understanding of the severity of the problem.) Sometimes friends are too freaked out or uncomfortable to know what to do with someone who is going through serious shit. They are afraid they’ll say the “wrong thing”, so avoiding you seems like the safer thing to do. Or, they are a little bit emotionally shut off, and dealing with someone elses’ emotional outbursts (and yeah, looks like you have that) gives them the willies. Selfish, perhaps, maybe a little weak. But not evil, or anything. Or, it could be as simple as you just _telling them,_ in a calm and matter-of-fact manner, what is going on with you, the kind of help you’d like. (Do errands? Just sit and listen? Just spend time with you and watch TV, or drink beer, hang out?) What do you want? If they know that they can help in some specific way, they might be around more. Just a wild-assed guess. I really have no idea what is going on with you. ---
**Author:** ![tbea925](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dc4da7/32.png) [@tbea925](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tbea925)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2000, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/9 "2000-02-20T13:52:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by Pantology: > \*\* this is the one goddamned night when I truly _need_ one of you to be here, or to talk to, or even to appear to give a shit. \*\* Anything you could share with the teeming millions, Pant? Even if we can’t help, maybe we could poke fun at your friends. 🙂 Whatever you’re going through, may joy soon return to you. ---
**Author:** ![Pantology](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e95f7d/32.png) [@Pantology](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pantology)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2000, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/10 "2000-02-21T04:34:00Z")
Wow–I really was not expecting any sympathy, I just needed to vent. Thanks folks, I really appreciate it. I went through a rather messy breakup recently, and I just really didn’t want to be alone last night–typical college angst. I wanted to be distracted, and not have to face things and deal with them. Not particularly healthy, perhaps, but I wasn’t really thinking clearly. Most of my friends were out of town, which didn’t help things any; this is largely what triggered the above outburst. A bit selfish, yes, but I’d have been there for them, dammit! 🙂 FTR, I’m not at all bitter (now). Anyway, I vented, cranked the stereo, sat back, and started to feel better. Shortly after I posted that, a friend of mine a few states away IMed me, asking how I was doing, if I’d be okay, that sort of thing. It was a two-minute exchange, but it helped a great deal. Around 1am someone came over to keep me company, and we talked until about 8:30am. That said, I’m feeling a great deal better now. And no, none of you are _ **supposed** _ to care, but thanks to those that did. ---
**Author:** ![tbea925](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dc4da7/32.png) [@tbea925](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tbea925)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2000, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/11 "2000-02-24T00:22:00Z")
Do we engage in the casual, unprotected sex now? [http://204.95.48.199/ubb/biggrin.gif](http://204.95.48.199/ubb/biggrin.gif) Glad things are all better. * * * This sig not Y2K compliant. Happy 1900. ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [February 26, 2000, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/12 "2000-02-26T16:46:00Z")
Two things. I insist on PROTECTED casual sex. And I love the title of this thread. Lynn ---
**Author:** ![Anti\_Pro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Anti\_Pro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anti_Pro)\ **Post date:** [February 27, 2000, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-very-special-fuck-you-or-an-overly-juvenile-rant-that-ill-regret-later/4410/13 "2000-02-27T06:24:00Z")
I’m glad that things turned out okay Pant, and it probably did help you feel better. * * * “Cheat is TEACH, backwards!” Doodlebug’ Up the Down Stair Case