# A woman's point of view about sex. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 12, 2001, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023 "2001-10-12T13:12:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2001, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/21 "2001-10-15T02:43:05Z")
Okay, women, here’s something I’ve always wondered about. Most women enjoy cunnilingus. Many, in fact, like it a _whole lot._ This I understand. This I appreciate, because I enjoy giving as much or more than receiving. But some women can take it or leave it…and a few just don’t like it. Personally, I haven’t had a problem with this…those who like it have all told me they thoroughly enjoy me. I know that each woman prefers a slightly different technique and I’m readily adaptable. I’ve even converted a couple of gals who used to think they didn’t like it. (one of them hardly ever let me up for air thereafter!) My question to those who don’t enjoy it: What’s not to like? ---
**Author:** ![Corrvin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbce88/32.png) [@Corrvin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corrvin)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2001, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/22 "2001-10-15T07:37:31Z")
\<\\> Hmm. Let me count the ways…and these are MY ways, not anybody else’s. YGMV. 1. You can’t talk to me. 2. I can’t see you. At all. C’mon, it’s dimly lit sometimes, and I’m legally blind with my glasses off. I can barely tell that there’s someone down there, much less see who. If I wanted lonely sex with a mysterious partner, thanks, I can masturbate. Oddly enough, I like blowjobs just fine, mostly because I can get the guy to sit up and at least put his hands on my shoulders or run them through my hair, and I can see and hear a lot better. Any length between “My, what a surprise” and “My jaw is falling off” is fine by me, too. Call me weird. Corr ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/23 "2001-10-16T05:07:26Z")
[_shameless bump_] Fair enough, **Corr.** Other opinions, please? [_shameless bump_] * * * Piece, TN\*hippie ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/24 "2001-10-18T05:06:23Z")
I am going to assume that **Corr** is the ONLY woman here who does not enjoy cunnilingus. This is wonderful news, if true. ---
**Author:** ![justinh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9fc29f/32.png) [@justinh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/justinh)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/25 "2001-10-18T18:05:36Z")
Corr, waht about 69 ? are there any gals that would like to give one but the guy is too sensitive (premature ejact wise)? ---
**Author:** ![justinh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9fc29f/32.png) [@justinh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/justinh)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/26 "2001-10-18T18:11:31Z")
hell I am so worked up I can’t type. (the “waht” should be “what”) Corr, if you can’t tell someones down there in the dark then something IS wrong. perhaps a topic for another site: Is a tongue better than a hand down there? ---
**Author:** ![Arden\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@Arden\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arden_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/27 "2001-10-18T18:28:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by justinh \* > \*\* > perhaps a topic for another site: Is a tongue better than a hand down there? \*\* That entirely depends on the level of skill. I’ve had lovers with Magic Fingers that were next to useless with their tongues and visa versa. ---
**Author:** ![Breezy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b3f665/32.png) [@Breezy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Breezy)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/28 "2001-10-18T19:14:36Z")
justinh~~ I kind of PREFER a hand AND a tongue down there. haha Also, concerning BJ’s: My favorite way to give one is a… wake up call. I like to surprise my husband with one in the middle of the night… haha He never seems to mind. I will say that normally my BJ’s don’t ever last more than 5 minutes. That’s because he’s pulling me up so that we can have SEX. haha It’s a nice reward for just 4 or 5 minutes of work. EEK! It never occurred to me until now that maybe he’s having me stop the BJ because I’m not doing it very well!! I guess that’s a question I’ll as HIM tonight. haha Instead of burdening anyone on here with it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/29 "2001-10-18T21:00:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bobkitty \* > \*\* > > And HELL yeah I swallow. :D\*\* I didn’t feel like quoting the whole thing, because I’d get hard re-reading it. So I chose to use this little bit. Is it any wonder I love ya, **bobkitty**? ---
**Author:** ![racinchikki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@racinchikki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racinchikki)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/30 "2001-10-18T21:28:57Z")
Well, er, I’m extremely inexperienced, having only one partner and not too much of a chance to do anything with him, but I will say that I enjoy giving. Anything I can do to please him, well, hell yeah. Of course I have to take breaks to crack my jaw every five minutes… I just can’t prop it open that wide! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2001, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/31 "2001-10-18T22:04:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Superdude \* > \*\*Is it any wonder I love ya, **bobkitty**? \*\* Nah. This is only one of many reasons, I’m sure. Also known as the “You mean there’s something ELSE you’re supposed to do with it?” attitude. Well, other than rub it into your skin, that is. [sub]HA!!! IN YOUR FACE, **COUGAR**!!! -BK ---
**Author:** ![Stella\_Fantasia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/74df32/32.png) [@Stella\_Fantasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stella_Fantasia)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2001, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/32 "2001-10-19T01:09:05Z")
Sigh…I can almost remember what it was like to have a guy whose schlong fit in my mouth. Giving my boy a BJ is like trying to give head to a Coke can. He LOVES it, though, so I kind of do most of the work manually & just do the last minute or so with the mouth. ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2001, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/33 "2001-10-19T02:24:27Z")
Likewise, an oral/manual combo works well on the ladies. ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2001, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/34 "2001-10-19T02:26:28Z")
Likewise, an oral/manual combo works well on the ladies, as pointed out by **Breezy.** ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2001, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/35 "2001-10-19T02:42:25Z")
I like giving blowjobs, but only to people I respect and also turn me on. A half hour is normally where I’ll quit and start using my hand unless it leads to sex. As far as cunilingus goes, I like it, but it’s very hard to get me off from the attempts I’ve received. I prefer when the guy can find my G spot in addition to orally pleasuring me, but it rarely happens. I guess I’ve been hooking up with sexual retards. ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2001, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023/36 "2001-10-19T04:39:58Z")
Maybe not retards…but it does take practice, communication, and a genuine love of the act itself. Sex is like Life: the pleasure is a journey, not a destination. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/a-womans-point-of-view-about-sex/87023.md?page=1)