# Aaaand the SO gets scammed again. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 6, 2009, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952 "2009-06-06T21:24:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/21 "2009-06-07T19:12:35Z")
You have my deepest sympathies. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/22 "2009-06-07T19:52:28Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > What are you waiting for to leave someone you have no future with and are obviously not much enjoying your present? I’ve got buns in the oven and won’t be here forever. She’s got buns in the oven (obviously we’re not talking kids) and won’t be here forever. I don’t have to be blissful every moment or I drop everything and split. I’ve got long-term plans I’m working on just like everyone else. ---
**Author:** ![ultrafilter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/3d9bf3/32.png) [@ultrafilter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultrafilter)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/23 "2009-06-07T19:57:14Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > I check my credit report regularly. No co-signing anything. Not in a community property state. > > Yes, of course I could get screwed. A Lockheed C-5 could fly into my house too. > [@levdrakon](#): > > Don’t get me started on why her car is insured under my name because hers was up to $481/month and she barely got her license back after they took it. … ---
**Author:** ![flyboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/4da419/32.png) [@flyboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flyboy)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/24 "2009-06-07T20:42:24Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > Don’t get me started on why her car is insured under my name because hers was up to $481/month and she barely got her license back after they took it. What will it take to get you started? I want to hear this. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/25 "2009-06-07T21:30:26Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > You have my deepest sympathies. Not mine, though. ---
**Author:** ![fruitbat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/58f4c7/32.png) [@fruitbat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fruitbat)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/26 "2009-06-07T21:33:57Z")
Honestly this OP is a bit obnoxious. You present a scenario that most of us clearly can’t identify with: a gay guy living with a slightly addled heiress who believes in the promises of Nigerians. You then proceed to offer us vague explanations about ‘buns in the oven’ to describe you fairly bizarre lifestyle choices. Seriously when you post something like this in public you are airing your misery for our vicarious enjoyment, so out with the story in all its glory rather than this coy bullshit. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/27 "2009-06-07T21:59:54Z")
> [@fruitbat](#): > > You present a scenario that most of us clearly can’t identify with: a gay guy living with a slightly addled heiress who believes in the promises of Nigerians. You then proceed to offer us vague explanations about ‘buns in the oven’ to describe you fairly bizarre lifestyle choices. They fight crime together. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/28 "2009-06-07T22:13:33Z")
> [@fruitbat](#): > > Honestly this OP is a bit obnoxious. > > You present a scenario that most of us clearly can’t identify with:\ Uh, my OP was simply about someone who falls for scams. Got something to say about that? If not, go sniff someone else’s shorts. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/29 "2009-06-07T22:16:00Z")
> [@Scissorjack](#): > > They fight crime together. Heh. Heh heh heh heh. [He’s a genetically engineered day-dreaming card sharp with a passion for fast cars. She’s a man-hating foul-mouthed archaeologist with her own daytime radio talk show. They fight crime!](http://www.theyfightcrime.org/) ---
**Author:** ![scr4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/59ef9b/32.png) [@scr4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scr4)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/30 "2009-06-07T22:19:13Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > You know, it took me 5 seconds to type “secret shopper scam” into Google and the first result was [Snopes](http://www.snopes.com/fraud/employment/shopper.asp), describing this scam almost to a “t.” I’m curious why you didn’t do this and show her the page when she first mentioned it… ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/31 "2009-06-07T23:02:39Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > I’ve got buns in the oven and won’t be here forever. She’s got buns in the oven (obviously we’re not talking kids) and won’t be here forever. I don’t have to be blissful every moment or I drop everything and split. I’ve got long-term plans I’m working on just like everyone else. Er…I don’t understand this, and I don’t think it’s just me. What do you mean by buns if not kids? And why are you with her at all if you aren’t attracted to her? How is she your SO? Are you roommates? Married for the money/green card? ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2009, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/32 "2009-06-07T23:29:23Z")
> [@scr4](#): > > I’m curious why you didn’t do this and show her the page when she first mentioned it… I had never heard of this particular scam before. I didn’t look it up until after, and she said “there’s a problem with the bank” or whatever it was. I warned her from the start it’s probably a scam. She said she checked it out. I’ve directed her to sites that warn about scams before. Maybe it makes me sound irresponsible letting her fall for this, but what do I know about secret shoppers or how they get jobs? To the extent I’ve thought about it, I figured it was one of those cool, easy to make some extra money jobs you fall into because you’ve got a clean record and fit what someone’s looking for. She’s a busy person and always has a variety of plans & schemes afloat. One week she’s headed to Oregon for an internship. The next week it’s changed to Texas. To be honest, I only listen with one ear and when her plans actually happen, then they happen. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/33 "2009-06-08T00:27:40Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Er…I don’t understand this, and I don’t think it’s just me. What do you mean by buns if not kids? And why are you with her at all if you aren’t attracted to her? How is she your SO? Are you roommates? Married for the money/green card? Maybe he meant “irons in the fire” and not “buns in the oven”? ---
**Author:** ![Enginerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bcef8e/32.png) [@Enginerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enginerd)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/34 "2009-06-08T00:28:54Z")
Note to self: don’t eat anything cooked by **levdrakon**. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/35 "2009-06-08T00:40:10Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > She has a retirement and a large pending inheritance to protect, I wonder if this has anything to do with why he’s with her. **Lev** , my love, whatever the Bun in the Oven is, it’s not worth the headache. Cut your losses now. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/36 "2009-06-08T01:35:45Z")
> [@ivylass](#): > > I wonder if this has anything to do with why he’s with her. > > **Lev** , my love, whatever the Bun in the Oven is, it’s not worth the headache. Cut your losses now. No, no, no. It’s really nothing so nefarious as you people seem to be hoping. We’re old friends. I like warm climates, she likes cold climates, neither of us is staying where we are now but for now, it’s convenient enough. No green cards or scheming after each other’s money. Am I living my dream life? No. I’m working on it. That’s all “buns in the oven” means. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/37 "2009-06-08T01:38:37Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > No, no, no. It’s really nothing so nefarious as you people seem to be hoping. We’re old friends. I like warm climates, she likes cold climates, neither of us is staying where we are now but for now, it’s convenient enough. No green cards or scheming after each other’s money. Am I living my dream life? No. I’m working on it. That’s all “buns in the oven” means. Are you married? is that what makes it a relationship? Or is it just two people living together? ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/38 "2009-06-08T01:45:56Z")
> [@Enter\_the\_Flagon](#): > > Well if he isn’t after this, he never will be. I rarely laugh out loud at a post. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/39 "2009-06-08T04:35:54Z")
Hey, you’re the one who chose to dump your purse out here for all to see. If you want to just talk about your life without any feedback, you should put stuff like this in a blog. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2009, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952/40 "2009-06-08T06:52:28Z")
> [@fruitbat](#): > > Honestly this OP is a bit obnoxious. > > You present a scenario that most of us clearly can’t identify with: a gay guy living with a slightly addled heiress who believes in the promises of Nigerians. You then proceed to offer us vague explanations about ‘buns in the oven’ to describe you fairly bizarre lifestyle choices. > > Seriously when you post something like this in public you are airing your misery for our vicarious enjoyment, so out with the story in all its glory rather than this coy bullshit. > [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Er…I don’t understand this, and I don’t think it’s just me. What do you mean by buns if not kids? And why are you with her at all if you aren’t attracted to her? How is she your SO? Are you roommates? Married for the money/green card? Agreed. OP is disingenuous. This person is not an “SO” by any stretch of the imagination, such as a reasonable person would construe the term “SO”. However, the more this thread goes on the more I’m thinking these two were made for each other after all. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/aaaand-the-so-gets-scammed-again/498952.md?page=3)