As others have repeatedly pointed out, the inconvenience of pregnancy is not considered “trivial” by many people, nor do many people share your belief that zygotes/embryos/fetuses are equivalent to born humans.
This may be hard for you realize, but forgoing promotion and earnings when women have children may not be their choice. Some women feel they shouldn’t have to take a professional hit when they have children.
You may recall when Yahoo announced Marissa Mayer as their new CEO it was considered by many to be a major milestone for women because she was pregnant at the time. Now surely, you can imagine, some women may be passed over for promotions because upper management may make (sexist) assumptions about their abilities when they are pregnant or when they have young children at home? Assumptions, perhaps not made when men are expecting or have young children at home?
And then when Marissa Mayer announced she likely wouldn’t be taken maternity leave she was demonized. In addition, this is a woman who access to resources that a majority of working mothers do not have, such as attaching a nursery to her office.
Forcing women to carry pregnancies to term against their will is vile enough, ignoring that such polices impact women professionally and economically is plain ignorance.
I realize you lament the days when women were subordinate to their husbands, but alas this is the modern reality - women are equals.
I’m an abortion-rights supporter! I think she should definitely tell him. I also think he should have nearly as much say as she does about keeping the baby or not. I don’t know how to quantify that.
The owner of the uterus has the ultimate choice. Besides being ethically correct to inform the owner of the testicles, it opens the door to discussion of better contraception.
As the former owner of a 1950 model set of female bits, I’d a tendency to be mistrustful of the less reliable methods, and made sure (from about 1969 on) that these issues were discussed prior to any activity, and that the current state of the art methods were used. Hector St Clare has made me decide to go down and give my husband a smooch.
I don’t think this about some sort of overarching concepts of “rights”, it’s more about personal relationships and if you see all your interactions in a personal relationship about your “rights” than you’re well and truly fucked.
So yes she should speak to him and discuss it with him as it is far better than him finding out later, because for all of Penelope’s rights to have an abortion, it is equally Kevin’s right to walk out the door if he doesn’t like what she has done (either by having the procedure or by not discussing it with him), which we assume is something that Penelope wishes to. Of course if Kevin is vehemently against the abortion and Penelope is equally opposed to not having the procedure, it probably indicates there is a fundamental incompatibility in their relationship anyway.