abortion rights, womens rights?

Well, the problem I see is here is the assumption there’s unprotected sexual activity going on. I’m sure there are folks who engage in risky sexual behaviors, but I do believe plenty of women use contraceptives and men use condoms to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. However, nothing except abstinence is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy. Sure, you could say that if you really don’t want to get pregnant, then don’t have sex. Going that route smacks of the sexual oppression women have faced for far too long to me, though, and ignores the fact that for the majority of women, deciding to terminate a pregnancy is not a decision made lightly.

Do you really think that a woman who is contemplating getting an abortion thinks it’s on the same scale of importance as say getting her hair cut later that week?

For all the talk about consideration for the fetus, this comment makes it sound like it’s mostly about punishing women for enjoying sex enough to have it voluntarily for reasons other than procreation.

The selfish fornicating single female strikes again!

Such as maintaining their marriages.

In the world SeanArras appears to want, a married woman who’s already born as many children as she desires has exactly 2 choices:

  1. Continue having vaginal intercourse to please her husband (since her husband probably still wants to do it regularly), at the risk of conceiving again and being forced to bear the pregnancy to term even though she doesn’t want another child. (Even the best birth control can fail, after all!) Or…

  2. Telling her husband he’s not going to get ANY more nookie until she goes through menopause (even if she’d really enjoys sex with him and would miss it terribly), and hoping that he doesn’t decide to leave her in favor of another woman who IS willing to have regular vaginal intercourse with him. Now, how many young men do you know who’d cheerfully remain abstinent for up to 30+ years? And of course, if he does leave, the odds are that she’ll be the one stuck doing the single parenting…

What a wonderful Hobson’s choice! What people like SeanArras don’t want to admit is that they really don’t think women have a right not to get pregnant. At least, that would be the effect of their position on all but the small minority of women who totally avoid any sexual relationship with a man until after menopause.

Well you all got me wrong.

When I talk about people who engage in unprotected sex or people who are rape victims, I’m talking about the two extremes. I must assume you people have not read the rest of my posts and are taking statements out of context.

Assumption that there’s unprotected sexual activity? Yes, in the case of making a point - if you are engaging in unprotected sex, what would you guess is the outcome? If I’m using unprotected sex as an example, why would you then assume I’m talking about people who engage in protected sex?

I’ve been in a relationship for over 6 years with someone, have regular protected sex, and have never had a pregnancy arise. If we had unprotected sex instead, I would … assume that a pregnancy would arise sooner or later. What would you assume?

So when I say that if a couple of people:
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[li]are engaging in sex[/li][li]are choosing to not use protection[/li][li]have some clue that babies don’t come from storks[/li][/ul]

…should know exactly what they’re getting in to. Can we agree on that?
So let’s review:

Read my exact words: “For a person who engaged in unprotected sexual activity and got pregnant…” If they are doing it for reasons other than procreation, should not “some” method of birth control be used? Even if they don’t have access to birth control, there’s still methods.

How in the world can you read that in to what I said? I’m saying that if people choose to have unprotected sex, they should expect that a pregnancy would result. How does that turn in to me … er, not thinking women have a right not to get pregnant?

Did you read the rest of my post, or the other posts I made? I make several examples, some of them with rape victims, some of them with people choosing to get pregnant (and considering it wonderful), and some with people who have sex choosing to not get pregnant.

You say I assume that there’s unprotected sexual activity going on? I know there is, because I have had several friends over the years who have unprotected sex with people they hardly know. Yes, they often end up getting pregnant. In more than one case, (in more than two cases) they chose to have an abortion, then got pregnant again due to continuing to have unprotected sex, and still without a plan of getting pregnant. Without planning to (or, perhaps planning to), they are using abortion as a form of birth control. That is one example I can make, but do I assume that all people who want an abortion are romping around having sex? Hardly - I’ve made cases for rape victims and examples of other situations as well.

You’re really not making any sense here. Please don’t put words in my mouth, I never said that I thought it was all reckless college girls, and I never said I think the progress of the pregnancy has no relation to the decision to atoobort.
I asked the question do you think a 36 week fetus with human brainwaves that has learned to recognize it’s mothers voice is still your to abort. Why didn’t you just answer instead of posting the emotional rhetoric about the mother of 2 with a laid-off husband?
For the record, I’ve been pro-choice for decades. The fact that at this point in my life it’s highly likely that my only chance at offspring was aborted hasn’t changed that. But I think a reasonable cut-off can and should be agreed upon. Historically I would have said viability, but I like Cecil’s idea of brainwaves a lot.
I think that those saying no middle ground it’s mine to abort from the day after conception to the day before delivery are taking a position that is too extreme for me to support, and I believe a lot of pro-choice people would agree.

Putting it in bold doesn’t change that you’re essentially arguing that forced pregnancy is a just punishment for a loose woman. Quite the opposite, actually.

I see you’re also the poster higher in the thread making unhappy noises about how unfair it is for males to have to support their children, too.

You don’t feel it would be right to force her children to go hungry for a three week old fetus, right? It’s an unfortunate set of circumstances, but abort if that’s what she feels is best.

How about 4 weeks? 20? 36? At what point in a pregnancy would you say the suffering of the entire family of bona fide humans is outweighed by the potentiality of the fetus?

What’s the practical impact of drawing the line at birth v. viability? I think we’ve reached a social equilibrium, most people take the choice very seriously, and there’d be little or no statistical difference.

The only reason I can see for establishing that women’s rights are subordinate to a fetus is to expand on that point.

I’m saying I don’t think it’s right to use abortion as a means of birth control, or for people to participate in activity which leads to unwanted pregnancy more than one or two times.

I didn’t say pregnancy should be a punishment for loose women - these are not exactly the kinds of people I would want to become parents in the first place. They are acting pretty irresponsibly, repeatedly killing the fetus, what’s to stop that attitude once it’s born?

Every time I ask a question, you think I’m making a statement. I asked, “Is it fair for a woman to say that a man has no say-so in whether or not the baby is brought to term, and then legally require that the many pay child support and/or help raise the child?”

I didn’t make unhappy noises, I asked if people thought it was right.

What if a man and a woman are in a relationship, and the woman decides to stop using her birth control in order to get pregnant intentionally? The man was only having sex with her because he knew that she was using two forms of birth control, but when she stopped them without notice to him, she’s now pregnant by him.

Is it fair for her to force him to pay for child support if he says that he does not want the child?

Notice that this is a different scenario than a rape victim, or a couple engaging in sex they both know is unprotected, or a couple engaging in sex that both intend to be protected. This is a scenario where the woman is choosing to get pregnant without the man’s consent or knowledge.

There’s too many scenarios to consider to make a blanket law that covers all of them.

Agreed. People get pregnant irresponsibly and I’d rather they didn’t, too. However, I’m more concerned about the irresponsible people with a wanted pregnancy… but I’d never think I’d have any right to force them to abort.

If someone realizes they don’t have the “proper attitude” and finds pregnancy burdensome… how is it relevant how they became pregnant?

If you assume we all agree than it is fair in principle, why would you bring up the matter by asking this question?

I think you’re rhetorically sophisticated enough to understand that questioning the fairness of something in that manner implies that you think it is unfair in some way.

Yes, it is fair in principle for both parents to be held responsible for the support of their offspring. Until it has sprung off, though, it is uniquely the responsibility of the female… which is why only she has the right to make the choice to terminate that unshared responsibility.

…unless that wasn’t the intent of me asking the question.

Generally, when I ask a question to someone, I want to know their answer, as opposed to using the question to make a statement.
Specifically, when I asked, “Is it fair for a woman to say that a man has no say-so in whether or not the baby is brought to term, and then legally require that the many pay child support and/or help raise the child?” I had meant to help us form a common basis for discussion. I wanted someone to say, “Yes,” or, “No,” and then we could talk about why they feel one way or the other.

I was not trying to make a rhetorical question in order to make a statement. Honestly, I’m bothered that people are trying to interpret some ulterior motive as opposed to reading my words at face value. That seems to be a big cause of what’s leading to these misunderstandings. Sometimes a question is just a question.

It’s really only relevant if they choose to repeat and repeat it, at which point perhaps they should consider a change in their behavior (use protection) or take some other course.

I was asking the question because I wanted people to provide an answer to the question. You seem to ascribe other motives for people asking questions, sometimes people just want an answer. In fact, if I am “assuming” anything about the answer, I wouldn’t ask the question at all.

What do you think, bit? Is it fair? I’m actually asking a question to which I want an answer, it is not rhetoric, it is the subject I am attempting to discuss.

That’s a stretch. Nowhere has SeanArenas said that women shouldn’t be able to have sex voluntarily for fun. What he said was that if people don’t wish to get pregnant, perhaps they should use some form of birth control.

You’re pulling stuff out of the air. Nowhere has SeanArenas advocated that all abortion be made illegal. Nowhere has SeanArenas advocated eliminating birth control. Nowhere has SeanArenas said women shouldn’t be able to have sex for non-procreative acts.

SeanArenas made 1 statement to contrast arguments used to defend abortion in the case of rape in order to show there are situations where rape is not the issue. But in that statement, SeanArenas said nothing about outlawing abortion. That statement was made to question the basis for understanding the balance of rights.

The only suggestion of limiting abortion has been based upon considerations of the developmental status of the fetus and whether there is justification at some earlier point than birth that the fetus should be considered a person.

Again, the point in contention is summed up by your phrase “potentiality of the fetus”. The fetus exists, it’s not a figment of the mother’s imagination, it’s not a hope for the future, it’s a living being developing in the womb. Here’s the question back at you, what if the mother delivered a baby and the father was laid off 2 days later? Now that family has a newborn baby that will force her children to go hungry or whatever. Is it okay for her to terminate her 1 week old in order to protect her other children?

I realize you are drawing a line a birth. Not everyone agrees with that.

How about to sort out a moral quandry, i.e. what does it mean to be human, when does personhood begin, why does a >1 week old newborn have higher status than a 37 week fetus? Is there anything substantially different between the two other than location?

People in this thread are projecting an agenda onto others. Anyone who questions the status of abortion for a late-term fetus in any way is being branded a woman-hating oppressionist. Some of us are just trying to explore a moral gray area highlighted by medical science.

I’m not sure why it’s relevant to this thread, but I will answer your question.

From the man’s perspective, it certainly is not fair. If the man doesn’t want the burden, and voices his opinion to that effect (and even thought birth control was in effect), but the woman has the child anyway, that is placing a burden upon the man that he did not agree to.

Because you keep dodging the essential point: Contraception does NOT offer 100% protection against pregnancy! I don’t care how carefully you use it, you can STILL get pregnant while using it. It reduces the odds of a pregnancy occurring considerably, but not to zero. And therefore a woman who absolutely, positively does not want to get pregnant has no alternative but to avoid vaginal intercourse entirely. Given the role that sex plays in pair-bonding in our species, that’s a highly problematic choice for most women.
Until ovulation is a consciously-initiated event, there’s going to be a need for either legal abortion or infanticide. I’d much prefer the former to the latter.

I’m not dodging it, I’m merely pointing out that circumstances exist in which a woman can get pregnant other than the one you’re describing.

I feel like you are only reading part of what I’m saying, and misconstruing the rest.

If you make a blanket law that covers all abortion situations based on your perception of an accidental impregnation that happens to a couple who is using birth control, then you aren’t considering other situations. I’m merely trying to get you to consider scenarios other than the one you seem stuck in.

I’ll place a bet that out of the different scenarios (let’s call them: 1) rape victim, 2) both partners think they are using protection, 3) one partner is not using protection while fooling the other, and 4) the couple randily fornicating with no protection), #2 is the one to cause the least need for abortions, yet it’s the only scenario you’re willing to discuss.

SeanArenas, by their very nature, any abortion laws are going to be blanket laws. It’s simply not possible (even if it was desirable) for the government to go snooping into couples’ bedrooms to check to see if they were using protection before permitting the woman to abort. Given that reality, I’m going to insist that your scenario #2 is the one that we discuss, because the only scenario that ALWAYS comes up in these discussions is your #4, and frankly that’s a problem, and I’m sick of it. Pregnant is pregnant; at that point why the pregnancy happened is moot.

Want to minimize the number of abortions in this country, and cut the number of late-term abortions down to near zero? Drop the moralizing, and concentrate instead on improving sex education, making birth control widely available and cheap, and (brace yourself) making abortion widely available, cheap, and with no restrictions to access. The number of women interested in aborting a healthy 37 week fetus are minuscule, so stop focusing so much attention there! Focus instead on the much larger number of women who end up having a second trimester abortion because by the time they could raise the money to pay for the procedure (or arrange travel to a place where abortion services are offered) they were no longer in the first trimester. That’s where the real moral problem lies.

My original “Yes” was Post #57, 22 hours before the post quoted here. It contained a similar explanation as in #89.

Education would be a better course to reducing the number of abortions. The context of this discussion is the justifiability of restricting access to abortion, though, so your suggestion is kind of odd. I don’t think you mean to advocate forcing parenthood on someone only after they’ve demonstrated their irresponsibility.

See posts #57 and #89. You’ve had more than a day to continue the attempt.

In the case of an unwanted fetus, the only options are to terminate the pregnancy (i.e., cause the death of the fetus) or to continue the pregnancy to term. After birth, when the fetus has become separate from the mother, an additional option to transfer care to someone else becomes available. That additional option makes infanticide (insurmountably?) harder to justify.

Also, I don’t think anybody is saying abortion is “okay”. We probably all agree that it would be beneficial to reduce the number of abortions performed. The difference is whether that goal should be pursued by reducing demand or by reducing supply.

Morally, I think supply side reduction does more harm than good. Yes, unrestricted access might, theoretically, result in morally-repugnant “I’d rather have a cat.” late-term abortions or abortion as first-line birth control. But I agree with SeanArenas that I probably wouldn’t want that person to be a parent. OTOH, you have scenarios so unexpectedly hopeless that late-term abortion may be the best option even though it isn’t a special case considered in the pre-approved exceptions to an abortion ban.

  1. Rape: A woman is pregnant against her will.
  2. Contraceptive failure: A woman is pregnant against her will.
  3. Contraceptive sabotage: A woman is pregnant against her will.
  4. Hot lurid monkey sex: A woman is pregnant against her will.

Certainly in the fourth case you could blame the woman for getting herself in that situation… but laying blame puts us in a context of punishing people for their mistakes. Restricting access to abortion isn’t about punishment. Right?

Be advised I love to argue both sides of issues, for my own reasons.

M. Anthony characterizes abortion as “an act of desperation”. Please, that’s as bad as calling those who support it “pro-choice”. Except in the narrow case of rape, getting pregnant is a CHOICE that actually involves a series of CHOICES made by the woman (and the man involved). At any point along that chain of choices, the woman has the power to assert her CHOICE and prevent a pregnancy. Unless your argument is that women are nothing more than sex-machines, powerless to say no to any man who attempts to seduce them, there’s no way you can argue that getting pregnant is NOT a choice a woman makes. Personally I respect women too much to let such an argument stand unchallenged.

Tim J did not present any decent arguments. He merely attacked the original author (Cecil). I’m against adhominem attacks no matter which side of an issue they’re directed against. They’re pointless and only prove the lack of intelligence & logic of the person who posted them.

I was drawn to this statement: “I would not be able to live with myself if i terminated a fetus that i could feel kicking. I am not a monster, and i am not stupid.” Some who terminated a “fetus” who could not yet even kick wound up having trouble living with themselves, as I think would anyone who spends even a moment thinking about such selfish destruction of life they created. Indeed there are TWO cases that were used to form a basis for abortion on demand, more or less, in America, and few seem to know that both women who were involved in the cases are pro-LIFE.
There are, I suppose, arguments for abortion somewhere. But I’ve not seen a good one yet. I have seen a good number of ridiculous ones here. Consider these, paraphrased:

bmoreluv said “many women die in childbirth.” In what country or century are you claiming this is the case? And, as an aside, does a “fetus” deserve “moreluv” too? Apparently not.

1010011010 said, “Many very tasty animals have heartbeats and brainwaves.
“But a cow is not a person.” True. Neither is a fetus.” If you wait long enough, will a cow become a person? Will a HUMAN fetus?

Cecil said, “What are you talking about? Prior to the last century, reliable birth control wasn’t even available.” I’m curious. What form of birth control advertises as 100% reliable?

bmoreluv said, “The primary factors are lack of education and reproductive rights.” Now maybe I missed something, but are you saying people that get abortions are stupid, or what?

I think Irishman did a great job in his post 11-25-2008, 02:48 AM.

bmoreluv said, “When considering this question; Why were black people enslaved in America?” This reveals the biased and disingenuous thought processes at work. Blacks weren’t “enslaved in America”, they were ENSLAVED IN AFRICA. As to why, well some people over there hated other people over there, or they coveted their land, their women, or they felt they could get rich by taking & selling slaves, whatever, and decided the best way to get what they wanted was to kill some and enslave and sell off others. I just love the people who are all about “people of color” who conveniently forget that “people of color” often tend to be the primary reason “people of color” have the problems they do. And before you go blasting me, remember, you don’t know what color I am and don’t try to guess because you’ll no doubt get it wrong.

1010011010 said, “It’s highly suspect to me to put protection of women’s rights subordinate to the protection of something we can’t even agree is a person.” Look up which logical fallacy you’re committing. Raising a false issue doesn’t help your argument. Just because you choose not to accept what a human baby is, from the point of conception on, doesn’t mean that it is not that thing. Now there may be some legal confusion on the issue, but once sperm and egg unite it’s generally just a matter of time before we get a new person who has rights and is a person, sometimes anyway (see The State of California v. Scott Peterson, for instance). Merely injecting your opinion into an argument to win it isn’t logical.

The bottom line is one a man and a woman let sperm and egg get together, a person is on the way unless something is done about it. So, why is it NOT reasonable to hold that the “person” starts at conception?

1010011010 also said: “I will agree that a fetus, especially a late-term fetus, has several items on that fuzzy list of criteria, but not enough for me to tell a woman that it’s rights supersede hers.” I suspect the courts would beg to differ… and have in several cases - perhaps you should do some research? Or do you need me to do it for you & get back to you? What rights, exactly, are you talking about? Your next comment seems illumanatory:

“In all honesty, I don’t think we are “sufficiently human” until a while after birth.” You know, I wouldn’t suggest putting that philosophy to a practical test, unless you’re OK with winding up in a cell with a horny guy named “bubba” - assuming you’re a guy. You quickly added that you’re not suggesting infantacide, yet clearly YOU WERE. You did. Indeed the “rights” argument does strongly support infantacide until well after birth. For having a baby does impose severe responsibilities and restrictions on BOTH PARENTS in a proper relationship. It severly curtails their “rights”. You suggested that a woman must choose between caring for and killing her infant - yet there is a third option you dismiss as “too hard” or some such. There are always people who want to adopt. Always.

Strassia said, “if they are euthanized, it is because they have exercised their rights, not because they have lost them.” Good point, although not all states, or countries, allow euthanasia.

Strassia (Jonathan?), I get your point on rights, and generally agree with it except this bit: “A one year old has right to equal protection under the law, but not the right of free assembly.” I think they DO have that right (assembly), it’s just pretty darn hard for them to exercise it, at least unless they get help from others.

This bit got me thinking, too: “This of course brings us to one of the many slippery slopes that crop up in this issue. Do premature babies have less rights than those carried to term (both because their brains are less developed and because they need more intensive care)? As medical science gets better, it may be possible to transfer the care of a blastocyte to someone else, how does that change things?” Good comments.

And he continues: “First perfect positive birth control (meaning you must take positive action to disable it, rather than requiring action to stay effective) readily available to everyone (male an female) of reproductive age.” Wow, the religious right would have a field day with that one! Why, exactly, other than the obvious “moral” reasons, and the ridiculous ones already given here, do you think religious people tend to be against abortion? Still, you make a good point with this comment. But is it possible? Will it ever be?

Now I don’t know about this: “A safe, effective, and supportable means of transferring any fetus at any point during gestation into an artificial support system that is cheap enough that it could be covered by the state if necessary and that could suspend gestation indefinitely if necessary.” Mother was an incubator. Father was the contents… of a test tube… in an icebox… in the factory of birth. My name is 905… and I’ve just “become alive”. I’m the newest populator… of the planet… called Earth. (905 - The Who)

Irishman said: “euthanasia typically does not revolve around the status of personhood, but rather other issues such as the quality of life.” At what earliest point do babies become reactive to stimulus, such as music or sound, light, etc. from outside the womb?

He also said: "To me, the salient point is that at some point the developing human is granted the right to existence. What that point is and should be is what is under contention. " The problem is those who want to prevent this discussion from happening seem to be determined to muddy the waters with issues of “choice” and “privacy” and “reproductive rights”.

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OK I DID IT, what next?

1010011010 said: “QOL also plays into the abortion question, too, in terms of growing up in foster care, not having the means to adequately support a child, etc.” Again, a side argument meant to distract. Which is worse, having a life with a degraded quality, or no life at all?

“Someone might find the “fetus on ice” scenario more repugnant than abortion.” Good point.

Also: “While your solution may answer the “I don’t want to be pregnant.” concern, it doesn’t address “I don’t want to reproduce.” That’s a particularly hairy issue, because males have a valid cut on that one, too.” Well, the "I DON’T WANT TO REPRODUCE is easy - GET YOUR TUBES TIED - male or female. That normally fixes that pretty reliably, though not 100%, so be sure to use a backup, as is always a good idea anyway. And while we’re talking about “reproductive rights”, I’m glad you brought up the case of women who use a pregnancy to “trap” a man. It’s a salient point.

Then there’s: “Some systems of the world simply do not work and can be deemed, objectively, “bad”. Or rather “worse” than other systems that do seem to function usefully and sustainably in the real world.” Can you say “cultural imperialism”?

Moving on to Thee Erin: "My rights most certainly DO trump the “rights” of an “unborn child.” Yeah, of course they do, as far as you’re concerned. Selfish prig.

gprimos1 said: “I would prefer that abortions would be illegal” Hey, a position that is coherent & makes sense. Amazing. For it’s true, in this day and age, there’s no excuse for an “unwanted pregnancy”.

“I enjoy his column and I hope he stays clear of political issues in the future so he can keep on publishing.” What, you worried he’ll express another non-PC opinion and get shut down by the “free speech - as long as it’s speech that agrees with us” police?

Back to the binary kid: “Go look a the hypothetical examples of what sort of woman seeks an abortion. Is it a fornicating young woman mainly concerned about how pregnancy will interfere with her carefree lifestyle? How dare she think she should be able to evade the consequences of her poor choices. At the very least she could give it up for adoption. How selfish. Why isn’t the example ever a mother of two whose husband has been laid-off unexpectedly, making it impossible for them to afford a new baby?” Please explain why this woman couldn’t get help from friends, family or, as a last resort, put HER child up for adoption? Why is it that there are so many who are pro-abortion who work so hard to ensure women never consider adoption anyway?

It gets worse: “The whole idea of anti-choice is that women deserve to “face the consequences” of their immoral behaviour.” You’d do better if you would stick to arguments you know & understand. This statement of yours is pure hogwash, pure BS, couldn’t be further from the truth. A woman who, by WHATEVER MEANS, finds herself with an “unwanted pregnancy”, is NOT to be punished, but then again, neither is her unborn child, don’t you agree? Yet you callously sentence that unborn to death by saying, “It’s not a person” or some equally ridiculous argument.

You are the devil incarnate! Next, you said: “Calling it “pro-life” is misdirection.” No, calling it “pro-choice” is the misdirection! Calling it pro-life is spot on! Those, however misguided, who think that all life (even in cases of rape, incest, etc.) is worth preserving are certainly PRO-LIFE. You totally mischaracterize them. Why?

Then you go on: “It’s not melodramatic to say there can be no middle ground when the goal of one side is to render the other subservient.” I’m sorry, but IDIOT and LIAR both fit here. A woman has the right to choose not to risk a pregnancy by multiple means - abstinence being only one of many. In the vast majority of cases, women who wind up aborting could have avoided pregnancy in the first place much easier.

Finally, M. Anthony’s last post is generally well thought out and excellently expressed. There are exceptions. How about the people who’ve declared open season on those who provide abortions? How are they any different from those they attack? Is it the “just war” argument?