# Abusive relationships? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 4, 2012, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956 "2012-12-04T14:29:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/21 "2012-12-04T15:33:24Z")
I threw a half filled jug of laundry soap at his back car window and cracked it. It told his parents a tree had fallen on it. ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/22 "2012-12-04T15:36:08Z")
> [@missyzilly](#): > > Are you two on some type of Medication ? This is not great debates . It does not matter where I posted this topic it is not funny for you too try to start a fight. Sorry, Toots, this is The Pit. By definition, you come to this forum for a fight. If you don’t want a fight, ask a mod to move this thread elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/23 "2012-12-04T15:37:49Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > I threw a half filled jug of laundry soap at his back car window and cracked it. It told his parents a tree had fallen on it. So, you’re a vandal and a liar! ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/24 "2012-12-04T15:40:53Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > So, you’re a vandal and a liar! He lied, not her. She’s just a vandal. 🙂_Morning April_ ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/25 "2012-12-04T15:42:25Z")
> [@Morgenstern](#): > > He lied, not her. She’s just a vandal. 🙂_Morning April_ I read “It” as a typo for “I”. But perhaps you’re right. Not a typo… an insult. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/26 "2012-12-04T15:46:28Z")
I punched the kindergarten bully… at our 20th HS reunion. > [@missyzilly](#): > > Are you two on some type of Medication ? This is not great debates . It does not matter where I posted this topic it is not funny for you too try to start a fight. As you’ve seen, it does matter. ---
**Author:** ![missyzilly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a9a28c/32.png) [@missyzilly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missyzilly)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/27 "2012-12-04T15:47:19Z")
> [@VunderBob](#): > > Sorry, Toots, this is The Pit. By definition, you come to this forum for a fight. > > If you don’t want a fight, ask a mod to move this thread elsewhere. Are you ugly? You have some draw back that makes you unable to interact with women in person. The computer gives you the voice you never had . It hides your ugly face. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/28 "2012-12-04T15:49:54Z")
Banned by Christmas, or am I being too lenient? ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/29 "2012-12-04T15:50:14Z")
> [@missyzilly](#): > > Are you ugly? You have some draw back that makes you unable to interact with women in person. The computer gives you the voice you never had . It hides your ugly face. Yeah, I’m ugly as sin. What’s yer point? :rolleyes: I’m also considerably older than 13, which you apparently are not. ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/30 "2012-12-04T15:51:14Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Banned by Christmas, or am I being too lenient? Christmas? I’ll give her to 5 PM today. ---
**Author:** ![missyzilly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a9a28c/32.png) [@missyzilly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missyzilly)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/31 "2012-12-04T15:52:23Z")
Vunderslob what is your problem? Are you impotent ? ? ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/32 "2012-12-04T15:53:17Z")
**missyzilly** , I’m thinking you might want to back out and come in again, with a little less Valley Girl in your persona this time. ---
**Author:** ![missyzilly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a9a28c/32.png) [@missyzilly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missyzilly)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/33 "2012-12-04T15:54:14Z")
Why do you want me banned? You started this now you do not like it anymore? ---
**Author:** ![missyzilly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a9a28c/32.png) [@missyzilly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missyzilly)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/34 "2012-12-04T15:58:11Z")
> [@Morgenstern](#): > > **missyzilly** , I’m thinking you might want to back out and come in again, with a little less Valley Girl in your persona this time. what is wrong with you? why would you even involve yourself in this? Do you feel strong now? ---
**Author:** ![Kolak\_of\_Twilo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kolak_of_twilo/32/73_2.png) [@Kolak\_of\_Twilo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolak_of_Twilo)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/35 "2012-12-04T16:00:12Z")
> [@digs](#): > > I punched the kindergarten bully… at our 20th HS reunion. Now, THIS is a story I would actually enjoy hearing. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/36 "2012-12-04T16:51:32Z")
I was 17. He was 16. We were arguing and he shoved me back into the room when I tried to leave. I told him if it ever happened again, we were over. A month later. We were arguing, he shoved me back down on the bed and held me down by my throat. I broke up with him. He cried, begged, pleaded. Obviously he had a listening problem, because I goddamn told him what would happen if it ever happened again. I am not emotionally or psychologically capable of loving a partner who is abusive. The second he crossed the line, I felt nothing for him. Immediately. I’m hoping he learned something from that experience. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/37 "2012-12-04T16:58:52Z")
> [@Machine\_Elf](#): > > \ > You posted in The BBQ Pit. Why would you post in here and NOT anticipate being heaped with abuse and derision? Because she’s new here and doesn’t know the rules. But, you know, there actually is a remedy for that - reading the rules and reading threads for a while and getting a feel for this place. Welcome to the boards, **missy**. You’d find that your OP would get a much different response in a different forum. > [@Kolak\_of\_Twilo](#): > > Now, THIS is a story I would actually enjoy hearing. Yes, please! ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/38 "2012-12-04T17:03:55Z")
First time it happened to me I was caught off guard. I had been married close to 15 years and wife had recently taken up drinking, she became alcoholic amost overnight. Hit me over the head with a wine bottle when I was looking in the fridge. Like a dummy I put my arms around her and told her she needed to get rid of this anger somehow. About 10 assaults and 5 years later I put her over my knee, pulled down her pants and spanked her ass purple. I went to jail that night but charges were dropped and I moved out and got divorced. She got sober and we have remained close friends but nothing more. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/39 "2012-12-04T17:15:11Z")
> [@missyzilly](#): > > Are you ugly? Yes, he is, and his ugly face is as dumb as a butt. ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2012, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956/40 "2012-12-04T17:32:58Z")
> [@missyzilly](#): > > Why do you want me banned? You started this now you do not like it anymore? They are not calling for your banning, they are _predicting_ that you will be. They’re basically making no-stakes bets on how long you’ll last. We’ve seen many people come here and post the way you do, and most of them can’t seem to grasp the rules, and are quickly banned. Me, I’m taking mid-January. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/abusive-relationships/642956.md?page=3)