# 'Adult Friend Finder'? Something tells me this isn't just porn. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 26, 2004, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116 "2004-04-26T16:33:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/1 "2004-04-26T16:33:54Z")
I don’t mind my boyfriend lookng at porn, and he knows this. However he still deletes his internet history. But he forgot and I noticed a site called ‘adult friend finder.’ I assumed it was just porn and didn’t think anything of it. However, from a comment I heard today it’s not a porn site. It’s a site to hook up with people for sex. I went to the website and it seems to be the case. I am so NOT fucking impressed. My boyfriend has some SERIOUS explaining to do. ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/2 "2004-04-26T16:38:57Z")
Just to point out the obvious, now \*you \* have gone to a website that offers a service for “adult friend finding”. What happens if he snoops around the url history and discovers what you have been up to? ---
**Author:** ![badbadrubberpiggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/57b2e6/32.png) [@badbadrubberpiggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badbadrubberpiggy)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/3 "2004-04-26T16:39:35Z")
Make sure he went there on purpose before you accuse him of anything. Before I had a pop-up blocker, that site would pop up ALL THE TIME, sometimes several times, on adult pages. Apparently, they have huge amount of advertising. I don’t know if the pop-up would be recorded in the history, though, if he wasn’t actually looking at the page. ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/4 "2004-04-26T16:49:08Z")
Popups ARE web pages, and they do go in the history. ---
**Author:** ![Who\_me\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/958977/32.png) [@Who\_me\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Who_me_1)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/5 "2004-04-26T16:55:41Z")
Adult Friend Finder was a popup I saw quite frequently until I got a popup blocker. ---
**Author:** ![Uvula\_Donor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e19adc/32.png) [@Uvula\_Donor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uvula_Donor)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/6 "2004-04-26T17:00:21Z")
He’s not necessarily going to the site to hook up with someone. Adult Friend Finder also has a large number of galleries of free porn pics. Uh…so they say. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![D.E.S.K.Top668](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f07891/32.png) [@D.E.S.K.Top668](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D.E.S.K.Top668)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/7 "2004-04-26T17:01:18Z")
Sometimes, pop-ups do show up in history. I found that out when my wife accused me of going to unsavory sites. I did a little digging and discovered they were pop-ups from sites she was going to to find out about adult (not hentai) anime. There’s also the “what the hell is this" curiosity click. Or there’s the possibility that he thought it was friends, not “friends” and he was looking for actual non-romantic people with the same interests. I knew somebody who was quite surprised when they found out “find people that share your interests” meant “we’re a dating service.” That one is unlikely though. Peace - DESK ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/8 "2004-04-26T17:16:11Z")
Thanks for the responces. I plan to phone him and just casually bring it up during the conversation. I think I’ll do it now… ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/9 "2004-04-26T17:39:03Z")
You’re going to have to record this conversation because I want to know how you’re going to bring that up: **AngelicGemma** : _Hi honey, how’s your day been?_ **Boyfriend** : Oh it’s been fine. **AngelicGemma** : \*Say, did you know that you can search a person’s internet history on the computer? I’d love to know what this Adult Friend Finder is? Really, hon, \* :mad:WHAT IS IT!?:mad: …_honey? Are you there?_ ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/10 "2004-04-26T17:53:25Z")
I’m back. (but forgot the pie.) > [@nocturnal\_tick](#): > > You’re going to have to record this conversation because I want to know how you’re going to bring that up… Actually it went somelike like _ring ring_ Me- Hey Boyfriend - Hey babe, how are you? \ A few mins later… Me - _Really casual_ Oh, there’s something a wanted to ask. You know a while ago I saw your internet history and the porn site names? Boyfriend - _Susiciously_ yes… Me - Well there was one called adult friend finder. I heard today that it’s a hook up site. So, erm… what were you doing on it? Boyfriend procedes to blame pop ups, and picture links. Coversation turns to other stuff. So thats that sorted! ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/11 "2004-04-26T17:58:43Z")
So you are not so trustworthy when you find some “evidence” but as soon as he has made some excuses, (all of which are probably true) you’re fine with it. I suggest you beat the truth out of him, with a feather duster. That’ll teach him 😛 :pinky to mouth:Oh I am naughty ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/12 "2004-04-26T18:00:02Z")
Damn You Smilies! You Ruined My Moment! Arghhh! ---
**Author:** ![storyteller0910](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@storyteller0910](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/storyteller0910)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/13 "2004-04-26T20:49:29Z")
See, now, I’m going to have to join in here with a wail of frustration: People, **please** stop looking through the browser histories and Internet caches of your spouses/significant others. No good has ever come of this, in the history of human relationships. Gemma - you just “noticed” the site? Didn’t go looking for it? How does that work exactly? I’m not trying to be difficult, but I’m surprised that your boyfriend wasn’t angry at you. If anyone - particularly my wife, who presumably trusts me - snooped through my browser history, found something in there that they found discomfiting, then came at me with a not-exactly-veiled accusation of something I hadn’t done… well, there’d be an argument. And there would be a problem with the relationship, because where there is snooping, there is no trust. ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/14 "2004-04-26T20:53:34Z")
To be fair, if the OP had been typing a url into the address bar that started with “www.adu” the web address may have auto-completed. It’s not necessarily a case of cache-browsing. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/15 "2004-04-26T21:14:17Z")
> [@storyteller0910](#): > > See, now, I’m going to have to join in here with a wail of frustration: > > People, **please** stop looking through the browser histories and Internet caches of your spouses/significant others. No good has ever come of this, in the history of human relationships. Gemma - you just “noticed” the site? Didn’t go looking for it? How does that work exactly? I’m not trying to be difficult, but I’m surprised that your boyfriend wasn’t angry at you. If anyone - particularly my wife, who presumably trusts me - snooped through my browser history, found something in there that they found discomfiting, then came at me with a not-exactly-veiled accusation of something I hadn’t done… well, there’d be an argument. And there would be a problem with the relationship, because where there is snooping, there is no trust. Time for a little background info. A few months into our relationship I asked to use his computer. He said yes. As I reached the computer he came running behind me and deleted the internet history. Which resulted in the following conversation - Me - _Mock shocked voice_ You haven’t been looking at _porn_ have you? Him - _Guilty look_ Course not. Me - You don’t have to delete the history. I don’t mind you looking at porn. Him - But you’re not supposed to _know_ I do it. Me - Why? Him - It’s just not done! So it became a sort of game. I’d try and catch him out. He’s winning. He’s only forgotten to delete the history twice in the year we’ve been going out. It’s great fun when I manage it though. I get to take the piss. “Now _that_ doesn’t sound like a very classy site honey!” “Big busted blondes? But I’m a red head!” ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/16 "2004-04-26T21:28:38Z")
> [@storyteller0910](#): > > People, **please** stop looking through the browser histories and Internet caches of your spouses/significant others. No good has ever come of this, in the history of human relationships. Amen, brother! My wife apparently was “stalking” me here at the SDMB, and got all pissed about something I posted _as a freakin’ joke!_ (I said something bad about her mother 😉 ) She dredged it up in a big fight and I just kinda sat there thinking, “Wow. Isn’t this great? I have managed to find a way to get into trouble with the wife when I’m not even around!” I wonder if she knows I scratch my ass and pick my nose (but not in that order) when no one is looking, too. :rolleyes: * * * “But I’ll always regret that Rwandan thing.”-- Bill Clinton ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/17 "2004-04-26T21:30:11Z")
> [@Munch](#): > > To be fair, if the OP had been typing a url into the address bar that started with “www.adu” the web address may have auto-completed. It’s not necessarily a case of cache-browsing. Yeah, I don’t know how many times I’ve craved information on “Adulation” :rolleyes: But ceral, AFF is an interesting enough site without actually looking into their “services.” I suggest the two of you browse it together sometime…just to see what pops up. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/18 "2004-04-26T21:38:58Z")
> [@gatopescado](#): > > Amen, brother! > > My wife apparently **was** “stalking” me here at the SDMB… (Bolding man) What makes you so sure she’s stopped? bwa ha ha ha ha! She could just be waiting until you next post something she doesn’t like. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/19 "2004-04-26T21:40:14Z")
Err… that should be ‘mine’ ---
**Author:** ![Uvula\_Donor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e19adc/32.png) [@Uvula\_Donor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uvula_Donor)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2004, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/20 "2004-04-26T21:52:33Z")
> [@gatopescado](#): > > I wonder if she knows I scratch my ass and pick my nose (but not in that order) when no one is looking, too. :rolleyes: As long as you wash your hands before reaching into the cookie jar, I don’t see the problem here… 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116.md?page=2)