# 'Adult Friend Finder'? Something tells me this isn't just porn. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 26, 2004, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116 "2004-04-26T16:33:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dog80](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6bbea6/32.png) [@Dog80](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dog80)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/21 "2004-04-27T03:29:49Z")
> [@AngelicGemma](#): > > A few months into our relationship I asked to use his computer. He said yes. As I reached the computer he came running behind me and deleted the internet history. Your BF is an amateur :rolleyes: If my GF wanted to use my computer, it would go like this: **Dog80’s GF** : Can I use your computer? **Dog80** : Yes, sure! I am just going to create a new (l)user account for you! (HAR HAR HAR! No snooping around you silly bitch) [Insert evil smiley here!] ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/22 "2004-04-27T17:55:16Z")
> [@AngelicGemma](#): > > “Big busted blondes? But I’m a red head!” Well see, this means you need to be dating **me** instead. I can’t stand big-busted blondes. But I loves me some redheads! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/23 "2004-04-27T18:04:43Z")
Damn, and you live so far away from where I am. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/24 "2004-04-27T18:04:57Z")
> [@AngelicGemma](#): > > (Bolding man) :snapping fingers rhythmically: “_Bolding, man. BOLDing_” 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/25 "2004-04-27T18:16:10Z")
> [@Phase42](#): > > Well see, this means you need to be dating **me** instead. I can’t stand big-busted blondes. But I loves me some redheads! > > 😃 How _you_ doin? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mercury](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e95f7d/32.png) [@Mercury](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mercury)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/26 "2004-04-27T18:29:05Z")
Oh, you can definitely accidentally stumble upon the porn. A few years ago, I sat down at my boyfriend’s computer to check my webmail. I got as far as www.a when the auto complete bar offered me **asiansex** instead of **AOL**. I laughed my ass off for hours. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/27 "2004-04-27T18:37:43Z")
> [@storyteller0910](#): > > See, now, I’m going to have to join in here with a wail of frustration: > > People, **please** stop looking through the browser histories and Internet caches of your spouses/significant others. No good has ever come of this, in the history of human relationships… Indeed. I would find this akin to opening my mail or searching my pockets. I really wouldn’t be happy. ---
**Author:** ![Roland\_Deschain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/73ab20/32.png) [@Roland\_Deschain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roland_Deschain)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/28 "2004-04-27T18:46:57Z")
Adult Friend Finder has some of the best porn galleries out there (and most frequently linked unfortunately my wife doesn’t have your laissez faire attitude towards looking at porn). Furthermore, REAL swingers boards like [www.swingersboard.com](http://www.swingersboard.com) commonly have threads saying how it is in fact a rip off for meeting other people. Here is something basic that women should understand about most men: 1. Most men are pigs. We are like crack addicts when it comes to sex and the Internet is like Snoop Dog with an 18 wheeler full of free blow. Furthermore, it doesn’t matter if a guy that looks like Danny Devito and is somehow dating Princess Diana he is still thinking about getting some on the side (in 99% of the cases). It is hardwired into men’s brains (don’t know why may be evolution or even Satan). That is not to say that every man will cheat only that it’s in his nature to do so. Not every Priest breaks his vows, and not every CEO has ethics violations either. 2. I would submit that Swinging offers one solution to this problem. The basic instinct to “have” other women is satisfied, in a consensual setting. Polygamy fufills the same function but is a good deal less pleasant for the women. Personally, I don’t consider it cheating if my wife has sex with other men so long as I’m able to watch. Then, again I can hardly get her to have sex with me so what do I know? ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2004, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/29 "2004-04-27T20:10:21Z")
> [@AngelicGemma](#): > > I don’t mind my boyfriend lookng at porn, and he knows this. However he still deletes his internet history. But he forgot and I noticed a site called ‘adult friend finder.’ I assumed it was just porn and didn’t think anything of it. > > However, from a comment I heard today it’s not a porn site. It’s a site to hook up with people for sex. I went to the website and it seems to be the case. > > I am so NOT fucking impressed. My boyfriend has some SERIOUS explaining to do. Nope, it’s probably porn. See, one of the worst things about Adult Friend Finder is that they take a bunch of porn images and make up “testimonial” pages, purportedly from people who have hooked up through the service. Some of these pages are pretty hot, but I believe it was real about as much as I believe anything that starts “Dear Penthouse Forum, I never thought it would happen to me…”. BF was probably browsing one of those “testimonial” pages which link to or redirect you to AFF and thought by following the links he could find more of what he was seeing already(and as noted, they do have large galleries). Anyway, I’d just like to n_th_ the suggestion that snooping is bad. Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![Tentacle\_Monster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ba9def/32.png) [@Tentacle\_Monster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tentacle_Monster)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/30 "2004-04-28T03:24:07Z")
Um, **Roland** … that doesn’t quite jibe with the thread you started about [chemical castration](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=252738). What’s the deal? ---
**Author:** ![Tentacle\_Monster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ba9def/32.png) [@Tentacle\_Monster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tentacle_Monster)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/31 "2004-04-28T03:26:08Z")
Um, disregard that. Didn’t catch that last part. ---
**Author:** ![lurkernomore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@lurkernomore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lurkernomore)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/32 "2004-04-28T14:08:50Z")
Just FTR, at least one Doper (former Doper? haven’t seen her since we went signup) is married to a guy she met at AFF. They have meetup parties too. She was endorsing it to a few people I know. It does seem to be for the more sexually outgoing… ---
**Author:** ![chappachula](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d2c977/32.png) [@chappachula](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chappachula)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/33 "2004-04-28T18:07:12Z")
> [@AngelicGemma](#): > > So it became a sort of game. It’s great fun when I manage it though. I get to take the piss. ummm, will somebody please translate that last sentence into English?.(more precisely, American English as understood by somebody over 30) “take the piss”??? In British English that probably refers to getting drunk (I hope!) But for us Yanks, it sounds like, well… something you dont quite want to do. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/34 "2004-04-28T18:37:07Z")
> [@chappachula](#): > > ummm, will somebody please translate that last sentence into English?.(more precisely, American English as understood by somebody over 30) > > “take the piss”??? > In British English that probably refers to getting drunk (I hope!) > But for us Yanks, it sounds like, well… something you dont quite want to do. 😃 Well it _can_ mean getting drunk. But in this case it means I get to make fun of him. Just to be confussing, piss can also be used as in ‘pissed off,’ to mean angry. ---
**Author:** ![WILLASS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/54ee81/32.png) [@WILLASS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WILLASS)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/35 "2004-04-28T23:05:13Z")
> [@chappachula](#): > > ummm, will somebody please translate that last sentence into English?.(more precisely, American English as understood by somebody over 30) > > “take the piss”??? > In British English that probably refers to getting drunk (I hope!) > But for us Yanks, it sounds like, well… something you dont quite want to do. Just wanted to add that almost everyone over thirty in Britain would understand this - it’s not a ‘youth’ saying. ---
**Author:** ![Heart\_On\_My\_Sleeve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/77aa72/32.png) [@Heart\_On\_My\_Sleeve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heart_On_My_Sleeve)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/36 "2004-04-28T23:10:10Z")
This thread inspired me to take a peek at the history on my husband’s computer…not that I would mind what was on there, I was just nosy. No, I’m not being devious because it was just as I suspected: Real Estate and Tubas. That’s IT, I swear!! Isn’t he cute? ---
**Author:** ![Junior\_Spaceman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Junior\_Spaceman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Junior_Spaceman)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2004, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/37 "2004-04-28T23:32:05Z")
I’ve heard that real estate porn and tuba porn are among the fastest growing internet businesses. ---
**Author:** ![SCSimmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e495f1/32.png) [@SCSimmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SCSimmons)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2004, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/38 "2004-04-29T02:01:38Z")
> [@Junior Spaceman](#): > > I’ve heard that real estate porn and tuba porn are among the fastest growing internet businesses. Nobody blows like **TubaDiva**! Erm … I was never here … ---
**Author:** ![nevermore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a587f6/32.png) [@nevermore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nevermore)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2004, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/39 "2004-04-29T02:26:01Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#): > > Yeah, I don’t know how many times I’ve craved information on “Adulation” :rolleyes: hey, maybe’s a fellow [adult swim]mer, man. I used to go to that website all the time, and wonder why my then-boyfriend accused me of going to porn sites when he got pop-ups (stupid! you think I’m so dumb as to use YOUR computer when I’m looking for porn?!). > [@AngelicGemma](#): > > What makes you so sure she’s stopped? bwa ha ha ha ha! She could just be waiting until you next post something she doesn’t like. sweet cream of christ, can I second this one. I can’t tell you HOW many times I got in trouble for some INNOCENT shit I said online taken out of context, each time after I was ASSURED he trusted me and wasn’t going to stalk me on my boards anymore… [yes, snooping = teh s uck] ---
**Author:** ![Achilles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dc4da7/32.png) [@Achilles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Achilles)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2004, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116/40 "2004-04-29T11:54:35Z")
> [@Heart On My Sleeve](#): > > Real Estate and Tubas. That’s IT, I swear!! Isn’t he cute? “Isn’t he cute ?”, “Aren’t you naive ?”… what’s the difference, eh? :D. Like a porn addict doesn’t know how to make his IE history look innocent. Far be it from me to call your hubby a porn addict, but… well, you know… hehehhe… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/adult-friend-finder-something-tells-me-this-isnt-just-porn/242116.md?page=3)