Whenever I hear about some school shooting, you know what I think? Geeze who’d be stupid enough to do something like that! My reasoning…
Personally, I have not been bullied (and I thank God for that). Although, I know that its no fun at all. These bullies take pleasure from trying to make other people’s lives miserable because (usually) there is something wrong with their self esteem or their own life. The only other reason I know of for them being so inconsiderate, rude and just plain mean is that they simply are too ignorant to understand that not everyone is like them. I don’t believe it is right for anyone to be bullied no matter what they look like, act like, background etc.
As far as what to do about it… make sure that you are ALWAYS smarter than the person who is hurting you. This is where the stupidity thing comes in. Anyone can pick up a gun and aim it at someone. All that takes is anger. But for someone to think, hey, what can I do to piss this person off and make them leave me alone? takes a lot more than anger. It takes knowledge, and sense. Violence is bad, always has and always will be. Anyone can be violent.
I can’t tell you what to do to overpower your bully, but I can tell you what not to do. Don’t ever pull a gun on someone, that makes you an idiot, I don’t care your reasoning. The bully is already stupid for bullying you. Don’t make him/her look like some type of hero by killing them and you look like some idiotic freak. You aren’t a freak you are a person, so use your mind and overcome the stupidity of the world.
So you have enemies and you want to kill them. Why? Wouldn’t it be much more fun to be their anonymous, invisible God? It’s really not that hard, if you want it bad enough. Sit down a minute and listen. Here’s what’cha want to do:
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Specifically identify the people who have caused you the greatest harm. Don’t include these peoples’ invariable dim-witted sidekicks who are just along for the ride. They’re invaluable, as your enemys will use these human bowling pins as benchmarks for their own lives.
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Get a computer and either a notebook or a PDA. Begin to learn the computer well. Use your ingenuity to gain access to the school records that will give you the mailing addresses, dates of birth, and especially Social Security numbers of your targets and their parents, if possible. Get their Social Security numbers. Record this data carefully, in a way in which you won’t get caught.
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Realize that you are in a war, and wars can be won in many ways, but your own personal death or incarceration is not one of them. Instead, you must win. Your enemy needs never know that he fought or lost. You know, and that’s what counts.
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How do you win? Well, if you’re a Junior or Senior, you can start by identifying the colleges to which your enemies are applying, and using their addresses and Social Security numbers, formally withdraw their applications. Be sure to include a change of address to another location so that the confirmation letter never arrives. You want to f*ck up Buffy’s life? Don’t kill her. Instead, make sure she doesn’t achieve her life’s goal: to get into Bryn Mawr. That’s a nice, life-changing start, and a nice big chunk out of your target’s self-esteem.
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Destroy their security clearances. Using their vital statistics, enroll them in monitored, undesirable groups via mail and Internet correspondence. Correspond regularly with these groups over the Internet with a Hotmail account accurately registered in their names. Use the Library for this, and wish for the day the bastard throws a party at his own home and you can sneak in and use his own computer. It’ll be worth the beating you risk if you get caught, 'cause your mark won’t work for Uncle Sam in any capacity beyond paper-pusher, if that. Ever.
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Destroy their credit ratings. Heck, you might could even profit off of this, if you’re careful. By now, you probably know the drill.
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Stealing an asshole’s identity entirely is not out of the realm of possibility. Think about it. If you have Dad’s name and SSN, and your asshole’s SSN and date of birth, there’s only one last thing you need to get a certified copy of his birth certificate. Once you’ve got that, disguise’s the limit, my friend.
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It only gets better with time. Want to carry a grudge for a long, long time? No problem. Wait till your target moves out on his own! Order him pizzas when he’s not home, cancel his phone, order him a dozen porno cable channels, file his tax return for him, rename his kids, cash in his 401K… whatever you want, as long as you want to be a felon, too.
Think about it; killing’s too good for these punk-ass amateurs. Why take their lives when you can control them? Now get to work learning that computer.
Oh, and don’t be suprised to discover that when you know you can screw someone’s life up forever, you suddenly don’t feel the need to actually do it. That’s the difference between a long-term plan and a short trigger pull: with a computer, you realize people’s lives are very, very fragile before they go and drown in their own blood on you.
I’ll tell you what carried me through high school:
Dignity.
Just that, dignity. No matter what is said to you, or done to you, stand on your dignity. Dignity is both armor and weapon–it will take what your tormentors throw at you, and return it to them in the form of confusion. Read about the world outside–study literature, philosophy, history, or anything that broadens your awareness. Know more than your enemies. Find horizons beyond your private hell, and look at them when the bullies and the cliques start in on you. If a bully sees fear or misery in your eyes, it will encourage him; a gaze focussed on a world larger than he has ever seen will intimidate him. Don’t cower–hold yourself upright, and look your foes in the eyes. No matter what you’re really feeling, they will see their own worst fears there. Oh, yes, they have them–and they don’t know how to cope with them. That is their great motivation, to ease their fears by inflicting fear on others.
Hold these thoughts to you: You are strong, intelligent, and you know things that they cannot possibly understand. You are beyond them, and so they fear you. Your dignity is the rock upon which they will shatter themselves.
There is no dignity in murder.
Balance, Luckily I never killed anyone, but I wish you had been there to assure me of this when Jeanette smashed that whole blueberry pie in my face in front of the whole cafeteria.
I didn’t feel very proud or filled with dignity. I was just a tool for their sick enjoyment.
Not much has changed 
jarbaby
Hey kids, listen to Sofa King instead of me, his plan is better, and you can learn skills that will take you far in life!
My adivce would be: DO IT. Do it big. Make your mark.
And remember to kill yourself afterwards, unless revelling in your instant infamy is part of your plan. Remember, once you commit, you can never go back.
Coldfire, what you said was incredibly cold and heartless, but your 2nd reply suggests that perhaps you are merely ignorant of the perspective that exists within a potential mass killer’s mind. I suggest you take a look at my school shooters thread and pay specific attention not to my posts (which I admit are a little psychotic) but to the replies by posters who identify with my point of view.
J.E.T.
Jeremy’s Evil Twin: I am completely ignorant of what goes on in a mass murderers mind, and since I’m not a psychologist, I will likely remain completely ignorant in that respect.
I already explained in what light my remarks should be seen: if the kid has passed the threshold and is going on a murdering rampage anyway, I’d prefer him to just kill himself instead of (possibly random) others. I don’t see how that is cold or heartless. I’m just assuming that the mass murdered to be can’t be argued with anymore. An assumption which seems to come true in practice, unfortunately.
If they do that, they would not be making their mark, but aping the actions of other lost children.
I reiterate, (as posted in the thread you linked here) by turning to violence against yourself or others, you are letting the bullies, and me-tooers who laughed or stood by and did nothing, control and ruin your life. After such an action (and you are right, you can never go back), there can never be true beauty in your life again.
And here is something to read for those who may be contemplating suicide [thanks to Melin from FFF for the link].
On the contrary. The bullies won by putting me through 20 years of life in near-constant misery, both inside and outside mental institutions. Taking revenge on them (or transferring such revenge to “innocent” bystanders) is an act of usurping the system. At least, that’s the way I see it.
Coldfire: My apologies, I read something into your post that apparently wasn’t there.
J.E.T.
I, too, have seen the inside of a mental institution, and have been on the receiving end of bullying and tormenting. I can’t say that I have had better or worse experiences than yours, because I don’t know what those experiences are.
But I believe that you become worse than the bullies themselves by targeting others rather than facing your inner demons. I hope that is not the path you will choose.
… but I can understand the idea.
I’ve mentioned in other threads that I walked that line myself… if I hadn’t found refuge in being a freak (hehehe)I may very well have done something Columbine-ish on my own… although I know how to shoot, so my body count would have been much higher… simple Weaver stance, sights that are zeroed in and better placement of high explosives make a world of difference.
However, I managed to make it without to much trouble (although I did carry a knife around most of my Junior and Senior year) and now I am getting the best revenge.
Every now and again I see one of my tormentors… working fast food, or something similar… I just smile, get my food and move on…
I don’t know what advice I would offer. I would say ‘Don’t do it’ but if I were them I would want to do it so bad (Hell if I knew how to shoot and had access to guns I might have done it) Same with the suicide thing.
Those people that have said ‘It’s not that long’ and to think that it’s only 4 years… well you have to remember it’s not just 4 years (or 3 as if the case in Canadian high school) The bullying didn’t start when they arrived in high school. This started long ago in elementary or junior high when the teachers refused to listen to the complaints or did and nothing changed.
My life was great until I moved and became the new kid in grade 2. From then on I was called names and didn’t have any friends until I moved again 7 years later. According to my Dad I was a little snot when we moved and probably wasn’t very nice but that does not make 7 years of my life feel any better. Nor does it account for 7 years of teasing. Grade 9 was better and I have slowly felt better about myself (now I don’t feel as bad but that voice that Garfield226 mentioned is still there to this day) but in grade 8 if I could have walked into that school with a gun I would have. For 7 years I was alone in the school and even Guides didn’t help. I was the outcast in Guides as well so the only thing left to me was books and that is where I turned. We did talk to the principal and the teachers and the people who teased but nothing ever changed. Eventually I was even called a tattle-tale by the teacher. Just remembering now makes me want to go back and take a gun with me.
Quite a few times I’ve contemplated suicide as well and came fairly close to actually doing something but then I realized I wasn’t able to do that. Plus smothering yourself doesn’t work too well either.
I don’t really have advice for the kid described in the op… just find something where you can put all your energy and rage and try to let it go. It’s tough. I know… I was there. But try to find your own solution and in the end show them that you are better then them by not stooping to their level. Get your education and get the hell out of there. The next time you see them at your reunion you can laugh your ass off because you are doing so well and they are living paycheck to paycheck.
The trick to getting over bullying is all in your own mind.
I’ve been picked on, harrassed, made fun of, you name it, all through school from grade one to this year even, for different things. In the beginning it was hard to deal with because I was young and thought that what other people thought of me actually mattered. I now realize that it DOESN’T matter what people in school think of me. All that matters is if I can stand being around myself and if I’m making myself and the people I care for happy.
To get over the fact that some people in high school don’t like me, I focus on getting my work done and getting into a good university so that I can feel proud for making it on my own without anyone’s help. Sure, life won’t be peaches and cream after you graduate, but you will be more free and you’ll have some sort of control over who you talk to and socialize with. You won’t be thrown into a melting pot of moronic kids who find it their duty to taunt you. Cherish the few friends you have and ignore the rest. It’s all about focusing on your life and your future.
Good luck.
I’m sorry I wasn’t there to say it then, but I’m saying it now. I’ve read enough of what you’ve posted here to know that it’s true.
The most important time to maintain the appearance of dignity is in the midst of an indignity. If you can’t feel it, pretend that you do–eventually the pretense will become reality. I felt no better when one of my nemeses poured a half-gallon of stinking, vile water from a biology experiment down my back, but the only sign I allowed myself to show was a cold glance…and sitting directly in front of him in every class for the rest of the day. No matter how silly you look, or how you smell, or what-have-you, take it stoically–then make them regret it.
So change it! It’s gone on too long already.