# Advice Please: Sister in play I don't want to see **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 23, 2005, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175 "2005-01-23T01:30:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/21 "2005-01-23T06:45:15Z")
C’mon, it’s your sister performing on stage. Don’t be a selfish twat. (pun intended). Suck it up and see her. ---
**Author:** ![DMark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@DMark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMark)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 7:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/22 "2005-01-23T07:32:10Z")
I was in a lot of theater productions and other than my late grandmother, not one of my family members ever bothered to attend. Decades later, I still find it rude and inconsiderate of them. Granted, the VM is not everybody’s cup of tea…but it is not horrible, and considering I am a Gay man who didn’t hate it, that says a lot. There are actually some burst out laughing moments. Go. ---
**Author:** ![Q.N.Jones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/3da27b/32.png) [@Q.N.Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q.N.Jones)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/23 "2005-01-23T07:38:36Z")
Suck it up and do it as a favor to your sister. It’s only a couple of hours. ---
**Author:** ![Bill\_H](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a5b964/32.png) [@Bill\_H](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bill_H)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/24 "2005-01-23T10:02:51Z")
It’s the most horrible thing you’ll ever see. By far. Especially if you don’t have a vagina. It’s unfunny; it’s anti-funny; it’s practically unholy in it’s lack of funniness. and fun-ness. Especially if you don’t have a vagina. But this is your sister and this is important to her. And if you’re me anyway, that’s pretty important. Go see her, but bring a set of headphones and something loud and masculine. Nine inch nails might be a nice choice. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/25 "2005-01-23T11:47:20Z")
Payback’s a bitch dude. Remeber all those times you gave your sister nugies(sp) in front of her friends and at school? Well, now it’s time to pay the Piper… Seriously though I watched this thing on HBO. Don’t ask me why. I guess I just did it because I felt like I was spying in on the girls locker room. After words I spent the next several hours crying in the shower curled in the fetal position trying to scrub myself clean with a barrillo pad. I’m involved in a twelve step program now… ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/26 "2005-01-23T12:21:08Z")
> [@Shirley Ujest](#): > > When the off-broadway play, " The Penis Has Landed\*" comes (heee) to town … Now, now. Everyone knows it’s “Penis Ensued”… ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/27 "2005-01-23T12:43:15Z")
This is a chance for you to do something Really Nice™ for your sister, and all it costs you is one cheap ticket and a couple hours of your time. Or you could sit home and play video games/watch TV _again._ Now, if it’s really that horrible, you can tell her afterwards that she Owes You Big™ for putting you through it. That alone is worth the price of a ticket. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/28 "2005-01-23T12:59:25Z")
> [@HPL](#): > > I don’t insist she go to things that interest only me. I’ll mention I’m invovled with something, but if she doesn’t want to come, I don’t usally care. But it doesn’t matter how you would feel if you were her. WHat matters is what she feels: she’s made it clear that your presense would mean a great deal to her. It’s up to you to decide if you want to give her the gift she’s asked for. I’d go, myself. It’s just two hours. Make your grocery list in your head, think about naked people, plan your next vacation, confront whatever personal deamons you’ve been avoiding thinking about this last month. Hell, a couple hours of uninterpted thinking time is good for the soul in any case. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/29 "2005-01-23T14:38:52Z")
I think you should go, she is your sister after all. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/30 "2005-01-23T16:24:17Z")
Jesus, after reading all the reviews here, I just _gotta_ see the Vagina Monologues now. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/31 "2005-01-23T16:34:28Z")
speaking also as an actress, I have to say that what makes acting worthwhile is looking out and seeing the people you care about supporting you. My husband is an actor and i’ve had to go see plays MULTIPLE times that I absolutely abhor, a three and a half hour king lear that he wasn’t even in the second act…but I went because it’s way to show that I support and love him. Also, Brutus says you shouldn’t go, and we all know that doing the opposite of his suggestions is always the right way to go 😉 ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/32 "2005-01-23T16:38:00Z")
Is this her debut performance? If yes, you must go. Have you seen her in plays before? If no, you must go. Will other people be there to cheer her on? If no, you must go. Is she really nervous and excited about this thing? If yes, you must go. Even if you’ve seen the play before, don’t you think it will be different with someone you know in it? You can go to sleep during the other monologues and just pay attention when it’s your sister’s turn. I think it would be nice for you to make the sacrifice. It sucks going through all the stress of rehearsing and not seeing anyone in the audience who’s there just for you. Not going might bring unnecessary sadness and hurt that would far exceed your two-hour-long discomfort. But if you really really really don’t want to go, let your sister know that you won’t be there. In other words, don’t say you’ll be there and then not show up. That’s the worse. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/33 "2005-01-23T17:33:23Z")
The Vagina monologes is a piece of PC dreck, but it’s your sister so it would be a good thing to go. A _mitzvah_, if you will ;j . Besides wouldn’t the novelty of seeing your sister on stage be at least partial compensation for the tedious dreckishness of it all? Also note **Danalan’s** post above. Though to succeed with any of those girls you’d have to put on your best[weenie](http://redwing.hutman.net/%7Emreed/warriorshtm/weenie.htm) impression, and listen to aggrieved tirades about how all men are [insert bad thing here]. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/34 "2005-01-23T18:59:37Z")
Please go. When I’ve had bit parts in community theater productions, it meant so much to me when my friends and family came. If you can’t stand the thought of the play, bring a book or a pair of headphones and an iPod, then just pay attention when your sister is out there. You may be bored out of your skull, but will you really regret going once the play is over? ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/35 "2005-01-23T22:52:09Z")
VM always struck me as the lamest crap I’ve ever had the pleasure to sail right past on HBO. But Dude, it’s your sister! Tho I disagree with Brutus’s response, I love the way he phrased it! ---
**Author:** ![TV\_time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f17d59/32.png) [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2005, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/36 "2005-01-23T23:47:19Z")
1. It’s not that bad. 2. She’s your sister. 3. Hi Opal! 4. You can play the guilt card for the next 20 years whenever you need something. ---
**Author:** ![Heart\_On\_My\_Sleeve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/77aa72/32.png) [@Heart\_On\_My\_Sleeve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heart_On_My_Sleeve)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/37 "2005-01-24T01:25:54Z")
Bart: “Yeah, and a good dad wouldn’t miss his son’s little league games!” Homer: “I told you, I find them boring!” There’s a reason that’s funny. Go and support your sister…it’ll mean a lot to her. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Brian\_Johnson\_Washington\_DC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8dc957/32.png) [@Brian\_Johnson\_Washington\_DC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brian_Johnson_Washington_DC)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/38 "2005-01-24T02:11:56Z")
Speaking as an actor who moved away from my home town to study theatre and music and never performed where my parents could attend, I say you need to go see it to support her. I got a late start in my life as an actor and my folks never started asking about how things were going until I had been at it for about 7 or 8 years; guess by then they had figured I was taking it seriously. At any rate, they finally got to see me in a show in 2003 - 11 years after I left home to study performance - because they were in town on vacation. Again: I"m sure it would mean alot to her so just suck it up and go. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![violacrane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/c57346/32.png) [@violacrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/violacrane)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/39 "2005-01-24T02:22:02Z")
> [@Shirley Ujest](#): > > Another vote to Go. > > When the off-broadway play, " The Penis Has Landed\*" comes (heee) to town and you audition and win a minor part, you can force her to sit through a testerone festival of flatulence, burps and sportstalk. The penis as a sport stalk tee hee. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175/40 "2005-01-24T02:40:47Z")
> [@](#): > > I don’t insist she go to things that interest only me. IMO there’s a significant difference between going _with_ you to something, and going to something because of you. > [@](#): > > I’ll mention I’m invovled with something, but if she doesn’t want to come, I don’t usally care. You should go. She ought to go to your things as well, since siblings who are lucky enough to get along should support each other. If you can’t count on your siblings to witness your bravery on stage, who can you count on? Besides, it might not be as bad as you think. My brother had a minor part in a musical(a non-singing part), and I **hate** musicals, but it wasn’t half bad. A lot of the strange theater things I went to because of him or friends (for some reason English and Theater majors are often friends) turned out to be a lot more interesting than I imagined they would be. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advice-please-sister-in-play-i-dont-want-to-see/286175.md?page=3)