# Advise me on using Tinder! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 7, 2017, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650 "2017-03-07T21:48:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Aeschines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aeschines/32/16251_2.png) [@Aeschines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aeschines)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2017, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/1 "2017-03-07T21:48:58Z")
OK, finally ditched the Windows phone from 2012 and got an iPhone–I can use apps now, whoo hoo! I plan to do Tinder. I have looots of experience doing online dating on OKCupid and POF. So I don’t need _generic_ advice, but I _do_ need advice about how to get the most out of Tinder: • Tell me if I should skip it altogether. These things are changing all the time, and for all I know, Tinder sucks now. • What are good strategies for using the app specifically? (White hat, not scammy stuff.) • How does the app try to charge you or rip you off? (I saw that there were “in-app purchases”–I hope it’s not a Candy Crush nickel-and-dime grift.) • Etc. Thanks in advance for your wisdom! ---
**Author:** ![wellanuff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/57b2e6/32.png) [@wellanuff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wellanuff)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/2 "2017-03-08T01:18:42Z")
Well, you might want to watch the most recent episode of Family Guy (March 5th). …especially if you are looking to be talked out of it. Entire main plot was about Tinder, and included a song and dance number entitled (I think) “Tinder Makes You Gross.” Sorry, I don’t have any helpful, real world Tinder experience. Never used it. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/3 "2017-03-08T01:55:54Z")
use the smallest pieces possible, that way your fire will get going quickly. ---
**Author:** ![Aeschines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aeschines/32/16251_2.png) [@Aeschines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aeschines)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/4 "2017-03-08T02:40:45Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > use the smallest pieces possible, that way your fire will get going quickly. When I was in the Boy Scouts, one method was dryer lint. Doesn’t anyone here use the APP?! ---
**Author:** ![Amateur\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/59ef9b/32.png) [@Amateur\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amateur_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/5 "2017-03-08T02:43:18Z")
All I know about it is that left flicking is bad. Or good. Or something. ---
**Author:** ![nightshadea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@nightshadea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nightshadea)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/6 "2017-03-08T02:47:55Z")
ive seen it and there were some serious people still on it but there were so many joke profiles on it … ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/7 "2017-03-08T02:59:45Z")
> [@Aeschines](#): > > When I was in the Boy Scouts, one method was dryer lint. > > Doesn’t anyone here use the APP?! I’ve used it, but with no success. Don’t have any tips that might help. ---
**Author:** ![Aeschines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aeschines/32/16251_2.png) [@Aeschines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aeschines)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/8 "2017-03-08T13:59:21Z")
Am I to interpret by the lack of responses that Tinder is no longer the “it” thing when it comes to “cyber-dating” (lol)? ---
**Author:** ![Waxwinged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c2a13f/32.png) [@Waxwinged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waxwinged)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/9 "2017-03-08T14:04:11Z")
There’s an app/dating site, Bumble, which is primarily woman-driven. I have a friend who’s had relatively shoddy results from Tinder scored a very decent long-term relationship on that. Anecdotal evidence, of course, but…eh. It’s a data point. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/10 "2017-03-08T14:05:14Z")
Aha – finally a clue. So, it’s a cyber-dating site, right? ---
**Author:** ![MichaelEmouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/michaelemouse/32/101_2.png) [@MichaelEmouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelEmouse)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/11 "2017-03-08T14:16:58Z")
> [@Waxwinged](#): > > There’s an app/dating site, Bumble, which is primarily woman-driven. I have a friend who’s had relatively shoddy results from Tinder scored a very decent long-term relationship on that. Anecdotal evidence, of course, but…eh. It’s a data point. Is your friend a man or woman? How are the dynamics of Bumble different aside from first messages being less spammy? ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/12 "2017-03-08T14:22:28Z")
> [@Waxwinged](#): > > There’s an app/dating site, Bumble, which is primarily woman-driven. I have a friend who’s had relatively shoddy results from Tinder scored a very decent long-term relationship on that. Anecdotal evidence, of course, but…eh. It’s a data point. I’ve tried that as well. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/13 "2017-03-08T14:47:20Z")
> [@Aeschines](#): > > Am I to interpret by the lack of responses that Tinder is no longer the “it” thing when it comes to “cyber-dating” (lol)? or, like me, never used one at all. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/14 "2017-03-08T14:58:17Z")
> [@MichaelEmouse](#): > > Is your friend a man or woman? > > How are the dynamics of Bumble different aside from first messages being less spammy? The only difference is what happens after a match. On Bumble, the woman must make the first reply. If she doesn’t do so within 24 hours, the match disappears. I have no idea how it works for same sex matches. ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/15 "2017-03-08T17:23:06Z")
I’m married so I haven’t used Tinder, but many of my single friends do, and it’s universally considered a hook-up app, not a dating app. ---
**Author:** ![Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barkis_is_Willin)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/16 "2017-03-08T17:30:56Z")
I’m also married, so no first hand experience. But my coworker in his mid-20s uses Tinder and has met a few girls from the app. My understanding is that he is pretty much the target age demographic and that most users are not looking for a long term relationship. As a side note, I remember back then thinking that a Windows phone might be cool. So glad I averted that crisis. ---
**Author:** ![Aeschines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aeschines/32/16251_2.png) [@Aeschines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aeschines)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/17 "2017-03-08T17:34:57Z")
> [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](#): > > As a side note, I remember back then thinking that a Windows phone might be cool. So glad I averted that crisis. It was in 2012, and I liked it then. But the apps simply haven’t followed the platform. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/18 "2017-03-08T17:45:28Z")
> [@Aeschines](#): > > It was in 2012, and I liked it then. But the apps simply haven’t followed the platform. There are second party apps for most stuff not natively supported, like 6tin for tinder ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/19 "2017-03-08T17:59:37Z")
> [@zoid](#): > > There are second party apps for most stuff not natively supported, like 6tin for tinder that all depends on the service provider not getting all bent out of shape and blocking them, like with 6snap. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2017, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650/20 "2017-03-08T18:08:21Z")
> [@Aeschines](#): > > Am I to interpret by the lack of responses that Tinder is no longer the “it” thing when it comes to “cyber-dating” (lol)? There may be a certain embarrassment factor in admitting to using it. I’m entirely out of the dating world, but I’ve always heard Tinder described as where one goes to look for short-term sex (and only that). Users may worry that admitting to using it could lead to slut-shaming or other people thinking they’re a PUA. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/advise-me-on-using-tinder/781650.md?page=2)