If woman: Just throw up a couple of photos and then put your phone in the freezer so it doesn’t overheat.
If man: Write something in your profile and try to avoid the cliches (you like to travel, you work hard and play hard, you’re laid-back). When you match, you will have to send the first message. I’ve only been messaged first by women on Tinder three times, ever. Also, you have to ask her out fast. Like within a day. They have so many men who write back and forth for weeks that if they sense you won’t do it, they’ll just drop you.
Don’t ever super-like anyone, that’s lame. I’ve never paid for any of the features so I don’t know how much value they add.
That’s how it used to be perceived, but I think that’s changed. Of the women who have content in their profiles, I’d say almost half of them say “no hookups.”
Man. Yeah, your point about having to message women seems on point. The only thing being that I actually got messaged a significant amount (for the first time) on POF the last time I did it. No idea why. Never was that way on OKC.
One of the things I have enjoyed least about online dating is the “angry chick rants” that some women perceive as being a great advertisement for them as a partner. So tiresome. Though I fully recognize that (a small but incredibly annoying and disheartening minority of) men are pigs online dating.
I have Tinder and got many matches but never did anything with them. However, I have a coworker that plays online dating like a video game and he swears by Bumble. I downloaded it myself when this thread reminded me of it again and the quality does seem to be a lot higher at least for my demographic (40+ year old professionals) than anything else I have seen.
There are some seriously attractive, successful and well-educated women on it. The funny thing was that I only played with the swiping process for less than 10 minutes and already ran across 3 women that I know personally but it had no way to know that at least directly. I don’t know if that is by chance or if they have some unique matching algorithm but it seems a little too coincidental. That reminds me of the time that Match.com kept trying to set me up with my ex-wife as my match of the day.
I will have to see if I get any replies because it is all female driven on the initiation side.
Good Lord, you’re asking a message board full of geriatrics about a dating app? Don’t you know that SDMB is an anagram of AARP? I mean, look at this post:
Dude’s never even heard of Tinder. He called it a “site!” :smack: You’re asking a group of people who want to feign ignorance and brag about it. Check’it:
:smack: He knows damn well it’s “swiping,” not “flicking,” but won’t admit it.
So you might want to save this board for questions about the black ‘n’ white guy who sings the math song and the ones about Communists.
Two hours after I joined Bumble, I now have two matches that they initiated. Should I pick a Distribution Manager for a famous company or a VP of a very large financial company? I have 24 hours or they are gone for good. Both sound a little intense to me based on a one line description (my ex-wife is an executive VP and I know from experience that introduces all kinds of problems). Maybe I should go with the stylists if they pick me but they aren’t getting any money. This is a hard game to win.
I may need to shoot for a pretty nurse or teacher. I made the mistake of going out with a lawyer a few times. The only reason I kept doing it was so we could continue our arguments from the last time and that wasn’t ever going to work but it was fun in its own way while it lasted. However, we were wayyy too similar and could cold read each other like we were psychics playing a game of chess. You can’t have a romantic relationship like that though.
I am a woman (39) and I met my current (and I think very long-term) partner on Tinder. When I went on there I wasn’t looking for anything specific. For me short term sex would have been on with the right person but I was also open to more - and I got it! My boyfriend had the same attitude, so if it is only a hook-up app then we were lucky to have randomly found the only two exceptions. In any case, you never really know what any given relationship is going to be like. My friend had a four month thing with a guy who wrote “no strings” in his profile.
As you might guess, I’m a big “believer” and don’t get the ickiness about it - it allows you to meet people, the rest is up to you.
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as with dating apps or sites, it allows you to meet people. It not The Magic Perfect Relationship Generator. Adjust expectations accordingly.
If it’s the “it” thing depends on where you are. I’m in Italy and it is. Bumble doesn’t exist. But we live about 5 years in the past, so I couldn’t say for you.
if you can, have photos that show who you are, for example playing your instrument, doing your sport, being outdoors if you like being outdoors etc.
do use the option to write something. My SO had me at the words “good book”, but then I’m an easy lay.
And yes, what was said upthread is true: respond fast, chat a bit and meet up. It prevents people losing interest, or the dreaded build-up then let-down of over-heated expectations.
Good luck. Dating apps/sites can be a bit of hard slog, but it only takes one and you never really know where they might hide.
It hasn’t been mentioned yet that both Tinder and Bumble tie into Facebook. They will show any friends you have in common and things you like in common such as bands, restaurants or products.
Probably because every dot-com domain name consisting of an English word or a series of letters resembling an English word has already been taken and the owners of bumble.com were willing to sell it for a reasonable price. They didn’t want to call their service xmf4kd8kc77.com – it just isn’t very catchy.
The naming for all web startups is primarily driven by the availability of the domain name.
And their slogan is cute “Find your honey.” (Bumble bee, get it?)
dear god… how did i not put 2 and 2 together QwQ and idk man u could prolly make that other name sound catchy… put enuff cute giffs of cats on it… itll sell like hotcakes
No, I saw a joke about it in some uber-trendy ad and it stuck with me as the latter.
I’ve been married for over 35 years of around 40 years of adulthood, and had only about two years to actively date quite a while back. So no, I don’t know shit about dating apps. Ripped quite a swath through the local alternative paper’s voicemail dating system, though, and I’ve never lacked for companionship. Anyone who thinks the tech matters… probably doesn’t know any of the real secrets to dating success.
ETA: “swiping” means “petty stealing” in my vocabulary, which is why I find the modern use hilarious.
