# Age difference at first straight sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 12, 2012, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228 "2012-08-12T00:09:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/1 "2012-08-12T00:09:12Z")
All right, here’s the question that is suggested by one or two recent threads: What was the age difference between you and your partner when you first had heterosexual sex? ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/2 "2012-08-12T00:13:21Z")
“heterosexual sex”: is that intercourse or very (very) heavy petting? (Not that it matters in my case) ---
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/3 "2012-08-12T00:16:05Z")
Intercourse, i.e., when you lost your virginity. ---
**Author:** ![D-bear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@D-bear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D-bear)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/4 "2012-08-12T00:17:19Z")
I’ve never had heterosexual sex and at age 41, am unlikely to do so. I had sex with an 18 year old guy when I was 18. It seems that as I age, my tastes in men age as well. When I was in my 20’s old men (in their 40’s) looked like creepy old pervs and now that I’m in my 40’s guys in their 20’s look like children to me. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/5 "2012-08-12T00:32:45Z")
She was (and is, I suppose) exactly 6 years, 6 months, and 6 days older than I am. ---
**Author:** ![Lancia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lancia/32/17174_2.png) [@Lancia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lancia)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/6 "2012-08-12T00:33:22Z")
I was 19, she was a couple months away from 22. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/7 "2012-08-12T00:39:08Z")
> [@D-bear](#): > > I’ve never had heterosexual sex and at age 41, am unlikely to do so. I had sex with an 18 year old guy when I was 18. It seems that as I age, my tastes in men age as well. When I was in my 20’s old men (in their 40’s) looked like creepy old pervs and now that I’m in my 40’s guys in their 20’s look like children to me. Sorry to hear that. Maybe a little makeup, lose some weight, stop eating garlic and opening your mouth would help? 🙂 To answer the OP, less than a year difference. I think. I can’t be sure who was the first. There were so many that were _almost_ the first. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/8 "2012-08-12T00:45:40Z")
Almost the exact same age. Within a couple months. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/9 "2012-08-12T01:17:05Z")
I was not quite 16, he was 18. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/10 "2012-08-12T01:19:35Z")
None of the above. We were born on the same day and year. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/11 "2012-08-12T01:19:48Z")
I was 23, I think? 24? I want to say she was 27. ---
**Author:** ![qualityleashdog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/9f8e36/32.png) [@qualityleashdog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/qualityleashdog)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/12 "2012-08-12T02:07:28Z")
39 years older. I was 16. ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/13 "2012-08-12T02:42:20Z")
My first was about four hours younger than I. Part of how we got to know each other was the discovery that we shared our birthday. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/14 "2012-08-12T02:44:53Z")
I was 18. She was 23. ---
**Author:** ![Iggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iggy/32/3364_2.png) [@Iggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Iggy)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/15 "2012-08-12T03:05:17Z")
I was 9 days younger than she, having both been born in the same hospital. Her mother has a photo where I am in the background in the neighboring isolette. We met again in our teens and figured out our earlier “meeting” after baby pictures were hauled out to embarrass her. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/16 "2012-08-12T03:12:51Z")
> [@qualityleashdog](#): > > 39 years older. I was 16. was this consensual?:eek: are you male or female, if I may ask? eta: I was 16, he was 21 ---
**Author:** ![manila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e5b9ba/32.png) [@manila](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/manila)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/17 "2012-08-12T03:34:52Z")
I was a week shy of twelve and she was 19 ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/18 "2012-08-12T04:08:37Z")
I was newly 16. She… fibbed a bit, it turned out. Ho boy. ---
**Author:** ![Lancia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lancia/32/17174_2.png) [@Lancia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lancia)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/19 "2012-08-12T04:38:24Z")
> [@qualityleashdog](#): > > 39 years older. I was 16. > [@manila](#): > > I was a week shy of twelve and she was 19 > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > I was newly 16. She… fibbed a bit, it turned out. > > Ho boy. I must say, this is one of the few times I’m actually curious about someone else’s sex life. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2012, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/20 "2012-08-12T05:41:54Z")
> [@Musicat](#): > > Sorry to hear that. Maybe a little makeup, lose some weight, stop eating garlic and opening your mouth would help? 🙂 > > To answer the OP, less than a year difference. I think. I can’t be sure who was the first. There were so many that were _almost_ the first. I’m flabbergasted. Did you read D-Paul’s post? Or the thread? What he/she expressed was a healthy attraction to people of their own age. And you’re sorry about that? They should lose weight and stop eating garlic? Blind arrogance is becoming to no one, and I should know. But at least I’ve known enough to be ashamed. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228.md?page=2)